The mistress comes to your door? 5 tips to help you face embarrassment gracefully

Cheating is every woman's nightmare. Cheating and having a mistress are always linked together. A nightmare even worse than this is that you have a man who has the guts to cheat but not the guts to admit it, and the woman he has attracted comes to your house and demands that you give in, while the man disappears in a cowardly manner. What else can you do besides kicking him away? Here are 5 tips to help you face embarrassment gracefully.

Almost all women hate cheating, and almost all men have a dream of cheating in their hearts. But here, we must say something fair. Cheating is not unique to men. According to statistics, the cheating rates of men and women are not very different. Of course, the ways in which men and women cheat are different.

Men are animals of desire, and they cheat more to vent their physical desires, so physical cheating is more common. Women are emotional animals. They cheat more because of lack of love, so psychological cheating is more common. It is worth noting that if a woman goes to bed with someone else, her heart is also with that person. Even if a man goes to bed, it doesn't mean he will be with someone else.

Men’s attitude towards cheating is that it’s no big deal as long as the red flag is flying at home and the colorful flags are flying outside, while women remain as loyal as ever. One cheated but was hypocritical, while the other was loyal even when he cheated. From this aspect, we can see that no matter whether a woman cheats or not, what she pursues is the true love of a man. Even if this man has nothing and can give her nothing, as long as she thinks he is sincere to her, she will follow him and start from scratch. Therefore, men listen to the guidance of their lower body to cheat, while women listen to the call of their heart.

Categories of cheating

There are three types of cheating. The first one is called physiological cheating. Everyone should be able to understand that it means physically cheating and having sex with someone else. Is physical infidelity simply a way to vent desires? Is it completely without any feelings? Many men's physical infidelity is just for fun, such as going to nightclubs. Is it really as they say, just physical indulgence without any psychological fluctuations?

In fact, it is just an excuse. Any physical infidelity carries a small amount of psychological infidelity. To put it simply, at the moment of having sex, a man will develop a favorable impression of the woman. This is a moment of psychological infidelity. For women, physical infidelity always comes after psychological infidelity. Once cheated, the heart can never come back. If people were asked to rank which is more unforgivable, physical infidelity or psychological infidelity, it would almost be no surprise. Most men find physical infidelity unforgivable, while most women find psychological infidelity unforgivable.

How do you define psychological cheating? To put it simply, when a person falls in love with someone outside of their marriage, it is considered psychological cheating. This involves a moral issue. Does loving someone mean loving them for life? Morally and theoretically speaking, maybe yes. But in reality, we can see that very few people love someone for a lifetime. To be fair, lifelong love is not a one-sided issue; it requires the right time, place and people.

Although we will live with the same person throughout our long life, there will always be times when our hearts will be free. No matter how good a person is, one or two years is fine, but in ten or twenty years, won't there be someone who will make your heart beat faster? To put it more bluntly, when you are walking on the street, won't you fantasize about a sexy woman or a handsome man for a while? But this does not mean that cheating is a forgivable behavior. Appreciating a beautiful woman and pursuing to possess her are two different things. Although people are controlled by physiological instincts, what makes them human is that they have reason and logic and know what they should and should not do. If you do it, you must have the courage to bear the worst consequences.

What should I do if I encounter a mistress?

When facing a mistress who calls you and asks you to meet to talk things out, although it is sometimes really unbearable and you may lose your mind, say bad things, etc., in the long run, I still have to tell you some tips to stay calm! After all, you are about to cut off your old love and embrace a new life. The theory is that if you are unlucky enough to meet a man who only has the guts to enjoy beauty but not the courage to bear the consequences, and the woman he has provoked comes to confront you and asks you to leave and make way for her, what should you do?

The mistress is soft-hearted and will not take hard measures

When facing a mistress who calls you and asks you to meet to talk things out, although it is sometimes really unbearable and you may lose your mind, say bad things, etc., in the long run, I still have to tell you some tips to stay calm! After all, you are about to cut off your old love and embrace a new life. The mistress is soft-hearted and will not tolerate hardship. Most women get so angry when facing a mistress that they yell at her. But if you change your perspective and say calmly, "I hope you can be together well," you can help this relationship that is destroying your happiness. You may find it difficult to do this, but there are two reasons worth considering: First, the mistress likes the feeling of snatching, so she won’t want it that much if it’s given to her by others. Secondly, if you really fulfill a true relationship a few years later, it will be a good deed.

Don't compare it to the past.

This is very difficult! You will absolutely be tempted to compare your double times with each other. But I advise you not to do that. It will only make you more sad and upset when you wake up in the middle of the night! Remember that it has already happened. It is meaningless to think about it any more. What you need to do now is to move forward!

Don't compare your advantages with hers.

You are you and she is her, and you don't want to be her, so there is no need to think about the pros and cons, wins and losses between you and her, because that is definitely not the main reason for the failure of your relationship, and there is no winning or losing between you and her.