The reason why "leftover men" don't look for "leftover women"

Nowadays, leftover men and women have become the mainstream trend in society. However, what puzzles people is why leftover men don’t look for leftover women? Logically speaking, leftover men and leftover women should be the most suitable. However, this is often not the case. So, what is the reason, exactly?

According to common sense, if a "leftover man" considers a "leftover woman" as a potential marriage partner, then they are definitely "well-matched" in a certain sense. However, the reality is not as simple as people imagine. In real life, when "leftover men" are looking for marriage partners, they often consciously or unconsciously turn away from the "leftover women" who appear in their sight or who are strongly recommended to them by others with the mentality of "making others happy".

The so-called "leftover men" of course refer to those men who are older and have not yet married. As men, "leftover men" all have this masculine characteristic: the older they get, the stronger their inner rationality becomes; and the stronger their inner rationality becomes, the less likely they are to be swayed by their own hidden instincts. This is most evident when "leftover men" are faced with the limited opportunities left to choose a romantic partner.

First of all, the first thing that a "leftover man" thinks of when facing a "leftover woman" is: since the other party is a "leftover woman", she must have been screened by many men before. Since all the men before have given up the precious opportunity to choose her as their wife, then she may not be suitable for me either… Even if a “leftover woman” facing “leftover men” says in order to win the precious opportunity to get married that she has screened many men, but no man meets her requirements, which led to her wasting her time and ending up in the situation she is in today… Even if the “leftover man” hears such an explanation, will he change his mind and turn around? I’m afraid it’s unlikely! Which man in the world is willing to keep a close eye on a woman who should have been married to other men but was not, and who has very high requirements for her future husband? Even if such a woman is a “middle-class leftover woman” who has a house and a car and still has charm, it won’t work. This is the "competitive mentality" of "leftover men" when choosing a wife that always makes "leftover women" feel incredible and difficult to understand!

Secondly, since the other party is a "leftover woman", she must be older. As for older women, their looks are bound to decline day by day; they certainly don't look as physically attractive as those girls in their prime. Which man in the world doesn't want to find a young and beautiful wife? Even though he has helplessly become a "leftover man" at this time, his deep love for young women will not change with his age. This traditional disease that makes "leftover women" hate it when they think about it is actually the internal motivation for women all over the world to find ways and even spend a lot of money to keep their bodies young and beautiful. If there really comes a day when "leftover men" surprisingly change their nature and only fall in love with "leftover women" and become indifferent to those young girls in their prime, it must be a great achievement of human genetic improvement! I am afraid that only when this day comes, "leftover women" will relax their frowns and laugh carefreely like young girls!

Again, there is a reason that is difficult to explain why "leftover men" do not want to choose "leftover women" as their wives. This is because the fertility of "leftover women" is declining, while the potential risks associated with childbirth are increasing day by day. Since “leftover men” still want to get married, of course they want a happy ending of “getting married and having children”. This is also the most primitive motivation for men in the world to marry and be willing to take on the responsibility of supporting their families. If the wife you finally marry has difficulty getting pregnant, and even when you finally get pregnant with advanced reproductive technology, there are many problems; and even when your wife gives birth, you have to face the dilemma of "whether to have an adult or a child"; then any man will definitely "back off" from such a "leftover woman" early, even those "leftover men" who want to marry a "leftover woman" the most are no exception!

The reasons listed above are actually objective facts that everyone has long understood. It’s just that they are usually covered up by high-sounding excuses such as “no feeling, can’t talk, not suitable” and so on and are rarely mentioned. However, just as "good medicine tastes bitter but is good for the disease, honest advice is unpleasant to the ear but is good for action", after we reveal the core essence of the problem, we must also think carefully about how to solve the problem!

Perhaps, you are now among the ranks of leftover men or women, and you feel worried and anxious about this series of problems. But on the road of love, you must take every step steadily to avoid regrets in the future.