Uncovering the secrets of men's "cuckold phobia"

From a psychological point of view, there is a hidden sense of insecurity in men's hearts, which we may call "cuckold phobia". This kind of insecurity is the fear that something will happen to his wife behind his back.

Women trust their husbands much more than men trust their wives

This is consistent with real life - men can stay out all night drinking and playing mahjong with a clear conscience, and can send women off with just a few words of coaxing, but this is often not the case with women.

I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage. The reason for the divorce was that the husband was extremely distrustful of his wife. Whenever his wife went out, the husband would check her underwear. If he found a lot of secretions, he would dig deep and pursue her relentlessly. After living in an atmosphere of suspicion and tension for a long time, the strings of marriage finally broke before the nerves of the person themselves.

A typical "suspicious wife" behavior of men is to show strong aversion to the men around his wife. Colleagues, classmates, friends and even relatives, as long as they are men, and the wife gets along frequently, especially those who are mentioned by the wife frequently, she will put them on the "blacklist". Carrying this "blacklist", she develops "cuckold phobia". She spends a lot of time studying and arranging the frequency, venues and time of contact between her wife and these "suspicious objects". She is in a state of high alert and vigilance for a long time, always feeling that "something is going on", but can never find any evidence.

There are many reasons for this distrust, but in summary, there are only a few types:

The first is due to the "virgin complex", where the wife is "suspected of not being a virgin" when they got married, or it is very clear that he is not her first lover; the second is remarried couples, both of whom have been married before and have had "re-love experiences" to varying degrees; the third is inferiority complex, where the woman is usually extroverted and is much more successful in her career than the man, and there is a phenomenon of strong women and weak men; the fourth is hearsay, and being troubled by special examples around them. I heard that a certain woman had such an experience, and she also became wary of her own people. Of course, these are unhealthy mindsets.

As the saying goes, "heart disease needs heart medicine" and "the person who tied the bell should be the one to untie it". Trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties and also depends on the "calmness" of one's heart. There is an "illusion-like" inference that can be used as a reference - if you say it exists, it exists, and if you say it doesn't exist, it doesn't exist. So, why not infer that it doesn't exist?

Zoo trainers can reach a tacit understanding with wild animals, so why can't they have more trust with their legal spouses?