Should couples sleep in separate beds?

1. Young couples-----children become the reason for sleeping in separate beds

One day, in the sexual medicine clinic, the doctor received a 50-year-old man who said he had been suffering from ED (erectile dysfunction) for 3 years. It can be hard in the morning, but it becomes soft as soon as I walk into my wife's room. It's really useless and my wife is very annoyed about it.

After detailed questioning, the doctor found out that the couple had been sleeping in separate rooms for the past twelve years since his son was born.

"The child is already 12 years old, and still needs his mother to sleep with him?" the doctor asked puzzledly. The child's father said that because the child always had to be woken up by his mother to pee in the middle of the night, and he had always slept with his mother since he was a child, he could not be separated from her for a while, so the couple had less and less sex life, and as a result, he became soft at the critical moment...

There was another couple who slept in separate beds because of their baby, and eventually got divorced. Ms. Chen said that in the beginning, everything was done for the baby and she didn't think much about it, but the relationship between the couple became increasingly distant. Every time they had sex, they had to do a lot of preliminary preparation, and everyone was very impatient. After a long time, they lost interest and slowly ended up getting divorced. Ms. Chen said that although sleeping in separate beds is not the main reason for divorce, 30%-40% of the time it is a factor. As a result, there is no intimacy in the relationship, quarrels become more and more frequent, and finally the couple becomes strangers.

2. Middle-aged and elderly couples: Sleep in separate beds if snoring disturbs each other

After middle age, some couples start to sleep in separate beds for many reasons, such as one partner starting to snore as he or she gets older, and the snoring is so loud that the other partner cannot fall asleep. Another partner has serious sleep disorders, such as insomnia, early awakening, and difficulty falling asleep. Once they get into bed, they start tossing and turning, which disturbs their partner's sleep.

Of course, there are also some couples whose sex life is not harmonious, and sleeping in separate beds and rooms becomes the best excuse to avoid sex. When Ms. Liu got married, the couple loved each other very much, but not long after, they started quarreling over various trivial matters. Her husband became more and more unhappy and then suffered from psychological ED. As a result, they simply slept in separate beds and ignored each other.

There are also some elderly people who, because they are bound by old ideas, think that couples should no longer sleep together when they are older, as their sons and grandchildren will think they are disrespectful to the elderly, so they gradually start sleeping in separate beds.

3. Expert opinion: Husband and wife should not sleep in separate beds, let alone separate rooms

Sleeping in each other's arms is the best representation of an intimate relationship. If you sleep in separate beds, the level of intimacy has decreased, whether you admit it or not. The sexual needs of a couple will become cold due to sleeping in separate beds for a long time. The man’s sexual function will be affected due to “use it or lose it”, which will eventually cause disharmony in the couple’s life and even lead to the breakdown of the family.

Director Jiang Hui, a male medicine expert at Peking University Third Hospital, said that regardless of age, couples should not sleep in separate beds. People need the warmth of love. If they sleep in separate beds or even separate rooms, emotional communication will definitely be affected. Sexual life is an important and indispensable part of the relationship between husband and wife and serves as a lubricant. After sleeping in separate beds for a long time, it becomes difficult to sleep in the same bed again, which is often something many people cannot predict.

Of course, maybe sleeping in separate beds and rooms are not the main reason for the breakup, but it is still recommended to end this situation of sleeping in separate beds and rooms immediately.

After a young couple has a child, generally speaking, they should let the child develop the habit of sleeping alone before the child is six months old (even earlier according to Western practice), and no later than three years old. There are two reasons for this. First, it helps to cultivate the child's independence so that he can adapt to the social environment more quickly and smoothly when he grows up. Second, it is beneficial to the life of the couple. The couple should not be deprived of the opportunity for love because of the child, the "third party".

For most middle-aged couples, sleeping in the same bed will cause some interference to each other, and they will sleep better if they sleep in separate beds or even in separate rooms. However, these interfering factors, such as snoring, insomnia and other problems, can be solved medically.

The elderly should not sleep in separate beds. You know, most of them have underlying diseases, such as diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, etc. If two people sleep in separate beds, there will be no one to take care of them when they sleep at night, and it will be difficult to detect cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases in time. This is a very dangerous thing for the elderly. Therefore, no matter what the reason, couples should not sleep in separate beds, let alone separate rooms.