Why are men so fickle?

Women often complain about men being unfaithful, and some people defend this by arguing that there are differences between men and women. Jackie Chan's statement "make the same mistakes that all men in the world make" is a classic example. Experts say that it is true that DNA shows that men are naturally more physically inclined and have stronger impulses towards the opposite sex than women, but humans have evolved from apes to humans, and if their animal nature is allowed to run wild and they are unable to control themselves, then they really need to seek treatment from a professional doctor.

Some people are born with strong love hormones

Men are more fickle than women, and the reasons can be found from physiological and psychological perspectives. Psychological expert Yu Huihui said that in the primitive human society, males were responsible for going out hunting for food, protecting women and ensuring the continuation of life. The competitiveness, predatory and possessive nature of male animals created physiologically greater sexual tension and sexual impulses than females.

Furthermore, in the process of human society's own development, evolution and survival, humans struggle with nature to acquire the ability to survive, and compete with their peers to acquire the skills to survive and reproduce. Males gain the favor and appreciation of females by killing or defeating their own sex, thus allowing their bloodline to continue. As a result, humans have retained the instincts and characteristics of animals in the process of reproduction and development.

Some scientists have also discovered through research that there is a special type of people in the crowd, those who are "addicted" to love hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin. Such people, once the levels of hormones such as oxytocin in their bodies subside, will seek new love to obtain stimulation again, thereby enjoying the extreme pleasure and excitement brought by the high secretion of hormones. These are what we usually call people who are fickle and easily bored with the old and love the new.

Childhood environment may affect future sexual attitudes

As for psychological factors, Yu Huihui analyzed that China's traditional cultural concepts for thousands of years have mostly practiced polygamy. Men do not feel ashamed to go to brothels for entertainment, and it is common for many ancient poets to find a confidante to compose poems and praise them. However, women are required to have a profound sense of moral chastity. These ideas have more or less formed a certain bad character, which is condensed in the female genetic code and passed down from generation to generation.

In some foreign countries, there are also ancient traditional moral requirements for women like China. This kind of social environment provides psychological support for men's "fickleness".

In addition, the family and social environment around men have a great influence on the formation of their sexual concepts since childhood. For example, if a boy sees his mother deeply hurt by his father's infidelity, his childhood memories will have an impact on him when he chooses a partner as an adult. This is why some people have a lot of girlfriends before marriage, but once they choose a partner to marry, they remain consistent.

Restraining "fickleness" through morality and responsibility

Since being unfaithful is a relatively common psychological and physiological phenomenon, why is it that many people have the desire but not the courage to do so, and why "deviance" is not a common phenomenon in society? Yu Huihui said that the reason lies in the constraints of morality and responsibility on behavior.

Human beings have gone through the matriarchal society of polyandry and the patriarchal society of polygamy, and have entered the civilized society of monogamy. Human beings are using social norms to restrict their biological nature and using reason to manage their biological instincts. Although humans are advanced animals with animal instincts, they are also advanced socialized animals with rationality and responsibility. In the process of development and progress, human beings are constantly transforming and diluting their "animality" and "beastly behavior", and at the same time, they are constantly improving their "humanity".

Yu Huihui said that objective factors should not be an excuse for men to justify themselves. Character, morality and responsibility can control men's "promiscuity". When a person falls in love, love hormones burst out, making people simple-minded and passionate; however, if the person is married or engaged, the brain's positive feedback mechanism of "seeking benefits and avoiding harm" will be activated immediately, prompting the generation of a sense of responsibility and moral strength to calm the love hormones and make people return to rationality.