Don't just think about making a woman orgasm when having sex

If the only purpose of a man's sex is to ejaculate, then women will only be interested in "orgasm". There are two viewpoints that we often talk about, one is "process is more important than results", and the other is "results are above everything else". Obviously, the two are contradictory. Influenced by the neoliberal ideology originating from the United States, Japanese men pay more attention to the results and less attention to the process when it comes to sex.

If men pay too much attention to ejaculation, it will greatly reduce the fun of sex. Women who are only interested in "orgasm" will fall into the biggest misunderstanding of sex.

There is such a situation that after making love, if you only look at it from the surface, it seems that both people have reached the so-called "climax", but in fact it is typical junk sex - first it is oral sex, the woman puts the man's penis in her mouth and caresses it, and then the man spreads the woman's vulva and licks it until the other party reaches the so-called "climax", and finally inserts the penis into the vagina, and ejaculates comfortably after a violent piston movement.

Indeed, the woman climaxed and the man climaxed. Both people made each other reach orgasm, so this kind of sex should at least pass. Not really! At least according to my requirements, it has not even entered the door of sex. At most, it can only be regarded as masturbation completed by two people using each other's bodies. If both men and women believe that the only purpose of sex is to reach "orgasm", then sex will become such a vulgar act, no different from that of animals. This kind of sex is impossible to bring you real pleasure and comfort, unless it is completely irresponsible one-night stand or wild sex, this method may bring you some satisfaction. But if you are a lover or a couple, as long as your sexual partner is relatively fixed, this monotonous and boring way of sex will make both parties feel bored before long.

I have already said in the previous chapter that there is a fundamental difference between "orgasm" and "feeling comfortable". If it's just to reach a "climax", why bother with so much effort. As long as you hold your penis into a cylinder shape and quickly stroke it, or use your tongue to vigorously stimulate the clitoris, both men and women will quickly reach orgasm.

In a word, men and women who only know how to pursue climax have a very low "level" in the sex game, and most of them are under 20 years old. These young people do not have much experience with "orgasm", so it is understandable that they think "orgasm" is the greatest pleasure in sex. But mature men should not be like this; their sexual goals should be higher. Although the pleasure brought by ejaculation is real, it is too short-lived. The focus of the sex scene should be on enjoying the endless "feeling of comfort"; at the same time, use your gentle caresses and skillful techniques to bring infinite joy to the woman. Only in this way can you quickly move from a low-level player to a high-level player. Everyone should be very clear that once you reach this state, in the eyes of women you will inevitably become a "mature man with extraordinary charm", possessing the true "manly spirit" that is enviable and even jealous.

Some men always try to find ways to make women reach orgasm. This idea is definitely correct, but the problem is that they neither understand the special physiological structure of women nor have the necessary sexual skills, so they are unable to do so. I have said before that the idea that "the more intense the stimulation, the more comfortable the woman will be" is completely wrong. In order to make the woman reach orgasm quickly, many men will even use all their breastfeeding strength to caress the clitoris vigorously or thrust rapidly in the vagina. But women will not feel comfortable because of this, they may even feel painful. Some women's bodies are very sensitive, and even if men use such rough methods, they can reach orgasm as long as their erogenous zones are stimulated. But men should know that the so-called "orgasm" brought to women by wrong methods like this may not be as strong and lasting as the pleasure they get through masturbation.

In my years of consulting work, I often hear women say: "Actually, masturbation is much more comfortable than having sex with my boyfriend, but I just can't tell him." After I used orgasm massage techniques on them, they realized that making love feels much better than masturbation. But today, junk sex is rampant. Instead of relying on men's hands to touch you recklessly and casually, it is better to do it yourself. At least you know the limits and are more familiar with the location of the erogenous zones on your body.