Revealing the eight reasons why men hide their private money

Reason 1 for men to hide their private money: to please their lovers

Because this article discusses the reasons why men hide their private money, and does not explain whether it is reasonable or unreasonable, the first one that should be discussed should naturally be the one recognized by most women. Although I really want to say something good about men, I cannot refute this point. Some useless men are indeed doing such despicable things. Such behavior can cause considerable harm to women. If it is serious, it can be enough to destroy a woman or even a family. This is the main reason why women are very disgusted with men hiding their own money. Even if a man has ten thousand reasons to hide his own money, women cannot accept it.

Reason 2 for men to hide their private money: psychological imbalance

Before I can say anything good about a man, I have to offend him first. In addition to the above reasons for pleasing lovers, there are actually some not-so-glorious factors why men hide their private money. Some men are not satisfied with their wives being in charge of the finances, but they are also henpecked. In order to eliminate this unbalanced mentality, they decide to hide some private money. In fact, his private money had no way to be sold. He hid as much money as he could, but he didn't give it to his wife, so that he could get some psychological comfort. He said to his wife in his heart: "You think you are very smart, right? In fact, I am smarter than you!"

Reason three for men to hide their private money: to leave a way out

This one still exposes the negative side of men hiding their own money. The so-called leaving a way out means that when a man has a falling out with his wife one day and they are in a cold war, if he is penniless, he will appear particularly passive, so passive that he can only bow his head and admit his mistakes to his wife, even if he is not wrong at all. Smart men usually make long-term plans. Giving financial power to their wives is a smart concession, and saving some private money for themselves is a smart precaution. It is unlikely that the development of a marriage will be smooth sailing. Both men and women should take adequate precautions against the occasional waves that may arise along the way.

Reason 4 for men to hide their private money: socializing

Starting from this point, I will list the reasonable destinations of men’s private money and speak some fair words for men. Men like to make friends, and when they have more friends, they will have more social engagements. For example, whose child was admitted to university, whose child got married, whose child gave birth to a daughter, etc. These public social engagements can be discussed directly with my wife, but some private social engagements are difficult to discuss. When friends get together, there is always eating and drinking, and eating and drinking require money. A man without money can only be embarrassed and ashamed at such a party. Therefore, men hide their private money for private entertainment, in order to save face. Isn't this reason unreasonable?

Reason 5 for men to hide their private money: relief

The so-called relief is sponsorship, in layman's terms, it means lending or donating money to others. Donating money is easy to understand, but lending money is actually a form of relief, because when you lend money to someone, you at least help him solve a temporary problem. If you do not set a repayment date, then he will live on your aid until he pays you back. When people get along with each other, it is inevitable that such assistance will occur. But for a man, his friends are not his wife’s friends. He can trust his friend, but his wife may not accept it. Therefore, he could only save some private money for emergencies. Such a well-intentioned purpose is undoubtedly worthy of respect.

Reason 6 for men to hide their private money: to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Some men contribute to the family silently, but no one else in the family knows about it except themselves. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been considered a major problem in the family, and men caught in the middle are sometimes caught in a dilemma. He racked his brains to improve the conflict between his mother and daughter-in-law. Finally, he thought of a good way to adjust it. He first gave a gift to his mother in the name of his daughter-in-law, and then bought something for his daughter-in-law in the name of his mother. Obviously, he could not ask his daughter-in-law for the money for the gift, because once she knew about it, she would definitely interfere. Therefore, this money can only be dug out from the man’s private savings. What a careful arrangement, what a selfless dedication. It is actually a noble act for a man to hide his private money.

Reason seven for men to hide their private money: investment

Some men have financial acumen. They are not satisfied with the fixed monthly salary and try to find a new way to make money. Investing is a very rational choice for them. However, just like borrowing money mentioned above, when it comes to spending money, men and women cannot stand together. One looks at the problem from the perspective of making money, and the other looks at the problem from the perspective of saving money. In addition, investing, whether it is investing in a small restaurant or a large enterprise, is itself a risky move, so women will be even less likely to support men. Therefore, if a man wants to invest and open up a new way to make money, he must have his own money, and this money is called private money.

Reason 8 for men to hide their private money: for the children

In some families where women are in power, wives are often very strict in disciplining their children. In addition to their normal daily classes, their mothers also arrange many private projects for their children, such as playing the piano, painting, learning English, etc. At this time, what the father needs to do is to help the child relieve some pressure intermittently and let him find a little joy in this tense learning atmosphere, such as buying him a small gift, taking him to a KFC, etc. Since his wife had complete control over all the money, he could only use his own private money. The poor man hid his little secret money in fear, but it was all because of his love for his son!

If a debate is held on the topic of whether men should hide their own money, both the affirmative and negative sides will have countless reasons to speak. I support men, but I support men who have legitimate reasons to hide their own money. In fact, regardless of whether one party hides the private money or not, as long as this point is mentioned, it will illustrate a problem, that is, the relationship between men and women in marriage is not equal. No matter which party hides the private money, the premise is that the other party controls the family finances. Perhaps this issue should be viewed from another angle: if all the money in the family can be made public and used equally, there will be no worries about private money at all.