10 surprising secrets behind orgasm

Secret 1: Orgasm can relieve pain

Headache? Maybe you need some sex.

"There's data showing that orgasms can reduce pain in everything from arthritis pain to pain after surgery to even pain during childbirth," says Lisa Stern, a registered nurse with a master's degree in nursing who works as a nurse practitioner at Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles.

The principle is that during orgasm, the body releases a chemical called oxytocin.

Oxytocin promotes bonding, relaxation, and other positive emotional states.

However, even though she acknowledges that sex can relieve pain, she points out that previous studies have shown that orgasm only temporarily relieves pain, usually lasting only eight to 10 minutes.

Secret 2: "Condoms" do not affect the quality of orgasm

If you are still worried about whether using a "condom" will affect your orgasm, don't worry!

"Women can orgasm with or without a condom, so forget about condoms and how you can't have great sex," says Debby Herbenick, PhD, a researcher at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good.

In fact, by wearing a condom, men don't have to worry about ejaculating too early and constantly pulling out, which allows a couple to spend more time on sex.

If your man feels that wearing a condom doesn't feel good, you might as well increase the foreplay before sex so that he can still be happy.

Secret 3: Nearly 30% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm

If you've ever had trouble reaching orgasm, you're not alone.

According to family planning statistics, 1 in 3 women has difficulty reaching orgasm during sex. At the same time, 80% of women find it more difficult to reach orgasm during masturbation.

In fact, orgasm can be enhanced through penile stimulation during sex or through medication.

Female sexual dysfunction, the inability to orgasm, is extremely common, with a prevalence of more than 43% according to surveys, and has become a hotly debated topic recently, sparking medical research.

For some women, testosterone therapy or some oral medications may help, but few drug treatments have solid evidence to support them.

Since female sexual dysfunction may be related to certain medical conditions, it's best to see a doctor first to rule out other medical conditions, such as thyroid disease, depression, or diabetes.

Secret 4: Finding your "G" spot will help you reach orgasm better

Do you know your "G" spot?

The "G" spot was discovered by a gynecologist named Ernst Gruber, who became known as his "discovery" in the 1950s.

Sexologists have long touted the research field of female external genitalia, believing that the female external genitalia contains a large number of nerve endings, which can help women achieve longer and more intense orgasms.

However, this is a controversial topic. Although Italian researchers reportedly discovered the spot using ultrasound and published their findings in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, British researchers recently refuted its existence.

Still, sex educators like Ava Cadell in Los Angeles support the existence of the G-spot and encourage women to discover their own.

However, the location of each woman's "G" spot may be slightly different. It is usually found in the vagina and is given a "wild" characteristic.

Secret 5: It’s easier to orgasm as you get older

Of course, there will be a lot of things to complain about when you get older, but at the same time your sex life will improve, especially the quality of sex and the frequency of orgasms.

It becomes easier to orgasm as you age.

As an example, 61 percent of women aged 24 to 65 years old experience orgasms at the end of their intercourse, 65 percent of women in their 30s, and 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s.

Although the survey did not reveal why orgasms become easier with age, it can be assumed that as women become more experienced in sex, they become more confident in the bedroom and therefore more satisfied.

In addition, the trust and intimacy that most women develop after a long period of intimate relationship can also enhance their sexual confidence.

Secret 6: Women can orgasm more often in a messy bedroom

If you're having trouble orgasming during sex, try adjusting your posture, Dr. Herbenick says.

Women are more likely to orgasm when they try a variety of positions during intercourse than when they stick to just one position.

So, be confident, communicate more with your partner and try, and you will have a great chance of reaching orgasm.

This may be because different positions mean people are willing to spend more time in sex.

Secret 7: A woman’s sexual self-esteem affects the quality of her orgasms

Research shows that a woman's sense of identity with her private parts is linked to her ability to orgasm and the quality of her orgasm.

"As a women's health clinician, I can vouch for the fact that everyone looks different, and there is no 'perfect' way to look there," Stern said.

As long as you don't have any vaginal pain or any unusual discharge, sores or other medical problems, you can rest assured that you are healthy and normal.

Unlock your orgasmic potential by increasing your confidence.

It's important that you treat yourself as you would like others to treat you and send yourself healthy and positive messages.

If you are confident enough: take out a mirror and have a look! Knowing yourself well is the first step to increase your confidence.

Secret 8: The Orgasm "Gap"

It is true that a small percentage of men have trouble reaching orgasm, but sexologists report that this is rare.

On the contrary, a considerable number of women pointed out that they did not reach orgasm at the last moment of their intercourse, and even their sexual partners thought they had reached it.

“We still have an orgasm gap,” Dr. Herbenick noted.

While 85% of men believed their partner orgasmed during their most recent intercourse, only 64% of women actually reported doing so.

Can it be cured?

It's complicated, Dr. Herbenick says, but women who understand their own arousal when they're comfortable can learn to orgasm regularly.

Secret 9: In rare cases, orgasm can be achieved without sexual stimulation

We've all heard about women orgasming on the train or during a massage, but it's not all just myth.

Experts say this is a real phenomenon.

"I have a friend who gets extremely excited every time she uses a treadmill," says Stern. "If this happened to each of us, we would definitely have a healthier society!"

But humor aside, there is a reason why.

This spontaneous orgasm during certain activities is two-sided - increased blood flow to the vulva and vibration or friction of the clitoris.

Increased blood flow and a generally relaxing massage often lead to extreme arousal.

Secret 10: For most women, it comes later…

Many women take longer to orgasm than their partners, and this is perfectly normal.

In fact, according to these statistics, most women take at least 20 minutes to orgasm during sex.

If you find that your partner often orgasms before you, there are many ways to help him slow down.

Mental exercises can sometimes help.

If premature ejaculation is the case, your partner may want to see a primary care provider or urologist for solutions or techniques that may help. ”