This kind of woman is the most popular when dating

Did you finally attend a blind date at the urging of your family and friends, but the result was not satisfactory? If it happened once or twice, you can say that you just didn't meet the right person. If this result occurs several times, you should consider whether you should change your approach.

Among the huge group of leftover women, rising prices and secular economic and social views account for a part, while a relatively large number of them are left alone due to personal reasons. For example, an introverted personality, a small social circle, and being overly picky about one's future partner, etc. When you reach a certain age, getting married and having children naturally becomes the agenda.

For older women who are waiting to get married, the most basic and effective way is to get to know more people of the opposite sex and expand their social circle. In today's society, there are many ways to achieve this goal, especially the development of the Internet has provided a lot of opportunities.

Among the many ways to get to know the opposite sex, blind dates are a relatively reliable way for older women who are waiting to get married to get to know the opposite sex. In traditional blind dates, before the man and woman meet, they have already been preliminarily screened by friends or relatives . From this perspective, blind dates are relatively less risky than getting to know the opposite sex on your own. Although it is a bit old-fashioned, I still want to recommend this method to all the girls who are about to get married. The development of modern economic society has forced women to strive for their careers. Relatively speaking, they have less time and space for themselves, and do not have as much energy and attention. In addition, they have spent more than ten years studying, and if they are not careful, they will be left with nothing. Then I had to worry about my personal affairs in a hurry, which was like a forced march.

Nowadays, blind dates for leftover women have become the mainstream of marriage for contemporary people. However, after going to all kinds of blind dates, big and small, why are the results always unsatisfactory? Is it because your attitude is not right, or do you simply not know how to properly deal with a blind date ceremony, how to start the conversation, what to communicate, what are the taboos, etc. Let's take a look at some tips that can help you.

First: Create an "opening point"

Instead of having others awkwardly strike up conversations with you, create some topics of your own. After all, it is difficult for both parties to find a reason to speak up. You can prepare some props in advance, such as a book, a beautiful brooch,

The new mobile phone you just bought, or a question you have to ask him...all of these can be topics for chatting him up. For each other, getting familiar with each other as quickly as possible seemed like a political task. All you have to do is make the task go forward without making each other feel disgusted.

Second: Don’t talk too much

There are so many ways to have a conversation. People who work in technical fields are used to talking endlessly about their professional knowledge. This is called information-based conversation, which is obviously not attractive.

Others don't talk about work, but about themselves, and don't let others interrupt them. This method is a little bit better than the above, but it is only a one-way conversation. The other party has no sense of participation and certainly cannot experience the fun and attraction of the conversation, and you cannot get the information you want.

Obtaining the other person's information is also one of the tasks of a blind date. Otherwise, how can you know if he is suitable or not?

The smart approach would be to have a two-way conversation, knowing how to create appropriate topics during the conversation and attract the other party to join in the conversation. This is the first step to creating charm.

Third: Try to find common ground in conversation

When talking to someone, you should find common ground as quickly as possible to make the conversation a two-way conversation. For example, if he talks about joining a hiking club and climbing a mountain every week, you can lead the topic to mountain climbing, travel, and scenery, instead of saying, "On the contrary, my favorite thing to do is sleep in on weekends."

Of course, this does not mean that you have to cater to the other person against your will. If you cannot find any common ground and feel bored, the best way is to be a qualified listener, respond appropriately to what the other person says, and nod while listening. This is basic social courtesy and will also make the other person feel good about you.

Fourth: Reduce small movements during conversation

Do you often make some shy little movements when speaking? This undoubtedly sends a signal in public: you are uneasy inside and extremely unconfident! You have to change this unworldly behavior. It is better to force yourself to hold something in your hands, such as a pillow, a magazine, a drink cup, etc., which can increase your sense of psychological security. Make people feel that you are calm and at ease.

If you really can't control it, don't do too much. Just let it be and let the other person get to know the real you. Maybe he will think you are very real and straightforward.

Fifth: Small actions, leave a good impression

There is a little secret to make others like you. Physical touch can enhance relationships and trust between people. When talking with the opposite sex, you can intentionally create opportunities for physical contact, such as touching the other person's arm to remind them that there is a cart passing by and they should be careful.

If he brings his relatives and friends, such as his sister or aunt, you might as well gently put your hand on his arm for about 2 seconds. This small action can make the back of his head secrete a happy instruction. When the other person thinks of you, he or she will inexplicably develop a liking for you.

Sixth: Staring into the eyes makes people honest

Are you afraid that the other person is lying to you? Then you can increase the chances of staring at him. This psychological experiment confirms that people will become more loyal when being watched by others.

The last thing to remind you is that before attending a blind date party, you should first ask a middleman to find out the other party’s basic information. In this way, you can make a preliminary screening and judgment, but don't jump to conclusions too arbitrarily. If you have time, it is recommended that you go and meet the person before making a decision. After all, seeing is believing, hearing is not.

Avoid paying too much attention to the other person's financial and material aspects, and pay appropriate attention to the other person's family, personality, etc. Marriage is not actually a matter between two people, but a matter between two families. If this person is unreliable, then no matter how much he has

Money is not something you can enjoy. What's the point of paying attention? First make sure the other person's personality is suitable, then see if the other person's family can accept it, and finally pay attention to the other person's economic foundation. The first two items are suitable, and the final economic foundation is

It is what his significant other is most likely to have.

Moreover, paying too much attention to the other person's financial foundation will make others feel that you are after the money. Although it is human nature to pay attention to material things, paying too much attention to them is like treating your marriage as a transaction and calculating your own gains and losses.