How to help my husband quit masturbation when there are too many temptations

Men all love beauty. It is their nature and also an addiction. Women should learn to be smarter and use their generosity and beautiful psychology to resolve men's addiction to beauty.

A very distressed woman

I am 34 years old and my child is in junior high school, but my husband has been going out a lot recently, always saying that he is busy at work. Sometimes I called his office, but no one answered. I asked him why he didn't answer the phone, and he said he was out socializing.

I suspected that he was having an affair with another woman and I was very angry, but when I thought of my son, I had to swallow my anger. I have been with him for so many years, and our marriage is very harmonious and we rarely quarrel. My relatives and friends have always envied our relationship, but now that this has happened, I really don’t know what to do.

Sometimes there would be some smell of perfume on his clothes, and he would say that it was because there were so many people coming and going in the KTV and he accidentally got the smell on them. I'm not a fool, but a marriage between two people cannot just be over, not to mention that we still have responsibilities and obligations to our children.

Sometimes I get really angry, but there's nothing I can do. Every time he goes out, I feel sad. Although he never spends the night outside, I am afraid that one day he will not be able to withstand the temptation outside and do something that I would never expect. What's more, I really hope that our marriage can continue to work. After all, it's really not easy for two people to be together.

Sometimes I think that it is not easy for him outside and he cares about everything for this family. So every time I get angry, I don’t have the heart to argue with him. Thinking back to the past, although we were poor at that time, we lived a happy life. We discuss everything together and share the responsibilities.

After getting married, career became more important and communication gradually became less and less. It's more about tolerance and forbearance of each other. I can understand that men are greedy for beauty, but I just can't accept that my man is greedy for beauty. I was terrified because I didn't know what would happen next, and especially I didn't want my children to get hurt or implicated.

What should I do?

Women should be smart when facing men who love beauty

There are as many temptations for men as there are women in society. Men's love of beauty is like taking drugs. Once addicted, it is difficult to quit. They may even forget the nature and responsibilities of their marriage and do something immoral. A smart woman will keep men away from the poison of beauty, while a stupid woman will only keep men away from herself.

1. Never go around complaining that your man is lusty.

The first coordination point in marriage is to keep family disgrace to oneself. Men want face, women want dignity. When a man's heart accidentally runs away, a woman should kindly remind him that it is okay to toss around at home, but there is no need to let all the neighbors know. If you make a fuss, it will be like spilled water that can never be taken back.

2. Don’t put all the problems on men.

After a man cheats, the first thing a woman should think about is not how to get her man back, but why the man cheated. Look for problems in yourself, discover conflicts in time, resolve them, take targeted measures, and make yourself more perfect. Then the man will be able to find his way home without you having to drag him back.

3. A woman’s kindness and gentleness can bind a man tighter.

For a man, when his career is booming and his family is happy, the most important thing to him is not the woman, but his future and his children. But women should never use these two points to remind men of their magnanimity, so that he will have a change of heart and turn back.

4. Be an understanding woman and take action when it is necessary.

When a man realizes his mistake and makes up his mind to quit drugs, perhaps his will is not strong enough and he will still be influenced by beauty. At this time, the woman should stand up and help him get rid of the interference with an elegant attitude. Before removing distractions for him, be sure to greet him in advance and have in-depth communication and exchanges with him, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

5. To help a man quit being obsessed with beauty, you need to be patient and careful enough.

Men may become addicted again quickly after quitting once. At this time, women should not make a fuss. If drug addiction treatment is a disease, it is very likely that men will be capricious during the illness. Women should understand and use their patience and care to silently help him through the difficult times.