The greatest man will never put pressure on his wife

Don't think that as long as the other person is passionate and you try hard to tease him/her, you two can enjoy sex to your heart's content. In fact, just because a woman likes to be kissed and caressed doesn’t necessarily mean she can enjoy sexual relations. You may have never experienced how much pressure she puts on before unbuttoning her clothes. Therefore, if you can understand her feelings more before undressing, I believe your relationship will become closer!

Pressure 1: Low self-esteem about body shape – Pressure to unbutton

Before having sex, the first pressure women face is the worry that they have a bad figure and cannot satisfy their sexual partners, which may even destroy the original relationship. But in real life, there are not many people who have a body as beautiful as a star, so you must build confidence in your body and accept yourself.

Solution:

Men must give positive evaluation and encouragement to women's anxiety and pressure. Men must understand that sex is not just about physical and sensual desires, but also about emotional exchange. If you are not satisfied with your body shape, you can share this feeling with women and put yourself in their shoes to relieve the pressure brought by appearance.

Pressure 2: Fear of sexual intercourse - Pressure caused by anticipation

"Sex is not beautiful at all, it just feels uncomfortable." This is a topic that many besties often mention when they talk about their boudoir secrets. Due to the lack of sex education, many people's knowledge about sex comes from movies, television, or novels. In those worlds, sex is beautiful, but in fact, not everyone's experience is like this; so when people pass on the word of mouth, there will be a saying that sex is not only unromantic, but even brings pain. Others believe that sexual intercourse is just a routine, or even just an act to satisfy men. With such an idea in mind, women will naturally feel fear and disgust when going to bed with their sexual partners, and of course they will not have a satisfying and enjoyable sexual experience.

Another similar situation is disgust towards sexual organs. In the comic "Shiratori Reiko", the heroine Shiratori Reiko has a first-class face and figure, and has beautiful fantasies about falling in love and going to bed. However, she feels that her sexual organs are extremely ugly and completely inconsistent with her appearance as the number one beauty, so she is disillusioned with sex. Although the plot is hilarious, it very vividly expresses the contradictory views young women have on sexual intercourse. This idea that sexual organs are ugly, like the idea that sexual intercourse is painful, prevents many women from enjoying sex with peace of mind.

Solution:

If women's preconceived notions or stereotypes about sex are deeply rooted, they will still cause psychological barriers. At this time, the other half's consideration and understanding, as well as communication between both parties, become the key to solving the problem. If men want to relieve women's fear and expectations of sex, they must understand what kind of sex women expect, so that women can be disarmed and forget their doubts about sex. Accepting women's guidance and asking them about their feelings from time to time can also allow the two of them to have endless affection after sex.

In fact, the problem of women glorifying sex cannot be entirely solved by men, women also have to take responsibility. With the opening up of society, books about sex can now form an independent section in bookstores. Women who desire orgasms cannot just passively wait for men to bring them orgasms, or simply blame men for being inconsiderate. Instead, they must enrich their sexual knowledge, recognize women's physiological and psychological needs, and understand what real sex is. Only in this way can they find endless pleasure in it.