Four major problems that may occur in couples' sexual life

Couples should communicate frequently about sex issues, but due to various factors such as differences in concepts and psychology, many issues cannot be touched upon or are difficult to talk about. Do you also encounter the following problems? Let's listen to the answers and suggestions below.

1. After giving birth to a child, does he still like me?

It is normal for a husband to lose interest in sex after his wife gives birth, but fortunately this process is short, just a few weeks. This does not mean that his wife has lost her appeal in his eyes, but it is mainly out of consideration for his wife. He knew that his wife had just gone through some pain and didn't want to add to her burden.

Psychologists believe that it is natural for couples to focus their energy on their children at this time. But this special phase will soon pass. Communication between husband and wife is particularly important. The wife should not only focus on taking care of the baby but also neglect the care and tenderness for her husband. Otherwise he will feel "abandoned".

2. The book says that the average frequency of sexual intercourse between couples is one to two times a week, but we haven’t had sex for several months. Is there any problem?

No. The frequency of sexual activity varies from person to person. Every couple goes through a period of sexlessness. Sex is intermittent, sometimes on and sometimes off, sometimes hot and sometimes cold. This is mostly caused by external factors, such as financial constraints, fatigue, irritability, anxiety, children's disturbances, etc., and even some subtle psychological changes can have an impact.

The saying "When you are well fed and well clothed, you will think about sex" is exactly about this. You can't possibly be interested in having sex when the stock market is crashing.

3. Although the husband has done his best, he still feels a sense of loss after sex. Is there any problem?

no problem. At most, there was just no communication. Men instinctively know what to do, but women are too shy to tell their husbands which parts of their bodies need caressing, and they get disappointed when their husbands don't do it.

In fact, you can tell him in person what he should do, or you can unconsciously guide his hands to touch the sensitive parts that you desire to be caressed, and express your pleasure in time to encourage him to continue. This kind of implicit interaction is very beneficial to a harmonious married life.

4. If children see us having sex, will they panic?

Best to avoid being seen by children. Because it may awaken their sexual consciousness and make them imitate adults in playing sexual games with their friends.

If you really see it, you should carefully explain to your child and tell him not to make a fuss, as this is a way for everyone to express love. Never tell him in a serious manner that only adults can do this kind of thing, as that will arouse his curiosity.