Sometimes women just want to be friends with you

The first condition for being a sex buddy is that "you actually only want to be a sex buddy with the other person." If "because we can't be lovers, we have to settle for being friends with benefits", it is better to get out of this unequal relationship as soon as possible. As for under what circumstances would a woman only want to maintain a sex partner relationship with the other party?

1. Too busy with work and don’t have the energy to invest in a stable relationship

Nowadays, there are many women who have successful careers. Many women, for the sake of their careers, simply don’t have the extra energy to care about their relationships. Plus, many men still hold the traditional idea that “women should take care of the family”, which makes it difficult for ambitious women to succumb to this chauvinistic mentality and give up their careers. So after several failed relationships, they simply think more open-mindedly and look for sex partners before finding someone who can truly support their careers and is willing to let go of their emotions!

2. The other person is married and married, so there is no need to talk about a stable relationship

This situation is of course a bit controversial, but sometimes a woman meets someone she quite likes, and both parties are attracted to each other sexually, but the other party has a family and just wants to have some sex outside. Since both parties want to have each other physically, a sex buddy relationship begins.

Since this is interfering in other people's feelings, the woman who chooses such a person as a sex partner becomes the third party. Although this third party has no intention of stealing the throne of the first wife, it will still cause harm to another woman. When the truth is revealed, it is inevitable that she will be blamed and punished morally and legally. Therefore, when you are looking for this kind of person as your sex partner, you must think it through carefully. Otherwise, if something goes wrong, your sex partner will apologize to his wife and you will be left with nothing but trouble. It is really not worth it.

3. No confidence in the other party

Sometimes, there seems to be some affection between two people, but the other party may have a bad reputation, a long criminal record, or he may have other things in mind and only want to focus on his career without caring about feelings. For various reasons, even if the girl is a little interested in the other party, she has no confidence in him, so she simply maintains a benefits friend relationship, gets what she wants, and does not have to be responsible for this relationship.

However, you have to be careful about two things if you want to be a sex buddy with such a person: first, since you have no confidence in him, it means that there is something about him that you cannot completely trust. What if he spreads the news that you are just a sex buddy, even if your friends know that he is the bad guy, it will still affect your mood. In addition, you have to make sure that you "really just want to be a sex buddy" and do not have the idea of ​​"sex buddy becoming lover". Although this kind of transformation is not completely impossible, please remember: the main premise of being a sex buddy is that "you and him just want to be sex buddies". What if you end up wanting to be more than just a sex buddy and he really enjoys this kind of simple physical relationship, you will be the injured person, and this kind of injury may not be able to recover in a short time.

4. It’s hard to find a good partner, and I really can’t let go of my feelings.

In fact, this is probably the most fundamental reason and the source of the previous three states. If you can find the perfect partner who is considerate, understanding and supportive of you, there is indeed no woman who would only want to be content with a friends-with-benefits relationship. But the point is that, for various reasons, they can't meet the right man, and they don't want to settle for someone they don't like that much, so how can they be willing to let go of their feelings?

When a woman is willing to express her feelings, she has definitely taken off her defensive coat and revealed her most sincere side - which is also her most vulnerable side. If the other party cannot respond to her sincerity in the same way and cherish her vulnerability, she will not be able to express her true feelings.

Having a sex partner does not have to be a last resort. Being willing to just be a sex partner sometimes represents a woman's rational and independent attitude towards life. However, when making such a choice, you should be fully prepared. It is necessary to take measures to protect yourself. In addition, if you accidentally develop real feelings, you must make it clear right away. If the other party is not interested, you must make a decisive decision and leave immediately. In short, when the purpose of sex partners is to enjoy the pleasure of sex, you must make sure that what you get is "pleasure" and does not bring problems and pain. Otherwise, what is the difference between this and having a few torturous relationships?