Nine classic manifestations of spiritual "sexual derailment"

When there is mental infidelity, it may actually present a different form of transference. On the contrary, actual infidelity may be just for sex, while this kind of mental infidelity is more likely to be mental transference. Therefore, in real life, one no longer regards the other half of the marriage as the closest person. Of course, one will want to keep a distance from the other party’s relatives and friends, and may even have no enthusiasm or mood for them, and want to avoid them as much as possible.

1. Often find excuses not to go home, and would rather be alone at home

The spouse who is mentally unfaithful will find going home boring and will often find excuses not to go home. Even if he or she does go home, he or she would rather be alone.

2. Feeling annoyed for no apparent reason and keeping people at a distance

The party who has mentally cheated will definitely have someone else in his or her heart. This person may be a secret love or just an ambiguous relationship, but the party who has mentally cheated will often focus their mental attention on someone else.

3. Love becomes a routine, relying on imaginary objects to stimulate interest

The party who has mentally cheated often has no interest in sexual intercourse with the couple. Even if it is sometimes necessary for physical reasons, it is a routine act, but it is often quick and decisive. If one of the spouses is mentally unfaithful, the couple's sex life will easily become boring. This is what is called "the affectionate are often annoyed by the heartless."

4. Comparing the other person with others and finding everything about the other person bad

In marriage, they find nothing good in their partner and will complain about even the smallest things. They will even find fault with their partner deliberately during quarrels to make their partner feel wronged. Even if the other party tries hard to behave, it is always unsatisfactory to their partner. They also always compare their partner with others, either overtly or covertly, and the more they compare, the less interesting they become.

5. They are very unwilling to give in to the other party and will ignore them when they get angry.

They are very reluctant to give in to the other party. Once provoked, even if the other party is crying out of grievance, he (she) is too lazy to give in. Instead, he (she) throws the other party aside and goes about his (her) business, or goes to find entertainment.

6. You can’t remember the other person’s birthday and your gifts are just perfunctory

When one spouse has mentally cheated, it is often virtually impossible to maintain the passion in the marriage. Therefore, we often forget other people’s birthdays because of other excuses. Even if we remember, we will not carefully choose gifts, and even if we do give them a gift, we will just make do with what we have. I no longer spend as much money on gifts as before, but always make excuses like I need to save money.

7. He seems indifferent to you when you are happy but not to him

When the other party has an emotional affair, when the other party has something happy, such as being rewarded at work, or receiving a bonus, or being praised by others, or being promoted, they will return home very happy. However, the one who has an emotional affair will seem to be indifferent, and will think that you are happy but he (she) is unhappy. In the end, the whole atmosphere will be ruined and there will be no interest at all.

8. You often have little secrets in your heart and are unwilling to share them with others

The party who has committed an emotional affair often hides some personal thoughts in his heart and is unwilling to share them with the other party. Although these thoughts can be brought out, they are used to opening such a private space in their hearts, and they often feel that these thoughts are connected with the emotional lover. Therefore, they would rather store them for fermentation than show them to their partner.

9. Treat the other person's relatives and friends coldly, and sometimes even want to hide away

When there is mental infidelity, it may actually present a different form of transference. On the contrary, actual infidelity may be just for sex, while this kind of mental infidelity is more likely to be mental transference.