Three private things women can't say

In women's inner world there are some sexual secrets that can affect the relationship between husband and wife. They are usually unwilling to reveal these sexual secrets to men, so men can only explore and control them by themselves.

Sexual interest

Today, many husbands only care about making money and ignore sex. Busy work reduces the energy for sex, which will cause the wife to become sexually hungry over time. Ah Hua, who is in her 30s, said during a psychological consultation: "I have been married for more than ten years, and my husband and I have always had a harmonious sex life. But since my husband started his business, we have had less and less sex, and I always feel extremely tired after each time, so that my original sexual pleasure is gone. I have wanted to express my inner world to him several times, but every time the words came to my lips, I couldn't say them out loud."

Because women often lack initiative in sex, men often think that women lack sexual interest, but this is actually a misunderstanding. Sexual life is a normal physiological and psychological need. Both men and women have sexual needs. When women are sexually neglected or sexually hungry, they are even more eager for sexual interest. It is natural, reasonable and beyond reproach for women to need sex and crave the pleasure of sex. Do not regard this as sexual frivolity or promiscuity.

Sexual life is shared by both husband and wife. No matter which party it is, they have the obligation to cooperate with the other and the right to obtain sexual satisfaction from it. Therefore, when a wife needs sex, she might as well tell her husband so that he can cooperate and get sexual satisfaction.

However, if the husband is lacking in energy or is in poor health, the wife should also consider him, try to restrain herself, and take the initiative to care and be considerate of her husband. Never resent or blame her husband for not meeting her sexual needs. This will only cast a shadow on the relationship between husband and wife. As a husband, no matter how busy you are at work, you must reserve some energy and time for love.

Love needs time to consolidate, and sexual harmony requires experience accumulation. Contemporary sexologists have repeatedly called for leaving some time and energy for sex, and this is the significance of it.

So, what kind of sexual interests do women need? In fact, women of different ages often have different requirements for sexual interests. Generally speaking, women in their twenties pray for romantic sex, love talks, and poetic and picturesque things; women in their thirties, as their love matures, they long for their husbands to share the housework, educate the children, and pay attention to family life; women in their forties mostly hope that their husbands will have enough time for emotional communication; women over fifty pay attention to love language, and they long to reminisce the past with their husbands and talk about everything under the sun. Regarding this, the husband should be good at observing and exploring, and give his wife sexual interest in time to meet her sexual needs.

Sexual suspicion

Afang's husband is the manager of a company and the couple has always had a good relationship. But Fang said during the psychological consultation: "My husband has been bringing his female secretary home recently. Although I know they are working and I know he will not leave me, I feel uneasy every time I see the female secretary.

Whenever I make love with my husband, her figure immediately appears before my eyes, and suddenly, I lose all interest in it. I wanted to tell my husband what was in my heart, but I was afraid of hurting his self-esteem. What should I do?" Ah Fang's sexual psychological repression is the result of her husband's frequent interactions with the opposite sex.

It is understandable for a wife to have this kind of sexual psychology. However, for modern families, couples should give each other some space and allow interpersonal relationships, including normal interactions with the opposite sex. This kind of relationship includes interactions between colleagues, classmates, friends, etc. As long as they are working for career, unity and friendship, wives don't need to think too much. If a wife becomes suspicious, it would be unnecessary to become jealous.

Of course, the wife can tell her husband her thoughts indirectly or directly on appropriate occasions to gain his sympathy and understanding. This kind of sexual communication or emotional exchange is very necessary for sexual harmony. Otherwise, this misunderstanding or suspicion will become deeper and deeper, which will inevitably affect the couple's sexual love and relationship, and often become true, leading to family breakdown. This lesson is not uncommon, and wives should take it as a warning.

As a husband, you should know that between the two sexes, women are usually more jealous than men, and are more suspicious and envious. This is a weakness in women's sexual psychology. On the other hand, this is also an advantage of women. One of the greatest advantages of women is their loyalty and selfishness in love. As the saying goes, "The deeper the love, the heavier the hate." Therefore, men should pay attention to a certain scale and keep a sense of propriety when interacting with the opposite sex. They should not cross the line to avoid hurting their wife's love.

Sexual Fantasy

If the idol in women's minds loses its beautiful appearance, they often have sexual fantasies. The most peculiar thing about women is that they use their imagination to perfectly blend images and fantasies to know and feel the man they want to love.

A Xia, who is in her 30s, said during a psychological consultation: "When we were in love, he looked very elegant, with a clean white shirt and a unique hairstyle... After we got married, he gradually changed. His clothes were often not washed or changed for several days. He reeked of alcohol every day and fell asleep on the bed as soon as he got home. When I saw this situation, I was in a bad mood. I often fantasized that a prince charming who was elegant, neat, and knew my heart would come to my side. I would be willing to give everything I have to be with him..."

Azhen, who is in her 40s, said: "My husband's company is not doing well financially. He sighs when he comes home and is not in the mood at all. Although I try to persuade and comfort him, there is no improvement. Although I love him and feel sorry for him, I don't know why I often fantasize about being with my lover from my youth. Really, I always fantasize like this."

The sexual fantasies of these two women are not accidental, but are precisely triggered by the ugly image of their husbands. The husbands should understand this. One of the differences between humans and animals in sex is that humans have sexual fantasies. Sex psychologists believe that as long as sexual fantasies are not excessive, it is not a bad thing. On the contrary, some sexual fantasies can make sex more harmonious, more romantic and more interesting. For women, their sexual fantasies tend to be romantic. They like to imagine a prince charming lover, meet him in a romantic environment, etc. The objects of young women's fantasies are often athletes, movie stars or singers; while the objects of middle-aged women's fantasies are mostly their lovers and the people they love.

Although moderate sexual fantasies are not a bad thing, excessive sexual fantasies will affect the sexual life of couples and even lead to the breakdown of their relationship. Therefore, as a wife, once you have sexual fantasies, you might as well tell your husband and let him know that the reason for the sexual fantasies is that he does not have a beautiful image. As a husband, you should try your best to establish a beautiful image in your wife's mind so as to reawaken the opposite-sex effect between husband and wife.