Men have such fears when it comes to sex

Men have always been positioned as "active actors" in sex. In fact, men often feel nervous and worried when it comes to sex, fearing that they may not perform well. Here are some of the most common fears men have and how to deal with them.

1. "Am I suffering from impotence?" Fear of impotence ranks first among men in all countries. Impotence is medically known as erectile dysfunction (ED), and ironically, fear itself is the biggest cause of ED. Clinical statistics show that 90% of cases are related to mental and psychological factors.

Coping strategy: Adequate foreplay can help men achieve a full erection. Don't always focus on the sexual organs. The understanding and cooperation of your spouse play an important role in overcoming psychological ED.

2. "I ejaculate too quickly." When passion strikes, some men worry that they will ejaculate too quickly and fail to make their partners reach orgasm. The problem of premature ejaculation occurs in all age groups and if not addressed promptly, it will often form a vicious cycle.

Coping strategy: Many men mistakenly believe that "marathon" is a sign of strong sexual ability. In fact, as long as the penis is fully erect and continues to move in the vagina for more than 2 minutes, combined with appropriate sexual techniques, women can generally be satisfied. If the time is indeed too short and both parties are not satisfied, you can slow down the sex and use the stop-and-go method to improve it.

3. "It's too small." The length of a man's "there" has been a concern since ancient times. Out of curiosity, some men will secretly compare the size of their penis with that of people around them in the bath. Once they find that their penis is short, they will develop an inferiority complex. In fact, people's penises have many differences, just like their height, weight, and size of facial features.

Coping strategies: Studies have shown that the average length of Asian men's penis is 8.08 cm, the circumference is 8.11 cm, and the average effective length when erect is 12.4 cm. But these measurements should only be used as a guide. In addition, the length of the penis of the same person is not constant under normal circumstances. For example, tension, cold or severe fatigue can cause the penis to shorten. If the penis is shorter than 2.5 cm before puberty and shorter than 5 cm after puberty, and has no erectile function; at the same time, the secondary sexual characteristics are underdeveloped and there is sexual dysfunction, it can be considered as abnormal penis development.

4. "Her sexual desires are not satisfied." A man will feel deeply guilty if he cannot satisfy his beloved woman. In fact, sometimes it is not that the partner is not satisfied, but the misunderstanding caused by the asynchronous response process of men and women. Sex has the characteristic of "men are fast and women are slow". Generally, women need a longer time to get into the mood and reach orgasm.

Coping strategy: Women whose sexual desires are never satisfied are only created in literature and movies. Sex requires the efforts of both parties. Men should not take all the responsibility for the success or failure of sex on themselves. Communicate more with your partner, the fear will be reduced and it will be a win-win situation.

5. "Masturbation affects your health." Many people mistakenly believe that masturbation is a bad behavior, and the guilt that follows may even accompany them for life. When they have poor sex life, they often blame it on masturbation.

Coping strategy: There is no evidence to prove that masturbation is directly related to sexual dysfunction. Proper masturbation is not only harmless but also a healthy behavior. We need to dispel misunderstandings about masturbation. After sexual maturity, sexual desire accumulates to a certain level and naturally needs to be vented. Masturbation can help men relieve their inner restlessness, reduce stress, and balance their psychology, while also reducing the occurrence of risky sexual behaviors. In addition, masturbation helps to renew sperm storage and improve sperm quality, because sperm will become abnormal if stored for too long. However, avoid frequent masturbation, such as two or three times a day.

6. "Don't get a sexually transmitted disease." This is the biggest fear men have when engaging in unprotected sex. Some people will even let their wild thoughts affect their work and life.

Coping strategy: Maintaining a single sexual partner and avoiding extramarital sex are the fundamental solutions. In addition, STDs can be spread in other ways, such as hotel towels and other items that come into contact with private parts. If they are contaminated with the virus and are not sterilized at high temperatures, they may also be spread.

7. "Will she get pregnant?" Although an important purpose of sex is reproduction, no one wants an accident to happen after passion. Many men complain that condoms often "fail" at critical moments, fall off accidentally or suddenly break, which makes them worried.

Countermeasures: The effectiveness of contraception using condoms can reach over 98%, and oral contraceptives can reach 98%-99%. Don't rely on luck, choose contraceptive measures that suit you and strictly follow the requirements. Generally, you will not get pregnant accidentally, so there is no need to worry too much.