Why do men think about this?

Men often like to tell erotic jokes, which is difficult to understand in the eyes of many female compatriots. In fact, nine out of ten men are playboys, and no man has the courage to say "I'm not playboy". So, where does the erotic psychology of men come from? What are the moments when men find it most difficult to control themselves? Let's take a look at it from a psychological analysis!

1. Erotica is not everything

It is a fact that due to differences in physiological structure, men's desire for eroticism is greater than women's. But in fact, in addition to eroticism, men also have many important things to consider in their minds, such as career, future, entertainment, etc. They do not reject eroticism, but they do not necessarily immerse themselves in erotic fantasies every minute.

Society has given men more burdens. They bear the heavy burdens of social progress, family harmony, etc. The burden of the family basically falls on men. When a man is single, he is afraid that he will not be able to get married. When he finds a girlfriend, he is afraid that he does not have enough money to get married. After finally getting married, he is afraid that he cannot provide a better life for his wife and children. It seems natural for a woman to be a full-time housewife after marriage, and people will not say anything. However, if a man stays at home as a househusband after marriage, he is easily spurned by society. It seems understandable for a woman to be a mistress and be kept by a man, but if a man is kept by a man, he is said to have no ambition and is a gigolo... Both of them are selling their bodies, but society is particularly harsh on men.

When female pornographic characters loudly complain about the unfairness of society, they should really think about the fact that men are also wronged. Eroticism is not all about men, they have to bear much more than women!

2. Erotic Anxiety and Erotic Fantasy

Erotic anxiety is an emotional state of anxiety, worry and uneasiness about erotic behavior, accompanied by autonomic nervous system symptoms such as palpitations and sweating, as well as muscle tension and motor erotic anxiety. People with erotic anxiety will feel involuntary tension and anxiety during erotic intercourse (or even just thinking about erotic intercourse). Sometimes, their anxiety is triggered by kissing, hugging or being touched by the opposite sex. The phenomena of increased heartbeat and sweating that occur at this time are different from the physiological reactions produced by the erotic behavior itself, because it carries obvious discomfort and helplessness.

One theory is that a man has an erotic fantasy every six minutes and only stops thinking about it when he's busy doing something else. After thinking about it every 6 minutes for 6 days in a row, men begin to need to do something about it, but few women know about men's anxiety about eroticism. Many men have wondered in their hearts how big their penis will be once it is erected before they have had a chance to test it out. They constantly reassure themselves that size is not the key - "it's not about its size, but how you use it." But in fact, the issue of size always bothers them. If the blame issue is not handled properly, erotic anxiety will accompany a man throughout his life.

3. Play the role of wife

A wife is not meant to share the man’s wealth and success, but to share the happiness and hardships with him. Therefore, when a boyfriend or husband has erotic anxiety, the wife needs to play her unique role, which is something only the wife is qualified and capable of doing.

Half of the reason why men have erotic anxiety comes from their wives. Seeing their wives’ disappointed expressions when they can’t reach orgasm, men will put themselves under tremendous pressure. So, as a wife, don't complain about your husband's poor performance. It is impossible for intimate life to be perfect every time. Typically, only 40% to 50% of a couple's intimate habits are perfectly harmonious. Your disappointment will only make a man feel more guilty.

When it comes to intimate life, we can pay attention to some small details, such as preparing a small gift for our partner, playing some popular love songs in the bedroom, unplugging the telephone line to avoid being disturbed, asking the nanny to take the children out, etc. In this way, we can create a completely undisturbed and romantic environment, while also allowing men to have no worries.

When the couple is alone, they can light candles to eat dinner, or cover their legs with a blanket, chat on the balcony while looking at the moon and revisiting the tenderness of their first love... Enjoying intimate habits in a casual way often makes people feel particularly relaxed, which can not only reduce stress but also enhance intimacy between couples.

Only when the couple faces it together, the man's erotic anxiety will gradually decrease and disappear, and you will be able to enjoy a harmonious and happy intimate habit.

Intimate life will accompany you throughout your life. Respect and understand each other, and you will enjoy a perfect intimate life.