Such an obscene book is hidden at the head of the girl's bed

Sexual desire, like appetite, is a human instinct. Avoiding talking about sexual issues will not make sexual desire disappear, just as not talking about eating will not make people less hungry.

On Saturday, a very good friend came to my house on purpose. As soon as he entered the door, he hurriedly said to me: "Mr. Chen, my daughter listens to you very much. Please help me think of a way to enlighten her."

My friend’s daughter is called Tingting. She is 13 years old and in the second grade of junior high school. She is pretty and smart. Her parents never have to worry about her studies. She is also a prestigious class leader in school.

My friend lives not far from my home. Whenever Tingting writes an article that she is proud of, or when her article receives high scores and positive comments, she always comes to "report" to me. Tingting particularly likes and is very attentive to writing articles. She has her own unique observations and insights into things. I published several of her manuscripts in several newspapers and magazines after some slight processing. For this reason, she became more motivated to write and would read any book that could help improve her writing skills.

"What happened?"

"Tingting is bewitched."

"What's wrong with her?" I couldn't believe my ears, because in my mind, Tingting is a good girl in every aspect and would not do anything out of line.

"This morning, when I was tidying up her little room, I found a book called "Pillow Whispers" under her pillow. Don't you think this is weird?" My friend said as he handed the book to me.

I flipped through the contents of the book and found that it wasn't entirely filled with shameful texts. I told them not to escalate the situation and not to blame my daughter too much.

Why did the little girl like to read this book that had nothing to do with them? I asked Tingting: "Tingting, I heard that in your school, many people like to read a book called "Husband and Wife Whispering on the Pillow". Is this true?" Although Tingting's face immediately flushed, she still answered my question very honestly: "Yes! Many people are ready to buy it." "There are so many books in the bookstore, why did you girls choose such a book that you can tell from the title that it is not suitable for you to read?" "Curiosity! Many of our classmates want to see what the adults say on the pillow at night. It's actually nothing, but my parents didn't allow me to read it after they found out. It's really boring. If I had known this, I wouldn't have brought it home." Seeing me staring at her, she quickly added: "Of course, my parents are doing this for my own good. They're afraid that I'll become a bad person."

The "Husband and Wife Pillow Whispers" incident once again made me think about the issue of sex education for boys and girls.

For a long time, many people have kept silent about the topic of sex, believing that talking about sex is vulgar and obscene. Dr. Li Wuben, who once worked as a clinical researcher at the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, said: "The education system and cultural taboos accumulated over thousands of years have had a very negative impact on the spread of knowledge about reproduction.

In our country, this situation of not caring about "sex" is even more serious, so both middle school students and college students who have received higher education know little about sex. My wife once said to me, "When I was in my 20s, I always thought that babies were born from the armpits. Until one day, a woman gave birth on the street without having time to go to the hospital. I happened to see it and realized that babies are not born from the armpits." Many female college students who have received higher education also know very little about sexual reproduction. One girl said that her boyfriend ejaculated inside her pants while caressing her while she was wearing jeans, so he worriedly asked her if there was any possibility of pregnancy.

There was a girl, who was in her teens and knew nothing about sex, had sex with an equally ignorant little boy and got pregnant without knowing it. There was a "spinster" in her 30s who said that every time she came into contact with the opposite sex, liquid would flow out of her lower body and wet her underwear. She asked if this counted as "spermia"? How should it be treated? In fact, when a woman is sexually stimulated, lubricating fluid will flow out of her vagina, which is a completely normal sexual response, just like a man's erection. Many teenagers who call themselves "short penis" develop extremely strong inferiority complex. In fact, there is a normal range for penis length. Within this range, no matter the length, it can still make women reach orgasm and feel pleasure. There are many young men and women who claim to be "addicted to masturbation" and are filled with guilt and anxiety. This is because they do not know that masturbation is actually a completely normal sexual behavior. Many boys worry that having nocturnal emissions may lead to kidney deficiency, premature ejaculation and impotence. In fact, these worries are completely unnecessary. If we can impart some basic knowledge about the physiological and psychological aspects of the human body, and the nature and content of sex to young boys and girls, will they still have so many doubts and concerns?

Some people are afraid to provide sex education to teenagers, saying that they are worried that sex education for teenagers will involve sex education films and sexual materials. These sex education films and sexual materials are like Category III films and will harm society. Is this really the case? Hong Kong writer Cai Lan made this statement about Category III films. He said: "The idea that Category III films are harmful to society is too old-fashioned." "Hong Kong's Category III films are not more numerous than those in Japan, and they are not as 'obscene' as Japanese films. Why is the crime rate in Japanese society not particularly high? The responsibility cannot be attributed to Category III films. Scenes of people wearing swimsuits or killing people on TV can cause crimes." "When society is more open, people should have more choices, and there is no need for age classification. If children cannot understand, they will never understand to watch. If they can understand, why can't they watch? There are often 'Spring Official Programs' on Danish TV. Children who watch them ask their mothers to watch cartoons for them."

As far as Category III films are concerned, some people still hold this view, not to mention that sex education films are not Category III films, and sex education materials are not pornographic novels.

Many parents never talk to their children about the extremely important issue of sex in life. They bury their heads in the sand like ostriches. They think that as long as their children know nothing about sex, there will be no sexual problems. They refuse to acknowledge that "food, sex and love are part of human nature."

If young boys and girls cannot obtain correct sexual knowledge from normal channels, they may obtain incorrect sexual knowledge from their peers, pornographic books, paintings, and small movies. What's even more tragic is that due to their inability to distinguish between good and bad sexual behavior, curiosity will drive them to taste the forbidden fruit, resulting in a tragedy that will leave them with lifelong regrets. Instead of waiting until teenagers suffer and then taking remedial lessons, it is better to provide them with correct sex education as early as possible.

Times have changed. Parents and teachers no longer have to worry about their children or students having a book called "Husband and Wife Whispers" on their pillows.