Why is it that someone else's wife is always better?

Man A is over 30 years old and has achieved some success in his career. Logically speaking, it's time to start thinking about marriage, but he just doesn't want to. When asked the reason, he replied: "I have no feelings for any girls." Either I think they are frivolous and artificial, or I think they are pretentious and have no substance. He said that even if these girls took off all their clothes and got into his arms, he would have no physical reaction. When asked if he had any sexual problems, he replied: No. But when he sees some gentle, solid-minded, married women, even if they are across the street, his heart will beat fast and his penis will become erect. Therefore, in the past ten years, she has not been in a relationship, but has secretly cheated on several older men.

Man B has been married for two years, and his wife is full of complaints. I am angry that when they are making love, they always close their eyes and don’t know how to appreciate their joyful expressions. What's worse, he once yelled out the name of his sister-in-law and his colleague. The wife scolded him, a cold war began, and the man avoided her.

Man C, his marriage has not lasted seven years, but he is already itching. I feel that my wife, sisters, good friends, and the wives of my brothers and friends are better than my own wife. So I look forward to ambiguity and fantasize about a different taste. They began to interact closely and create opportunities. I gave several hints, and although they were rejected, I also gained a lot.

The above three men have different symptoms, but they all suffer from the same disease. Wrong, it cannot be called a disease. How can one call it a disease if he longs for excellence and beauty? What's wrong with pursuing novelty and difference? Food, sex and nature are the innate nature of human beings. This is just a complex about a wife.

Nowadays, more and more men are becoming less and less interested in their lovers and more and more interested in other people's wives. What is the reason for this? It is mainly psychological factors.

The first is the difference in perspective.

For his wife, the quietly passing time slowly wore away the passion of the past. The advantages that it once possessed gradually lost their color in the eyes that were staring at it. And because of the compatibility and mutual assistance of day and night, those spots that were once invisible stand out. Gradually, the wife who was full of advantages became full of disadvantages. As for other people’s wives, because you are only looking at them from a distance, you can only see their merits. Compared with the two, one's wife is getting worse and worse, while other people's wives are getting better and better. This makes some men feel less and less about their own wives, and more and more appreciative of other people's wives.

In fact, this is just a question of looking far and near. Other people’s wives, although you see only their advantages, also have many disadvantages in the eyes of their husbands. There is nothing wrong with many marriages. What is flawed is that you don’t have the mindset and eyes to appreciate marriage. As for your wife, you should discover her beauty and magnify her beauty. Didn’t someone say that life is not lacking in beauty, but in discovery?

The second is the desire for novelty and difference.

After a long time, the novelty of having your own wife is gone. As time goes by, passion is diluted by time. But other people’s wives always seem fresh because you haven’t got them. There will always be endless fantasies. That posture, that body, and every possible detail will bring endless passion. This desire for novelty and to experience different feelings is the reason why most men fantasize about married women.

The third is the existence of incentives.

Many things are not something we think naturally, but are caused by inducing factors. Just like Man A, his wife's aversion to normal girls is not because girls are unlovable or because she has been hurt by any girls. It was because before he realized how cute the girl was, he had already experienced the physical and mental pleasure that a married woman brought him. That initial shock made him believe that it was the best, the most wonderful, and the one that could bring him the most joy. This feeling became a poison for him to resist girls of his own age.