Several reasons why women can't find a husband

In modern life, there are more and more leftover women, because the aesthetic views of most women have improved, and their standards for choosing a partner have also increased, resulting in them being left alone for longer and longer periods of time. Often these leftover women have their own reasons and feel that these are the reasons for being leftover. So, what are some silly excuses for not being able to find a boyfriend? Do you want to understand women’s sexual psychology? Let’s follow the editor to see the excuses women use for not being able to find a boyfriend.

1. Her reason for leaving everything to fate: “I can’t find my significant other”

The reason behind this: She is right. She didn't meet the right person. Because she was unwilling to take risks, she told herself that she would definitely lose before she went to the battlefield. She refused to face the possible dangers of love. Her rejection of feelings is a cover-up for her lack of confidence.

Moreover, if someone advises her to start a relationship, she will quickly admit: "No matter what, I'm a waste!" What kind of mother does such a self-depreciating woman have? Does her mother say more frequently: You can only find a man if you lose weight, stop cutting your hair, be more feminine, and go to more social occasions? Or does two-thirds of her sentences begin with "My poor daughter"? In order to get out of the pain of self-deprecation, a woman who resigns herself to fate may shift from "I am a waste" to "all men are waste." Oh, this is exactly what my mother always says!

How do you overcome this fear? Start learning self-confidence and recognizing your self-worth.

2. Her reason for being a female warrior: "Men are afraid of me"

The reason behind this: Of course men are afraid of her because she is strong and confident. No one saw that there was a hurt, crying child in her heart. What childhood trauma is she trying to repair as she grows up? What is she rebelling against? Her father, her grandfather, her brother, her boss, her ex-boyfriend? Has she seen her mother repeatedly humiliated and secretly resolved not to repeat the same mistake?

Because she rejected the hope and need for an emotional life, she had to make herself more independent. She wants to be in control of her own life, and she doesn't think anyone can live up to her expectations. Some might say she overestimates herself. But in fact, she has been hovering between inferiority and self-conceit.

How to overcome this fear? We must understand that before we conquer a man, we must first become the master of ourselves. Face up to your past.

3. Her reason for independence: “I love my freedom”

The reason behind this: She is busy with work, fitness, exhibitions, concerts, meeting friends, and vacations. But she didn't have a single minute to herself. Where is the time for a man in her schedule? In fact, she makes her life so full just to leave no room for a man to have a place in her life.

Where does this extreme desire for self-control and fear of losing control come from? Most likely, her parents like to give orders, always judge her actions, always criticize, and always look at her with scrutiny. If she couldn't say "no" to this kind of scrutiny when she was a little girl, she wouldn't be able to face men when she grew up. So she chose to close herself off and leave no gaps.

4. Her romantic reason: "I am waiting for the most suitable person"

The reason behind this: She is a romantic girl who has not grown up yet and still thinks she is a superhero who can get whatever she wants. She may appear intelligent, capable, and lucid in many areas. But once faced with emotional issues, she becomes "blind"! She is waiting for her prince charming at the top of the ivory tower. Her fears were hidden behind romance and pure love. But her life is a challenge to mediocrity.

Unfortunately, she will keep waiting because if she doesn't take this step, no one will. Especially when she doesn't accept the reality that Prince Charming is never a real person and that people make mistakes, just like herself.

How to overcome this fear? Face the reality: go to the cinema alone or chat on dating websites.

5. Plato's Her Reason: "I don't like sex"

The reason behind this: She likes her job, has many friends around her, and in short, she knows how to manage interpersonal relationships, as long as sex is not involved. What she fears is not love but sex. Many women don't realize this. Before, she had been able to face this fear in the arms of her partner, anyway.

Nowadays, celibacy has become accepted by everyone, so she simply adopts this form to avoid sex. As time goes by, her fear of sex will gradually deepen. At least she cannot feel at ease in today's sexualized society. Additionally, she worried that she couldn’t enjoy sex, which kept her stuck in an “abnormal” state.

How to overcome this fear? Increase your body's sensitivity through dance, movement and body therapy.

Warm reminder: The above editor introduces to you five silly excuses for women who can’t find a boyfriend. I believe you all understand them! In life, female friends must not blindly pursue romance and miss their own happiness.