What are the crooked thoughts that men have when dating?

For men, the first date is very important, and many men want to get it done in one go. If his first invitation is rejected, he will lose confidence and may try his luck with another woman. It is a big mistake to think that all men are sticky and have unyielding beliefs.

Men want to get it done in one go.

With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only need to work longer hours, but the distance between their residence and workplace is also getting farther and farther. Some surveys even suggest that they only have 22.3 minutes a day to do whatever they want.

Women need 21.2 minutes to decide what to wear; men need 18.7 minutes to fix their hair and shave. The actual idle time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes respectively. Of course, the above statement is a bit exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a time-consuming thing.

In order to increase their chances of getting married, 57% of men meet their significant other through friends’ introductions, 31% meet them at bars or parties, and 12% choose to date work colleagues. Once a man wants to get close to a woman, he will most likely take the initiative to invite her. It is not difficult to achieve this step. As long as you are not timid or have too high self-esteem, you should be able to achieve it in a relaxed state of mind.

72% of men set the first date in a restaurant and then watch a movie; 27% go hiking or do sports, and the remaining 1% will think of some unexpected ways.

If the first date goes well, men will believe that the relationship between the two will have a good chance of developing well. On the other hand, if a woman fails to impress him on the first date, he will disappear and never be heard from again. Because men habitually assume that there will be no second chance, they tend to be attentive on the first date.

Therefore, if the woman is sincere in accepting the man's intention, she should give corresponding hints. If you are numb, slow or indecisive and fail to convey the message "I think you are good too" to the other party in time, and do not create conditions conducive to action for men, perhaps the relationship between the two will not make any progress in the end. To put it bluntly, there are more and more spoiled men who are too shy and not good at approaching women. Such men often expect women to take the initiative.

When dating reaches a certain point, men will first consider taking the relationship to the next level. It is said that men are animals with lower bodies, and some even say that when they are on a date, they are always thinking about the timing of kissing. This is not an exaggeration. 58% of men believe that if we are really compatible, having intimate contact on the first date will not reduce my love for her. 21% think 3 dates is better and 21% more than 6 dates. Generally speaking, when they have some intimate intentions, they will first want to understand the other person's thoughts, and at the same time try their best to convey their affection to the other person.

The first condition for intimate contact is mutual affection. It's too rash. It doesn't feel good to be slapped or have wine poured on your face by a woman in public. When it comes to testing women's feelings, men are definitely sensitive and scheming old foxes.

It is common to pretend to touch the woman's hand lightly or put your knee close to her knee to check her reaction when watching a movie.

In a bar, sitting side by side facing the bar can have the same effect, and you can feel her attitude through the seemingly accidental contact of shoulders. If the woman immediately pulls her hands or knees away, then you can conclude that she has no intention of taking the matter further, at least not yet. On the contrary, if she doesn't avoid it, it means there is a chance. After confirmation, how to implement the action?

Prolonging the date time is the first priority. Suggest having dessert after the meal, taking a walk together, or even walking the girl home. Once such an invitation is made, it can be basically concluded that he has other intentions. Can they accept kissing? Can they eventually commit to each other? Several nights before the date, they have been simulating the action plan from the date that night to the final ending, asking close friends for advice, posting on the Internet, and pondering when and where to kiss.

During the date, they rack their brains to think about the next step, so they often speak absent-mindedly and chew food without paying any attention to the taste. Even when the woman next to them is in the mood for a heart-to-heart talk, they are often unaware of it.

The "Train Man" story, which is very popular in Japan, tells the story of an ordinary man who sought advice on the largest BBS in Japan on how to pursue a woman he met on the Shinkansen. He mobilized tens of thousands of netizens to offer suggestions. Later, this true event was adapted into a book, movie, TV series, and drama. It can be seen that it is not easy for men to invite women, and it has become a very resonant topic among men.

Men play out dating scenarios in their heads countless times:

What to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what to talk about during the meal, and then how to implement the next step. Repeatedly revising the plan and constantly imagining whether it will be successful often results in more nervousness and anxiety. No matter how mentally prepared they are or how many simulations they practice, the actual date may not go as they wish.

For men and women who have feelings for each other but are in the stage of testing each other, whether the timing and mentality of both parties are in sync is a very subtle matter. Often, they miss a good opportunity due to the wrong interpretation of a facial expression or action. Even if the woman is interested, it will not be easy to succeed once she misses the opportunity. If a woman declines a kiss or intimate gesture, how will a man respond? Unfortunately, almost all men will not ask for it again, but simply give up.

Of course, there are also some persistent men who refuse to give up and try their best to get the other party, waiting for an opportunity to make a comeback. However, in more cases, men are exhausted by their good intentions and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, so they would rather give up in order to avoid further hurt.

Therefore, if you also want to get along with him, want to kiss or have intimate contact, even if you are not fully prepared mentally at the moment, you should try to make it clear to avoid misunderstandings. It is a pity to lose the fate because of not understanding the other party's true intentions, to give up the relationship because you blindly assume that the other party is insincere, or to miss the opportunity because you don't understand the other party's true intentions in order to protect your self-esteem and worry about failure. As long as you express yourself a little, everything will be as you wish. Unfortunately, some men and women who have feelings for each other ultimately fail.