Six occasions when men and women are prone to quarrel

1. Kitchen

The reason why couples have conflicts in the kitchen is often due to unfair division of cleaning work. A survey found that the kitchen is the place where couples quarrel most often. In addition to disputes over the allocation of cleaning work, quarrels are also likely to occur when cooking. I have personally seen several of my friends yelling at their wives while they were cooking. This can lead to two possible outcomes: one is that the wife swallows her anger, does not argue, and gives her husband face; the other is that the wife refuses to compromise and yells at her husband. In fact, the reason for their quarrel was simply because they had a disagreement on how to cook a dish. It's incredible that such a trivial issue could cause such a big quarrel.

2. Bed

A couple quarrels at the head of the bed and makes up at the foot of the bed. The idea of ​​this sentence is not to say that couples are prone to quarrel in bed, but it reflects this fact from one side. The reason why couples tend to quarrel in bed is that they discuss some more private issues or sensitive topics in bed. Many things that are inconvenient to say during the day for various reasons are said when they lie in bed at night. This often leads to the exposure of some problems or conflicts of opinion, and eventually turns into an argument.

3. Dining table

We often see in movies and TV that couples often quarrel while eating, and the reasons are similar to those when they quarrel in bed. Normally they have their own jobs and it is difficult for them to get together, and eating is a rare opportunity for them to get together. They will use this opportunity to discuss some issues, because eating can distract each other's attention. Even if the questions are harsh, the other party will not care in the context of eating. However, reality is often far from ideal. The originally relaxing mood of the meal was ruined and a quarrel was inevitable.

4. Shopping malls

There are always irreconcilable conflicts between men and women when it comes to shopping. This conflict involves many factors and is not simply reflected in the two people's support or opposition to shopping. Arguments between couples while shopping are often psychological battles, because after all, they are in a public place and both parties will pay attention to their image. However, couples all have a deep understanding that psychological quarrels are more terrible than verbal quarrels.

5. Telephone

There is obviously a big difference between making a phone call and communicating face to face. You can't see each other's expressions and can only hear the voice, so there is one less basis for judgment. Sometimes, a hasty hang-up will cause the other party to be suspicious or dissatisfied, and an absent-minded reply with some interjection will expose one's contempt or perfunctory attitude. Maybe there will not be a direct conflict over the phone, but the contradiction between the two parties has already occurred, and it is just a matter of time before it breaks out.

6. Get-together

A very strange phenomenon is that I find that many young couples often quarrel at friends' gatherings and expose their own dirty laundry to their friends. What's even stranger is that if friends present join in the persuasion, their quarrel will only intensify. On the contrary, if you leave them alone, they will calm down naturally. I think the key reason leading to this quarrel may be two words - face.

Some people say that quarreling is an art. Since couples cannot avoid quarreling, they should treat quarreling as an art to add icing on the cake for their marriage. If it can add luster to a marriage, that is certainly a good thing, but how to turn quarrels into a positive factor to catalyze or beautify marriage is another big problem. The reality is often like this. Sometimes, you may realize that a problem will occur, but you cannot avoid it; and when a problem occurs, you may know how to solve it, but often you are willing but unable to do so, or even don't want to try at all. In fact, from another perspective, if there were not so many problems in marriage, wouldn’t it seem too monotonous?