I am too tired to divorce. What should I do?

In ancient China, gender inequality was very serious. Women became nuns and followed their husbands, while men could have many wives and concubines. If they wanted to separate, they could only wait for a divorce letter. It can be said that marriage equality is the result of the efforts of several generations of Chinese people. However, after achieving equal status, we also discovered a problem, that is, the divorce rate is high. Life is stressful, with many things to do and many temptations. What should we do if someone is too tired and wants to divorce?

Many men want divorce, and men generally don't tell women directly when they want divorce. Sometimes, considering the relationship between husband and wife, they let women take the initiative to propose it. Some just hold on to the idea of ​​getting by. Neither of these two decisions could change his inner desire to divorce. What are the signs that a man wants a divorce? If half of the following conditions are met, be careful.

Ignore you, no more tenderness

It is said that marriage is the life of two people, and it needs to be managed together to live a good life. A man who loves you will hold your hand tightly when crossing the road, and will rub your head after hugging and kissing you. When a man doesn't love you, he won't even bother to talk to you. When you ask him a question, he will just say "um" or "you decide". He will just answer you perfunctorily without even raising his eyelids and will ignore you. If you continue talking, you will only get an awkward response like "Are you annoying? You keep nagging all day long."

It is said that a person's energy is limited. If a man is no longer willing to devote his energy to you, no longer wants to hug you, and is unwilling to give you tenderness and patience, and instead is indifferent, cold, or even violent, then it means that he doesn't love you that much.

I lost my sense of responsibility towards my family and became reluctant to go home.

As the saying goes, "A nest of gold or silver is not as good as your own little nest." For a man, family is not only a shelter from wind and rain, but also a small world for his spiritual resting place. If a man is tired after a day at work but doesn't want to go home to face his wife and children, it means that there is a conflict in the relationship between the two. Which husband, after a tiring day at work, doesn't want to go home early to eat a hot meal prepared by his wife and watch his lovely children surrounding him and calling him "Dad"?

There are many excuses for not loving someone. A phrase like "overtime" or "busy" can break the promise made solemnly. When a man loses his sense of responsibility for his family and no longer cares about his family, it is often the beginning of his change of heart.

Like to pick on your "thorns" and step on your "mines"

When two people get along together for a long time, they will gradually understand what "minefields" the other party has that cannot be touched. Two people who truly love each other will not easily uncover each other's scars or step on each other's pain points, no matter what happens. However, if a man frequently opens your wounds, starts to "dig up old accounts" of your past mistakes, and brings up those old and trivial things again, then it is worth investigating how much he cares about you.

Over time, the marriage will be full of conflicts, and the resentment will grow like a snowball. Eventually, you will not be able to stand such a life and will take the initiative to say "divorce", which is exactly what the man is thinking.

Saying in front of others, "The relationship between husband and wife has faded"

When my friend Xiaoqin got divorced, her friends questioned her and said, "Actually, your husband is a good man. Is it your fault?" But she cried and complained to me the truth: she got married because she was pregnant, and in fact she discovered her husband was cheating not long after the marriage. But thinking that the child was still young, and in order not to worry her parents, she did not tell this matter to anyone. She just hoped that he was willing to reform and that they could live on.

But unexpectedly, her husband often said to others outside, "The relationship between husband and wife has faded a long time ago, just make do with it" and "Just make do with it, the most important thing for a man is responsibility", etc., making everyone think that Xiaoqin had done something wrong, and they comforted him, "Life needs to go slowly. Xiaoqin did something wrong, so you should be more tolerant of her and don't argue with her as a woman." Now they are divorced, the man said nice things, and Xiaoqin is in a difficult situation.

When a man tells his relatives and friends that the relationship between him and his wife has long broken down, he is actually paving the way for divorce. All your friends know that you two have no feelings for each other. With the gossip and your own relationship problems, divorce is only a matter of time.