Why would a man marry you only if he wants to make out with you first?

A few days ago, Tiankongyongyuanweilan accidentally posted a Weibo post, the content of which is as follows: [Men's feelings towards women] What is a man's feeling towards a woman? The first feeling a man has towards a woman is whether he wants to sleep with you. This is the premise. Only when he wants to sleep with you will he think about future marriage, treat you well, and be responsible for you for life. Everything else is just an excuse!

When this Weibo post was released, it received recognition and support from the majority of netizens, but there were still many netizens (especially female netizens) who were indignant and opposed it, some of whom were still die-hard fans of Sky Is Forever Blue.

I have written so many emotional articles and expressed so many of my own views on marriage and gender. There have always been some criticisms, but I just laugh them off. To be honest, it’s not that I’m arrogant, nor that I don’t care about the feelings of my readers, but I have always been adhering to my own principles in writing, sticking to the facts, speaking from my heart, and not telling lies.

However, regarding yesterday’s Weibo post, I still want to say a few more words. In fact, the core point of my Weibo post is just one sentence: A man will only marry you if he wants to sleep with you first.

The Sky is Always Blue has always believed that for any normal man, his sex and love for women are often inseparable. In fact, most men are motivated by the desire to have sex with women. When a man meets a woman for the first time, he will have a minimum evaluation and impression of her from her appearance, her figure, her clean demeanor, and her interesting eyes. Then he will subconsciously and deep in his heart want to continue to associate with you or continue to understand your inner side, and gradually build up feelings in future interactions. The vague feeling that men have when they see a woman for the first time is the bud. Whether this bud can emerge or not, there is a hurdle that the man must pass in his heart, that is, whether he wants to sleep with that woman, or whether he has the urge to sleep with her. This is the premise. Only after passing this hurdle can he think about future marriage, think about being good to the woman, and think about being responsible for the woman for a lifetime. Everything else is just an excuse!

Of course, the idea that the sky is always blue cannot be imposed 100% on all men, especially some women who think they are special and are lying in a honeypot, or even some arrogant or ignorant. There is no need for them to figure out the problem here, because this really has nothing to do with happiness after marriage, and has nothing to do with whether your man will change his mind in the future. It is just a psychological or physiological precursor process for a man, and this process may even take only a moment. Even men themselves can be sure that such thoughts have never occurred to them, and tell the woman around him about it. As for whether the marriage is happy or not, or whether the man will change his mind, that is not something that can be determined by the "urge to go to bed" at the time. This impulse can only represent the moment when the impulse arises and cannot restrict the man's future.

Therefore, the process and results of the same impulse can be completely different. There should be at least two types: one is for men with some quality, some connotation, and some sense of responsibility. This kind of man will most likely use the impulse of wanting to have sex to continue to dig into the other person's deeper problems such as spirit, character, and values, and thus start a soul-to-soul relationship with you, and then marry you, have children, and be responsible for you for a lifetime; the other is, they will not think too much, they just think that they fell in love with you at first sight, and then go to bed with you at all costs. As for whether there will be a relationship in the future, whether they can get married, and whether they will be responsible for you for a lifetime, those are all things to think about later.

Of course, the last key point that must be emphasized in The Sky is Always Blue is that for a man to fall in love with you and to have the urge to go to bed with you is essentially a necessary but not sufficient condition. It is necessary for a man to want to sleep with you, but it is not necessarily sufficient. It does not mean that as long as a man wants to sleep with you, he will definitely fall in love with you. Or maybe because he had the feeling of wanting to sleep with you at the beginning, you can conclude that the relationship between you is not pure and that the woman has suffered a loss. Thinking and doing are always two different things. The sky is always blue simply expresses this relationship in a simpler, more intuitive, or even more explicit way. If women really think like this, it only shows their own narrow-mindedness.