Should women confess their sexual experiences to men?

One belief is that as long as it is something a man cares about, I must try my best to hide it. Even if a man asks me hard, I cannot say it out loud. I would rather let the other party be suspicious than let him know the truth. They are very cautious, fearing that men will care about their past, and fearing that certain behaviors of their past will affect their relationship.

The other type is bolder. They are always honest with their lovers. No matter when and where, no matter whether the other person is in a good mood or a bad mood, they can confess everything to men without leaving out a single detail. They always believe that if the relationship breaks down because they expose too many shortcomings, it only means that he doesn't love me.

Two kinds of women, two choices, both hoping for a good outcome. But many situations are not as simple as we think. Some secrets can be concealed, but there are some secrets you must confess. Let me tell you the mystery.

In fact, the same thing said at different times and in different situations will have completely opposite effects.

Not long after you two started dating, you told him that you are not a virgin. Think about how he would react? Doing so will undoubtedly make your boyfriend lose all interest in you. "What a promiscuous girl!" I guess he would think so in his heart.

But if you tell him the same question when you are in love, do you know how he will react? "Why should I care so much? I am with you because I love you!" Men usually express it like this. It's not hypocrisy or sweet talk, it's just that when two people are in love, most men will become particularly tolerant. That's a kind of persistence and self-confidence of "I can give up the whole world but will not abandon you."

In fact, whether you are a virgin or not has little to do with whether you are loyal. It may be completely accidental, or you may not be able to control yourself when the love is strong. But when a relationship is just beginning, men often cannot accept it, because at this time, their expectations of their lovers are more important.

For example, a man may want to find a "beautiful, rich and white" woman at first, but when he finds out that the other person is "short, poor and ugly", he will naturally be discouraged. But when he is deeply attracted to other aspects of "short, poor and ugly" and falls in love with her day by day, will he still care so much about her shortness, poverty and uglyness? Obviously not.

Yes, there are many things, please say them when he loves you the most. Although there are risks, they are the lowest at this time.

At the same time, many people will ask, do I need to confess my past sexual experiences to him? I think this question is very simple. What you cannot hide and what a man can investigate is whether you are a virgin. As for your past, he has no idea. So, why bother to be sentimental, causing trouble for yourself and making things difficult for the other party?

You might as well think about it from another perspective. If you find out that he is not as innocent as you imagined, and that he has also done things like holding hands, hugging, and kissing another woman, how would you feel? Over time, you will inevitably compare his current behavior with his past experiences, and then there will be constant associations, guesses, and suspicions.

So the best way for women to deal with it is to not say anything actively. If the other party wants to know, you can just downplay it and brush it off: "I'm sorry, it's not that I don't want to tell you, but I really have forgotten that unfaithful man", "Oh my God, I wish I had met you directly so that I could avoid him", "Why talk about sad things? Aren't we living a good life now?"... Yes, you have long forgotten the sad things in the past, because you are living a good life with him now.

I have always believed that only by being honest with each other in a relationship can one love without feeling wronged or burdened. But sometimes, not every confession can win a man's sympathy and understanding, and not every confession can enhance the relationship between the two. Women should think twice before they act, knowing what to say, what not to say, and what to say at a specific time.

But whether she says it or not, women should not have any concerns in their hearts. Don't think that hiding the truth means you owe him something. Compared with your other charms, these little secrets are not a flaw. Of course, you also shouldn’t assume that the other person is completely truthful. Perhaps his secrets are even more unspeakable.