Marriage with a baby can cause three major harms to women

As society becomes more open and tolerant, pregnancy-related marriage is gradually accepted by everyone, and more than 30% of single people think that pregnancy-related marriage is no big deal. But from the perspective of gender, men are much more optimistic than women. 33.9% of men believe that getting married with a baby is a double blessing, while 40.9% of women worry that getting married with a baby may sow the seeds of unhappiness. The three major harms of pregnancy marriage to women:

1. If the man intentionally reduces the bride price, it will create conflicts between the parents of both parties .

Everyone who has been married knows that the bride price is a stumbling block on the road to marriage. Many couples eventually go their separate ways because of the bride price. For this reason, the two families will fight openly and secretly over the bride price.

The mentality of the man and his parents is very simple: if they can pay less of the bride price, they will pay less.

The mentality of the girl and her parents is understandable: the girl thinks that her parents have raised her for more than 20 years, and she will be married soon, so she should take the opportunity to "earn" some money for her parents as a token of filial piety; the girl's father thinks that her daughter will bear children for her son-in-law's family, and her salary will become the financial income of her son-in-law's family. At this critical juncture of marriage, her son-in-law needs to repay her for her hard work in raising him for more than 20 years. If he misses this opportunity, he will miss it forever.

Give marriage a cold explanation from a legal perspective: contract.

Therefore, since marriage is a legal transaction, it is bound to involve the interests of both men and women and their parents.

Originally, the bride price is easy for parents of both sides to bargain over. If the phenomenon of shotgun marriage is allowed to take place, the bride's side and her parents will be very passive in the bargaining phase of the bride price.

The worst outcome: the parents of both parties turn against each other and the girl has a miscarriage. Even if the woman compromises for the sake of the child in her belly, the parents of both sides will have a grudge over the issue of the bride price, which will bring many obstacles to the healthy development of the marriage.

2. When a woman chooses to get married passively after becoming pregnant, it increases the element of confrontation in the marriage.

Some lovers choose to live together before marriage without knowing each other well enough, which leads to the woman accidentally getting pregnant.

After the woman becomes pregnant, many of the man's shortcomings are exposed. For this reason, the woman will have doubts about her future marriage.

In real life, many women who get married because of pregnancy have actually thought about breaking off the engagement, but their bellies are getting bigger day by day, and they lose the courage to break up. They can only endure the man’s shortcomings and comfort themselves with the false belief that maybe after they get married, their husbands will get rid of those bad habits. In fact, many men have the bad habit of eating shit.

Marriage is supposed to be a process from passion to dullness, from working together to relying on each other. However, pregnancy before marriage and couples who get married passively entering the matching stage too early when managing their marriage are obviously not beneficial to the development of family life.

Nowadays, more and more women in love will experience this kind of emotional embarrassment. When I saw my boyfriend's true face and wanted to break up, I found out that I was pregnant.

Usually, women choose to bite the bullet and get married.

In fact, there is only one way to avoid such embarrassment: do not live together with your boyfriend until his shortcomings are exposed. Even if you live together, you must take contraceptive measures to avoid future troubles.

In fact, if a woman truly loves a man, it is not about how many advantages the man has, but how many disadvantages she can accept.

3. Men find it difficult to quickly step into the role of father, which leads to escalating arguments between couples.

Getting married with a baby is an unexpected surprise for men, and they even believe that 'getting married and having a baby' is a double blessing. However, due to their age and experience disadvantages, most of those men who get married with a baby are not ready to be fathers.

Obviously, a woman needs more care from her husband during pregnancy and needs her husband's absolute presence. However, if the husband is still in a playful state, it will obviously disappoint the woman. As a result, the woman will complain more and more about her husband. Faced with the sudden pressure of marriage, the man will become extremely impetuous.

In fact, surprises can happen in life at any time. The key issue is whether you can handle the surprises when they come.

Although we do not advocate getting married with a baby, we are also unable to persuade the open-minded young generation. For this reason, I just want to say to the younger generation that life is neither long nor short. Please cherish the woman who is willing to have children for you. Don't let her down, and don't let yourself down with the debt of gratitude.

At the same time, I also tell women who choose to live together before marriage or get married after being pregnant that some things are their own choices, so don't regret it easily. Even if your husband does something that makes you dissatisfied, you should be understanding and not be pessimistic about marriage.