The secret of a woman's first night - how men can tell when a woman has had a first night

Many men are very concerned about whether their girlfriend is a virgin. So how should they judge whether a woman’s virginity is present?

Today's society is very open, and most women have sexual experience before marriage. On the Internet, you can often see depressing posts about girlfriends not being virgins. There are also many women who are confused about the issue of whether they are not virgins, and they rush to the hospital to have hymen repair surgery to prove their innocence. However, if you base your view of love on the fact that the other person has no sexual experience, then your room for choice is much smaller. No wonder there are so many leftover men and women.

The "virgin complex" reflects men's lack of self-confidence, sense of security, and subconscious pursuit of perfection.

Only by resolving a man's virgin complex can you avoid having to do any so-called reconstructive surgery, stop deceiving him, show your truest self in front of him, and not worry about the secret being revealed one day, so that you can win his truest love.

Before you can crack a man's virgin complex, you must first understand the subconscious reasons why men have a virgin complex. Once you grasp the source, you can target your attack and crack it with one blow.

The "virgin complex" reflects three subconscious aspects of men:

(1) Lack of self-confidence

He subconsciously lacks self-confidence and worries that he is not strong enough and will become a loser, so he refuses to be compared. When a lover has sexual experience with other men, he will worry that the other party will have preconceived notions and that the sex will be compared. The potential danger of being compared loomed over him and became a huge pressure.

(2) Lack of security

If a partner has the sexual imprint of another man, it will make a man feel insecure, and it is safer to eliminate these possibilities. Possessing everything about your lover, including the past, present and future, can satisfy their need for security.

(3) Pursuit of perfection

Men generally believe that virgins with no sexual experience are perfect, and they hope that their love history and partners are flawless.

1. Recognize the essence of things

A virgin is a woman who has no sexual experience. If there is any physiological change, it is only that layer of membrane. What men care about is not the membrane, but the "experience", the memory of those sexual experiences in her brain. What men cannot accept is not the membrane of women, but his possessiveness that cannot tolerate the fact that women still have sexual experiences with other men in their minds. Because she believed that because of these memories in her mind, her love was imperfect, and very imperfect. Because, among all the things a woman gives to a man, sex is the most important.

It is true that virginity is precious, but there is nothing wrong with being non-virgin! As long as you are serious about your feelings, you will naturally give your body; no one knows whether the sacrifice at that time is worth it, no one has to be responsible for a future, unknown person, and no one is destined to belong to another person when they are born.

Only when a man recognizes this nature can he stop resisting non-virgins subconsciously and accept this fact calmly.

2. Face up to your girlfriend’s love for you

When a man is not confident, he actually does not see clearly: after his girlfriend has had experience in love, she still chooses to be with him, which proves that in her heart, other men are not as good as this man.

In a relationship, the depth of the relationship is not measured by sex. You should downplay the importance of sex in your relationship. This does not mean reducing the number of times you have sex. Instead, your other communications should be at least as important as sex. Try to become a confidant or even a relative, show that what you can do for her is beyond everything she has ever gotten, and that being with you, whether happy or sad, is irreplaceable by others. Remember, love sex! A woman will only have sex if she is in love. If you care about her, you should care about her love first, and then her sex.

3. Recognize your own shortcomings

When a man feels that non-virgin women are imperfect and regretful, he should look at himself and realize that it is impossible for him to be perfect and spotless forever. He also has shortcomings in other aspects. Instead of being unable to relieve yourself from the pressure of seeking perfection, it is better to accept some regrets and focus your energy on enjoying the happiness of other advantages.

4. Understand, tolerate and cherish each other

For two people to walk through life together, they not only need to love each other's strengths, but also need to understand her weaknesses and tolerate her past. Life is a process of continuous growth. It doesn’t matter what you experience. What is most important is that you learn to cherish love through experience and have the ability to make your marriage happy. It is not appropriate to let the "past" spoil the pleasant "present". The hymen is not more important than a lifetime of marital happiness.

Why are Westerners so open? Because they see sex as a very simple matter, which is essentially a physiological need. Western couples can easily talk about their pre-marital sexual partners and they do not shy away from discussing it as long as the details are not involved. Therefore, you can watch more American movies and TV series, especially life films and TV series. Slowly you will find that the touching, fresh, but not dirty side of Western morality is acceptable to you. If you open your mind a little, your possessiveness will be much less.

In today's trend of individual liberation, the virgin complex is an unhealthy mentality and is inconsistent with the values ​​of our generation.

We must believe that a truly good girl will not lose her gentleness, kindness and loyalty while pursuing personal freedom; and these are all we really need. Don't dwell on her past for which she was not responsible. If you are sure that she is the type you want, then work hard to create your future.