Are there more benefits to a relationship between an older woman and a younger man? Women are older than men and their physiology is more synchronized

On a TV dating show, a female guest said to a male guest who was several years younger than her: "I don't mind that you are younger than me." As soon as this was said, there was an uproar in the audience, and the host quickly responded: "You don't care that others are younger than you, but others care that you are older than them."

He doesn't really care about your age.

When men are in a rational state, they usually tend to choose women younger than themselves when choosing a mate. Those who marry women older than themselves often fall in love without realizing it and choose to stick to love. But there are also men who are attracted to women who are older than themselves. For example, someone once asked on my Weibo: Is it a psychological problem to be only interested in slightly older women?

In addition, some people also want me to analyze the psychological motivation of "sister-brother love". Is there a lack of something, so they want to find a sister (brother) to make up for themselves?

I don’t want to use psychoanalytic theory to explore the psychology of “sister-brother love” couples, because this will not change people’s choice of love. I just want to answer the above question in one sentence: People do repeat early relationship patterns in romantic relationships, but this "repetition" focuses more on the partner's personality traits and way of expressing love, rather than age. In addition, when it comes to choosing a partner, the saying "Everyone has their own preferences" is enough to answer people's questions.

Although the "sister-brother love" combination is not mainstream, its existence is reasonable, and such love does have many advantages.

Strong emotional foundation

The mainstream love combination in society is older man and younger woman, but "sister-brother love" couples do the opposite - it is women's nature to pursue men with abundant resources, and it is men's nature to pursue young and beautiful women - often because they love each other from the bottom of their hearts, and go beyond external conditions to love each other's character, thoughts, values, spiritual pursuits and other inner stable things, which are the basis for the healthy development of love relationships.

Integration adds to the power

Under the influence of their younger boyfriends, women in a "sister-brother relationship" will look younger, have more active thinking, and greater vitality than their peers. Men, on the other hand, will expand their horizons and thinking and mature quickly under the influence of their mature girlfriends. When two people establish a virtuous cycle, they will get more fresh nourishment in the relationship.

Higher quality of sexual relationships

The love story often played out in movies is about a middle-aged man and a young woman. But that's just in the movies, in real life this is not a biologically plausible combination.

Men's sexual maturity peaks around the age of 18-20, then develops steadily. After the age of 30, it begins to show a downward trend, and the decline becomes more obvious at the age of 40. However, women reach their peak of sexual maturity much later than men, usually around 35-40 years old, and women's sexual maturity decline period basically occurs after menopause around 50 years old.

From this point of view, "sister-brother love" can often have a good quality of sexual relationship.

Emotional management is more intelligent

Men have an easy time concentrating, but this makes it difficult for them to take care of multiple things at the same time. So when a man devotes a lot of energy to career development, he will appear dull and passive in emotional relationships. Women, on the other hand, are born with divergent thinking and are better at handling multiple things at the same time. Therefore, when a relationship becomes stable, a woman's emotional intelligence determines the success or failure of a relationship, and the happiness of the family is closely related to the management ability of the hostess. According to my observation, when the hostess of a family is unable to take the lead in family affairs, the stability and happiness of the family will be affected.

When a wife is older than her husband, her rich life experience often benefits her husband greatly, making it easy for her to gain his respect and trust. Then when conflicts arise in family life, the husband will be willing to stop and listen to his wife's opinions, making the problem easier to solve. At the same time, mature women with certain life experiences are often able to take on the role of hostess well. When faced with conflicts in a relationship, women tend to reflect on themselves more and try to solve the problems patiently, rather than just getting emotional and pushing the responsibility of solving the problems onto men who are not good at this.

In this way, the success rate of love relationships will be greatly improved.