7 Things You Should Never Do When You Are Angry

International Online Special Report: Everyone has seven emotions and six desires, and "anger" is one of the emotions that makes our negative energy surge and explode quickly. There are too many books telling you how to deal with anger and turn negative energy into positive energy. Even so, few people tell us what we should not do when we are angry. Generally speaking, the actions we consciously take when we are angry will make things worse. Here are the 7 "don'ts" in anger summarized by experts:

First, don’t “sleep on it”

The Journal of Neurobiology points out that if people go to bed when they are angry, it will aggravate the accumulation of negative emotions because the sleep process will strengthen the operation of the memory system in the brain, especially the emotional factors in the memory system. Expert Allen said: "In general, we know that sleep can help us process memories and information stored in the waking state, so choosing to sleep immediately after a fierce argument will aggravate the accumulation of intense emotions. Generally speaking, staying awake for 8 hours after an argument will be good for digesting negative energy."

Second, don’t “drive”

You have to know that the human brain is not a computer. Even computers make mistakes sometimes, let alone a brain in an angry state. Studies have shown that when people are angry, their field of vision becomes relatively narrow and they develop tunnel vision (inability to see clearly in the peripheral vision). Therefore, angry drivers are more likely to have a car accident. Experts suggest that if you have to drive when you are angry, it is best to keep your eyes open, be alert, and look around.

Third, don’t “vent your violence without restraint”

Don't keep problems to yourself. Talking it out loud is the best way to solve problems that we advocate. However, this does not mean that we are encouraged to vent our anger at will, or even use violence to vent our negative emotions. Research shows that if we release our emotions by punching pillows when we're angry, it only makes our behavior more violent and increases the likelihood of future violent behavior.

Fourth, don’t “overeat”

It is said that delicious food can instantly calm people's emotions. Being able to eat what you like is undoubtedly more effective than any other method for any "angry eater". Experts pointed out: "People usually make wrong food choices when they are angry. In other words, they tend to eat junk food for psychological comfort. High-calorie and high-energy foods can make people feel happy for a short time, but in fact, people's bad mood will always come as expected after a few days. High-calorie foods also bring us unnecessary fat."

Fifth, don’t “continue to debate”

The first thing you should do when you are angry is to calm down and force yourself to be quiet for a few seconds before speaking. "Impulse is the devil" is true, because wrong words are like spilled water, once spoken, there is no going back. Expert analysis: "When people are angry, they are more likely to say something they will regret in the future. It is best to give yourself 10 minutes or even 10 days to think clearly about how much you want to say those hurtful words."

Sixth, don’t “send emails”

The worst thing to do when you are angry is to reply to work emails. Remember, when you press the "send" button, it's too late. Unlike when you say the wrong thing and hurt others, in an age where evidence is important for everything, an email written in black and white will make you unable to wash yourself clean even if you jump into the Yellow River.

Seventh, don’t drink too much

It is said that a little drink can soothe your mood, but experts have found that the effect of alcohol can maximize the effectiveness of anger, and under the influence of chemical reactions, it is difficult for you to control your emotions. Experts say: "Drinking alcohol when angry can inhibit the brain's cerebral cortex, which can cause you to involuntarily take actions that can cause permanent damage."