Six tips! Add some spice to your married life

Life is short, and living happily as a couple is the wisest way to live. When you are old and support each other's arms, you will be full of confidence when you look back on the past.

I only envy the mandarin ducks, not the immortals. A happy marriage is the prerequisite for happiness. How can you have a happy and fulfilling marriage? Here are six tips to improve your marital happiness and add some flavor to your ordinary life.

1. Optimize relationships in 60 seconds a day

For couples who are overloaded and busy with work, it might be helpful to list things that can be done in one minute, such as telling a joke or giving a long kiss. Experts suggest that couples should squeeze out three "1 minutes" every day, which will not only strengthen their sense of closeness, but also greatly demonstrate their concern for each other.

2. Spend time together a few times a month

Ordinary activities in life, whether it's shopping together or cooking together, are great ways for happy couples to spend time together. And don't do such activities too frequently; a few times a month is enough.

3. There is no winner in a quarrel between husband and wife

Because there are fundamental differences in the personalities and lifestyles of two people, neither spouse can try to change the other's "bad temper." It is a bad idea to think that there must be a winner and an apologizing party in every argument. We should try to come up with remedies instead of getting into endless quarrels.

4. Small actions such as touching are more important than sex

Psychologists have found that those "sexually happy" couples do not have sex often, but they often maintain physical contact. Small actions like patting shoulders or touching faces can promote the relationship between couples far more than sex.

5. Reminisce the good times

Psychological experts interviewed 200 couples with close relationships and found that they had one thing in common: even if they were arguing fiercely, they would still look at the problem from a "historical perspective" and recall every bit of love the other had shown them in the past. They believe that quarrels are inevitable in marriage, so they won't be so "dedicated" to nitpicking.

6. Marriage requires a physical examination

According to an associate professor of psychology, the research team designed a marriage checkup program to identify weak links in relationships and strengthen them. The physical examination involves all aspects of marriage, even including breakfast habits and whether one sleeps in on weekends. At the same time, it is also recommended that couples ask themselves three questions every year: Does my partner feel comfortable showing his or her emotional vulnerability in front of me? Does my partner feel recognized? When life is not going well, can I get full support from my partner? If even one of the answers is no, it indicates that there is some strain in your marriage.