3 tragic consequences of lovers living together too early

Modern young people are becoming more and more open-minded. They are no longer as cautious and restrained about love and marriage as their parents. If they are not suitable, they can just break up or divorce. Cohabitation has also become a very common social phenomenon.

Cohabitation, which is deeper than dating but shallower than marriage, is basically not protected by law and was even considered an immoral act in the past. But now the younger generation thinks it is foolish not to live together for a period of time before getting married. They don't want to repeat the mistakes of the previous generation and rush into marriage only to end up in divorce. Therefore, many people believe that cohabitation is simply a useful means to avoid unhappy marriages and divorces. But the reality is not always as people wish. Many men and women do not get married after living together, but end up breaking up.

People gradually came to believe that men chose to live together only to make it more convenient for them to have a sexual life with women, and that they would choose to abandon them after getting the women. Therefore, cohabitation is also considered an irresponsible behavior towards love and is rejected by many people.

A recent study showed that the earlier a couple lives together before marriage, the faster they will divorce after marriage. What is the inevitable connection between the two? Let’s take a look.

Men still have a playful heart

I remember that in "The Good Times of Wife", Mao Feng said after his marriage, "Why do I feel like I haven't had enough fun?" So he chose to disappear and run away the day after his marriage. He was 26 years old at that time. This is a good example that proves that men have a strong desire to play. For men, love is a game for two people. After they are tired of playing the game, men will choose marriage to end their freedom.

Generation, entered the siege.

A man who chooses to live together early before marriage proves that he is still an immature man who still has a playful heart. If he is not having a playful attitude, he will definitely think carefully before living together and will not easily choose to live together so early. And a marriage needs a mature man to maintain it for a long time.

Marriage is higher than love, because it represents a kind of responsibility, the responsibility to the lover and the family, and an immature man focuses on

The most important thing is yourself, whether you are happy or not. Therefore, the earlier a man lives with his wife before marriage, the less likely he will change after marriage. He will continue to do his own thing, so it is not surprising that he will get divorced earlier.

Tired of married life

Maybe you will say how can you get tired of married life when you just got married for a short time? Because cohabitation is a kind of married life. There is a saying that cohabitation and marriage are the same, except that marriage has an extra certificate.

It is said that it is easy to fall in love but hard to live together, and living together is not like being in love. When you are in love, you show your best side to your partner, but when living together you have to face a lot more and all your shortcomings will be exposed to your partner. You have to take care of housework, household expenses, personal privacy and so on. These many problems are enough to make a cohabitation fall apart.

People have a period of freshness when dealing with things. When the novelty wears off, people will get bored. Not to mention living together, there is also the seven-year itch after marriage. The earlier people start living together and the earlier they enter married life, the less novelty there will be after marriage, and divorce will naturally occur earlier.

Men and women who choose to live together have fewer traditional ideas about marriage and divorce, and do not think that marriage is sacred. This means that after a cohabiting couple gets married, if the marriage becomes pathological, they will be more likely to decide to divorce.

Marry out of duty

Once a man and a woman live together, they will receive a lot of attention from their relatives and friends. People around them will encourage them to get married: "When are you getting married?" At a friend's wedding, people like to ask cohabitors: "When is it your turn?" These social pressures can make the lives of some cohabiting men and women more entangled, so they decide to get married reluctantly, mostly out of guilt or fear, rather than true love.

After living with a woman for several years, many men are undecided about whether to marry her and feel guilty towards their girlfriend because he takes up too much of her time. If they do not marry her, she will become a leftover woman who is difficult to marry and it will be difficult for her to find a partner. Women lack control over the progress of cohabitation. They will take it for granted that the two of them are moving towards marriage step by step, but the man may just want to save rent and enjoy a life with someone.

If the man wants to get married, then the chances of getting married will be greater, but this is not the case if the woman wants to get married.

A marriage where the man marries the woman out of this kind of responsibility and guilt will obviously not last long and will end in divorce sooner.

Cohabitation is very harmful to girls because many of them are unaware of the role they play in cohabitation. If they also lack knowledge of contraception, an unexpected pregnancy will increase the harm of cohabitation. So before choosing to live together, you must think twice.