How couples live will increase the rate of infidelity

Although it is not uncommon for men to cheat in marriage, we cannot simply say that it is a quality issue. Sometimes when people are in a specific opportunity and environment, when external forces break through their own resistance, the chances of cheating will increase. Some people never fall in love with someone of the opposite sex other than their partner in their entire lives because of their inner determination, but it is also related to the fact that they may be lucky enough not to encounter too complicated environmental tests.

It is just as important to know why men cheat as it is to know when they are most likely to cheat. For adults, facing up to their own personality weaknesses and reducing the chances of being tempted are internal means to avoid marital problems; for partners, knowing each other's needs and eliminating factors and links that may cause problems are external measures to avoid marital problems. Only when internal and external factors work together can the ultimate ideal result appear.

What are husband and wife? "It takes a hundred years to be able to ride the same boat together, and a thousand years to be able to sleep on the same pillow together." Husband and wife are meant to be together, facing each other day and night. Those relationships that cannot end up sharing the same bed can only be said to be destined not to be together, which is a pity, while the relationships that blossom and bear fruit together are the fireworks of life that people need most in the secular world.

One of the features that distinguishes marriage from other social and emotional relationships is that the couple have to live together and have basically the same life goals in a relatively independent space and environment. In modern society, with the development of the communications industry and the enhancement of social mobility, separations are becoming more and more common. However, in essence, separation does not meet the emotional needs of human nature. Marriage without living together not only tests the cultivation and continuation of feelings, but more importantly, loses a more important meaning of marriage.

When a couple lives apart, it will be difficult for a man to have a sense of "home". He cannot feel the feeling of two people working together for a goal, nor can he understand the hardship of the other party's independent perseverance. Due to the limitations of time, space and region, there is a lack of communication channels between the two people and a lack of common life goals. When the partner is not around, a man can easily neglect his responsibilities in marriage and his identity as a married man because of the ease of single life. When he encounters other emotional opportunities, he will fall into them involuntarily.

Men who are separated for a long time and cannot find an effective solution are most likely to develop extramarital affairs. We often see some emotional stories in which the wife cannot understand her husband's emotional needs because she does not live with him, and the man cheats because of emptiness and loneliness. Neither party is a winner in such an affair, and the man does not intend to hurt his wife, and the wife will also have a serious emotional crisis with the man. In the end, everyone was bruised and exhausted. This situation is common in reality.

Some women who are unaware that men are married and unintentionally develop emotional entanglements with them are victims, but men do not necessarily intend to harm others. After all, in this era, no one can tattoo on their forehead to say that they are a married man, and it is difficult to tell who is married and who is unmarried just by looking at their mental state and appearance. At the beginning, you may not necessarily be dating with the purpose of starting an extramarital affair. You may just want to find some warmth and comfort. By the time you find that you really have feelings for each other, it may be too late.

Of course, not all separations will lead to extramarital affairs, but separation is a test of one's endurance and character. It requires constant healthy communication with one's partner and constant reminders to strengthen one's ability to resist temptation. It also takes more energy to maintain the dam of emotion than couples living together.

Many young people may not take it seriously at the beginning. They are confident in their feelings and even more confident in their position and role in the other person's life. They choose this seemingly alternative and cool lifestyle, but in the end, very few people can have the last laugh. There is goodwill and positive force in human nature, but don't deliberately create opportunities to test it. As mortals, it is more realistic for us to rely on each other and keep each other warm.

What is a husband? "He is a husband if he is within ten feet, but it is hard to say if he is beyond ten feet." This folk joke is very sharp and meaningful.

Marital failure and frustration will reduce men's resistance to extramarital affairs

The power of temptation: If marriage is compared to a person and extramarital affair is said to be a disease, then external temptation is like a virus. It will not break out in everyone. People with a normally functioning immune system and good health can resist it, but for those with weak bodies and poor quality, it is destined to become a disaster.

The health and integrity of a marriage plays a vital role in preventing the occurrence of extramarital affairs. If a marriage is full of fights and quarrels, the feelings between the two people will become increasingly indifferent due to repeated hurt. The inherent cohesion of marriage and its soothing effect on the human soul will be reduced. The failure and setbacks in marriage will also hit a person's self-confidence from the bottom of his heart. He will doubt his own abilities and fall into a state of anxiety and uneasiness. At this time, it is unrealistic to expect this person to always be loyal to his or her partner and not "play tricks" no matter how the feelings change. Of course we can say that this is the basic requirement for a man of morals and principles, but this is a high standard after all, and not all ordinary people can achieve it.

As a human being, you may be weak; as a human being, you know how to seek warmth. When he doesn't get these in his marriage, his emotions will involuntarily drift away even if his reason tells him not to. For women, not facing this fact and blindly blaming the frivolity of men in modern families while failing to reflect on their own mistakes in managing their marriages will not help us change ourselves. Only by making the marriage more flexible and attractive can one minimize the possibility of a person giving up on himself due to emotional setbacks. Maybe this will never fundamentally change the prevalence of extramarital affairs, but at least we lost a game without regrets.

Therefore, there is a common saying among the people that "no thief in the house will attract no outside devil". When one party in a marriage develops a mentality of boredom and slackness, he will take the initiative to seek passion when there is no passion. He will cheat when there are difficulties, and will cheat even if there are no difficulties, even more so when someone comes to his door.

In some marriages that have come to an end because of extramarital affairs, it can be found that the marriage between the two people had already sounded the alarm before the extramarital affair occurred. The husband of one netizen started cheating on his wife after they had been separated for two years. The two people's indifference to their problematic marriage and their avoidance of marital conflicts objectively created the possibility for the man to cheat.

What does two years of separation mean to a marriage? It means a lack of communication emotionally and a process of mutual neglect spiritually. At this time, it is understandable that either party, whether man or woman, would wander emotionally and mentally. Because at that time marriage had already become an extremely loose structure, and no one knew where the future lay or where the marriage was going. Amid confusion and distress, the moral dam would collapse, which was beyond imagination but reasonable.

A career slump can easily lead to a marriage failure

Men are more afraid of not being recognized by society than women, and not being recognized by society often means not being recognized by marriage. It's simply a chain reaction. When a man suffers setbacks in his career and falls into a low point, he often loses the energy to manage his marriage, which will seriously interfere with his normal state in the marriage. Subconsciously, he would worry that his wife would look down on him because of this. Once a man gets used to a certain position and status, it is difficult for him to accept the fact that he is going downhill. Influenced by his character that likes to force himself to pretend to be falsely prosperous, he lacks the ability to adapt to reality even more than a woman.

Therefore, when men suffer the blow of career failure, they often become depressed. They escape from reality and use other methods to relieve their fear of being unable to bear failure. For example, some men are addicted to gambling and dream of making a quick comeback; some men are alcoholics and are drunk all day long without needing to sober up and think about real problems.

Extramarital affairs are also a way for men to escape reality. Sometimes a wife doesn’t believe that her husband would have the time to have an affair when his career is at a low point, but there is some understandable part in the husband’s psychological model. He failed in his career and was in a state of panic. When he got home, his wife cried and his children were worried. There was no happiness in his life. If he had an ignorant wife, she might even scold him for being useless and under too much pressure. He can still find a piece of pure land in his lover, who can comfort him, understand him, relieve his depression and make him forget the pressure. Interacting with his lover is the only way to escape reality.

If sex life is not normally satisfied, the marriage is like building on a powder keg. Sex is a normal need for a healthy adult, and this need is not only physiological but also psychological. Through sex, we experience the ultimate giving and pleasure between opposite sexes, and we also feel loved and needed through sex.

Any marriage that lacks this link, no matter how it is maintained (excluding special families between two people who reach a consensus due to their special circumstances), is like a large room with beautiful decoration but no one living in it. It looks beautiful but cannot produce a warm and moving attraction. That is the feeling of incompleteness, which makes the marriage lack the support of the other half.

There have been few marriages in China that are a perfect combination of the spirit and the body. People often overlook the role and status of sex, and think it is something to be ashamed to talk about, especially women. They are usually in a suppressed state, and tend to think that sex is a devotion to men, a kind of giving and sacrifice, and they do not experience much happiness themselves. However, due to the influence of traditional culture and lack of physiological knowledge, men do not pay enough attention to women in this regard and do not understand women's psychological needs. Especially when they are young, they pay too much attention to their own feelings, and their simple, rough and unskilled approach leaves a shadow on women, which affects and destroys their future interest and enthusiasm in sex.

In this situation, women often like to use sex as a tool to punish the other party, and use it to make men submit when there are conflicts in their relationship and differences in their ideas. They subconsciously regard married life as something that benefits men unilaterally. Some women are never able to fully devote themselves to the joy of married life. They are rigid, inflexible, unchanging, and timid, making men feel denied and lacking a sense of accomplishment.

On the other hand, in the adjustment of married life, men are better at concealing their decline in physical strength and endurance. They are afraid of admitting that they "can't do it" and are unwilling to truly face the crux of the problem. They are unwilling to cooperate with women to make changes and treatments, and even push the responsibility onto the other party and evade their own responsibilities, which will turn sex into a passive game and gradually lose the joy it should have.

There are very few couples who can maintain a normal sex life throughout their many years of marriage. Many couples end up becoming more like roommates rather than real couples due to the reasons mentioned above. But the natural desire for sex in human nature will call out from the bones, making men eager to try fresh passion and body. Some men have psychological barriers when facing their wives and appear to be unable to do their best, but they will be full of energy when facing their lovers.

Examples of sexual infidelity account for too high a proportion of extramarital affairs, and because normal sexual needs cannot be met in marriage, a certain proportion of men are forced to cheat. Many extramarital affairs that appear passionate on the surface are actually dominated by sexual elements. Men crave their lover's fresh body and feel the fiery passion, which compensates for the benefits they cannot enjoy in marriage.

People are easily influenced by the environment, and human nature is also fragile, making it difficult to withstand long-term tests and temptations. Some men have very complicated lifestyles. For example, they often go to places with bright lights and wine for socializing, or they have special professional needs to maintain close work contacts with the opposite sex. These situations will have a subtle influence on a person's living habits and psychological defenses. A life of feasting and revelry can make one lose one's mind, and an environment overflowing with emotions can soften a person's bones. Slowly, he may become accustomed to phenomena that he once disliked in the past, and psychologically relax his vigilance and resistance.

There are many examples in life of men having extramarital affairs due to external temptations. This is because too many men do not reject extramarital affairs. Once they encounter a situation where a woman takes the initiative, they are not far from complete fall. What's more, some women take the initiative to throw themselves into the arms of men for the sake of benefits or to achieve certain goals, and try every means to please men, hiding this purpose under the veil of tenderness, paralyzing the men's vigilance and making them finally moved. Men who are conquered by female subordinates or female business clients basically cannot escape this routine.

In fact, sometimes people themselves don’t know what they will become. This not only depends on a person’s attention to and growth of his own soul, but also on the influence of the external environment and social and cultural ideas. Among them, the influence of social atmosphere cannot be underestimated.

Many men who are determined to abandon their wives and children for their lovers are usually not bad men, and some are even recognized as good men by everyone. For example, the 3377 incident and the Jiang Yan incident. A man who was once very simple and not a very good person will suddenly reveal his cruelest and most ruthless side in the handling of emotions. This transformation does not happen overnight, but it must have evolved little by little over time. Because if he simply lacks the necessary personality support and moral foundation, then he will easily be driven by the environment and his own desires to make completely different choices, good or bad. He is like a blank piece of paper. If you draw blue sky and white clouds on it, it will be a beautiful picture. If you draw darkness and weirdness on it, it will be a scary picture. When personal selfishness and greed expand to a certain extent, mortals will become devils.

Years of emotional repression can weaken a man's loyalty

If a man does not get healthy and normal emotional needs in his marriage, is in a suppressed and passive position for a long time, does not feel respected by his wife and children, and his dignity and self-confidence are distorted, then this man may appear to be an honest and docile father, a loyal and dutiful husband, but his heart will definitely be filled with disgust and hatred for this marriage. He will instinctively seek out relationships that make him feel normal and relaxed. If his infidelity may shock his wife and family, he may feel a sense of revenge.

Some people say that when looking for a husband, you should look for an honest one because honest men are more reliable. But what is the concept of honesty? Many times people confuse the relationship between inner simplicity and external expressive ability. When they see a man who is not good at speaking, lacks social experience, has average looks, or is even clumsy and shy, they think that this person is honest and, therefore, reliable.

This is a typical misunderstanding. Not speaking means being honest? There is also a saying among the people that "a biting dog doesn't bark". A simple character does not necessarily mean being introverted, and an introverted character does not necessarily mean being gloomy. Just because he can't speak doesn't mean he doesn't have any ideas. He may just not want to say them, but he has as many bad ideas as others. Can having a face like an ordinary person give him extra points for his personality?

In fact, it's the opposite. People who don't like to talk often have a very rich inner world. Because they are not good at expressing themselves, they spend more time studying their own thoughts, observing the outside world, and forming their own thought system. These perceptions cannot be communicated smoothly to others due to the limitation of their personality and may become more stubborn and extreme. However, he is not good at refuting and makes people feel he is quite gentle and tolerant. However, when it comes to sticking to his own position, introverts are more stubborn than extroverts.

This point is often overlooked by many women. When I was in love, if I saw a man who was quiet and honest, who didn’t even glance at a woman and blushed when he spoke, I would think he was really reliable and I would feel that I could definitely control such a person. But after getting along with him for a while, I realized that such a man is not very reliable. He keeps everything in his heart, which makes you even more unpredictable. His actions are always very unexpected. So, sometimes those who seem honest can give us the biggest surprises, by taking action directly without any verbal warning. They have completed all the transformation and betrayal in their own hearts, and by the time you know it, it is too late.

Reliability is just a relative concept. There is no completely reliable man, nor is there a completely unreliable man. Everyone has a rich home in his or her heart, even a selfish and cruel person. Therefore, to understand a person, it is ultimately necessary to understand the starting point of his behavior, and to infer the motivation a person can generate in insisting on his belief in marriage, as well as those things deep in his character, by grasping his quality, character, and personality. Don't just look at the surface phenomena.

Men cheat to get back at their partners for being unfaithful

The thing men fear most is that their wives cheat on them. In traditional culture, this is related to men's dignity and will greatly undermine men's self-confidence. Therefore, when a man is betrayed by his wife, he will not only feel sad about the deterioration of his relationship and the breakdown of his marriage, but he will also feel ashamed and his dignity damaged. Sometimes the latter can cause far more harm to men than the former, and the feeling of humiliation can even outweigh the failure of the relationship.

no way. In fact, deep down, men still treat women as their private property. Just think about it, if the property that originally belonged to their family runs away with someone else, wouldn't that be too embarrassing? Therefore, when there is a problem of men cheating in life, women specifically go against the women outside and are more likely to forgive their men; but men, on the other hand, deal with both their own women and the men outside, and will not forgive anyone.

A man will feel intensely frustrated because of his wife's infidelity, and sometimes this frustration cannot be relieved in the face of real obstacles. For example, a man knows that he still has feelings for his wife and is reluctant to divorce, or he cannot divorce because of his children and property. The man cannot start a new life in peace in the marriage, and he will hold his breath and develop a strong desire for revenge. If you do it on the first day, I will do it on the fifteenth. This childish, tit-for-tat mentality is not only prevalent in children, but also in adults. They also want to go out and try extramarital affairs. Only through this method can they find the balance in their minds.

A man regards his wife's extramarital affair as someone else taking advantage of his family, so when he takes advantage of someone else's family, he feels that he is no longer at a disadvantage.

Some say that fighting cheating with cheating is a way to maintain psychological balance. However, this is not a healthy way of dealing with things, or it can only calm things down at a certain stage. If it goes on for too long and you become dependent on this method, you will inevitably go to the other extreme.

Revenge often comes from the extreme disappointment of not getting what one expected. A man may want to punish a woman because his self-esteem is hurt and his emotions are frustrated. He has no place to vent his inner grievances and cannot relieve his inner pain, so he goes to extremes. This is not the right way to express self-esteem. If self-esteem is a strong thing, then releasing it in a tougher way will break it.

The special period of childbearing is a trigger for men to lose their fidelity

It is not uncommon for men to cheat on their wives while they are pregnant. At least we have seen too many of them in Tianya's emotional stories. When a woman is carrying a big belly, enduring all the discomforts of pregnancy and looking forward to the future happily with a strong maternal instinct, the man cheats because his wife cannot meet his physical needs and cannot satisfy his visual aesthetics when facing his big-bellied wife. This kind of blow is something a woman will never forget in her entire life. No matter whether the man eventually changes his mind or leaves, it will become the greatest pain in her life.

Such a man deserves condemnation. However, a woman’s special stage is also a man’s special period. Men, like women, may experience periodic confusion due to physiological and psychological changes.

Sometimes two people get pregnant as soon as they get married, or the man is too young when he gets married and has not had time to experience the sweetness of the newlyweds or really adapt to the marriage psychologically, but he is in a hurry to welcome the birth of the child, which may cause psychological anxiety for the man. Men are slower in taking on marital responsibilities, so they tend to relieve their fears by cheating.

Sometimes, during pregnancy and breastfeeding, women focus too much attention and energy on their children. All they talk about is motherhood and all they see is their children. They ignore their husbands’ feelings and spiritual needs, and their husbands feel disregarded. When this stage lasts too long, men will feel denied and unwanted psychologically, become indifferent to their family responsibilities, develop a negative mentality, and are prone to emotional fluctuations when external temptations arise.

Some small families will need the participation of both sets of parents and relatives during pregnancy and when children are born. The small family becomes a big family with a pregnant woman and a child in the middle, which is a particularly chaotic stage and a complex bilateral relationship. It is often the case that the mother becomes emotional, the mother-in-law becomes formulaic, and the husband becomes marginalized. The mother feels that she is not being cared for well enough, the caregivers feel that she is too delicate, the husbands are often excluded because of their inexperience, and the wives feel particularly aggrieved due to the lack of their husbands' consideration, which can easily breed conflicts. When a man spends a long time in such a chaotic and complicated environment, and comes home every day to the crying of the younger ones, the making of a fuss of the older ones, and the complaining of the older ones, he will develop an escapist mentality.

Another reason is that a man’s feelings for his child are not natural but more acquired due to the lack of the pregnancy stage. He cannot understand his wife’s hard work and it is difficult for him to have deep feelings for a child he has never met. Therefore, in this particular period of the marriage, he relaxes his responsibilities and seeks fun for himself.

Another more common phenomenon is that when a wife is pregnant, her temperament and mood change drastically due to the influence of hormones. If the woman herself does not know how to adjust herself and allows it to develop, and she feels that she has suffered a lot of hardships and hardships in giving birth to a man, and becomes more spoiled and bosses the man around (human psychology is like this, once you feel that you are working so hard but he is safe and sound, you will have a very dark hope that he will not be happy either, and you will look for excuses to torment him), then she may become moody, irritable or depressed, and the man does not give enough understanding, but just feels tired and bored, and he may be attracted to other emotions outside.

From this perspective, men and women are inherently unequal because the roles they perform and the obligations they bear are different. Women are destined to improve and reflect on themselves more when nurturing their offspring. They should not blindly indulge themselves and ignore the changes in the outside world and men just because they are in a special stage. They should be more vigilant and less willful. Otherwise, the consequences of men's infidelity will require women to pay for it with greater efforts.

Men have absolute authority in the family, which makes cheating more casual

Marriage is the art of balance. As long as everyone has something to balance on both ends of the scale, whether it is love or money, appearance or status, it doesn't matter. What matters is that the balance is maintained and the marriage will be harmonious.

In a marriage where the relationship between husband and wife is out of balance, not only will the disadvantaged party be unable to maintain a normal relationship, but also will not be able to fully express his or her will and principles due to lack of voice. Men are most likely to cheat when they are arrogant, have a strong sense of superiority, dominate the financial and emotional power of the marriage, and lack the proper respect and affection for their partner. Moreover, they will become more unscrupulous because they estimate the cost of cheating to be small and are confident that they can control their partner.

It's not that he doesn't know that his wife will be sad, and it's not that he doesn't know that extramarital affairs are immoral, but he doesn't care. He knows that his wife will be fine. He thinks that being able to live with his wife is a blessing, and that he is being worthy of his wife's ancestors by not divorcing her. How can he be self-disciplined?

Especially in those families where the man is an official, has a successful career, and is a typical case of the wife being honored by the husband, in fact, the relationship between husband and wife has become unbalanced without them realizing it: the husband is well-known and has a certain status, and he bears the main responsibility for building the family and brings glory to the family, while the wife does the logistics and undertakes the main task of assisting his development. Perhaps from the perspective of benefiting the family, this structure is stable, but from the perspective of controlling the relationship between the couple and keeping pace with them, women are increasingly losing the initiative.

In such an extramarital affair, even if the man returns after cheating, the woman cannot feel at ease. Regarding this relationship, what a man tells his wife, what he lets his wife know, and whether to interrupt the extramarital affair may all depend on his conscience, and his wife has no control over it. A wife can neither regulate his lifestyle nor supervise his behavior (because it involves matters of a certain social class and cannot be diverted by anyone's personal interests), nor can she make a scene like other wives without considering public opinion and social impact (after all, there are not many women like Hu Ziwei, and those who dare to do so are mostly women who are used to being strong and cannot tolerate being mistreated, and weak women cannot learn from them), because their family interests come first, and honor, disgrace and promotion are tied together, and the wife cannot easily destroy it.

This is the case with political couples and couples based on interests. Pure emotional factors can no longer be the main component in such marriages, but more considerations must be made. In a marriage where a woman does not have the upper hand, it is indeed difficult to prevent the man from having ambiguities or extramarital affairs. To be more frank, some men are "afraid" of their wives. Once they are discovered, they will quickly admit their mistakes and produce evidence of their corrections for their wives to supervise. For example, they can check their text messages at will and allow their wives to warn the women outside. Some men are not "afraid" of their wives. They usually have the final say and are more powerful than their wives, so it is natural for them to find excuses for themselves. They can make loud and clear excuses and reject their wives' normal requests openly because they are not afraid of the consequences and they can control the situation.

If a woman does not have the capital to be "feared" by a man, she lacks the right and qualifications to negotiate conditions. This capital is a kind of comprehensive strength. The treatment you receive depends on your status in a man's mind. If this standard is not met, women don't even have the ability to care. If you don't want to get divorced, just endure it. Don't expect to be treated like a normal couple, because such a marriage has never been normal.

The inability to accept a partner's past relationship experience will make a man seek relief by cheating. Even in an open society today, there are still men who value a woman's first relationship experience. In essence, they treat women as a kind of accessory. They feel both resentful and jealous of the first buyer of this item, and are deeply frustrated that they cannot be the person who cuts the ribbon.

This is a more subtle way of saying it. Simply put, some men will always be bothered by the fact that their wives are not virgins, and even bring this regret and dissatisfaction into the marriage, always living with a resentment. Such men are gloomy and narrow-minded. What they value is not the present of the person in front of them, but the past that they cannot possess.

Entering into a marriage with this kind of emotion will be like a time bomb that may explode at any time. The man feels that he has been taken advantage of and suffered a loss, as if he was instigated to buy unsaleable goods and is full of resentment towards the seller. He must find a way to vent his dissatisfaction, and cheating is the most direct and convenient way to vent.

He simplified the relationship between men and women into a purely exchange relationship. The losses suffered here must be recovered by other means. He can only make up for the humiliation of his wife not being a virgin by cheating a few more times.

Such men do not feel guilty when they cheat. Instead, they feel that it is justified and that they are just collecting the debt owed by their wives.

The desire to fulfill a dream makes men less defensive towards their former lovers

Once feelings develop between a man and a woman and they cross the line, many things will change and it will be difficult to go back to the way they were before. Especially those emotional dreams that cannot be fulfilled and put into practice due to various objective factors, those lovers who are separated by reality, separated out of helplessness, always have a beautiful imagination and heavy regret in each other's hearts, and in the days and months when they cannot meet, they constantly guess and design the appearance of feelings, and gradually make an ordinary relationship perfect.

Therefore, people often say: "Classmates reunion, classmate reunion, breaking up every couple." There is also a more vulgar saying: "Comrades-in-arms meet comrades-in-arms, they drink heavily; classmates meet classmates, they have affairs." These folk songs reflect that once a man and a woman who have been ambiguous or in love meet again after many years, the chance of rekindling their feelings is much higher than that of other relationships.

Sometimes feelings are not forgotten, but like a fire buried in a furnace, they will burn vigorously as long as a little wind blows. A netizen said in an emotional consultation: After meeting her ex-boyfriend again, she found that she still liked him very much. The man also frequently invited her to have a further intimate relationship with her, saying that he did not get her when he was young and could not miss it now. She is very conflicted.

In fact, they may not realize that both of them are fulfilling the same dream they had back then, the only difference is that he is fulfilling the dream of having sex, while she is fulfilling the dream of love. Many extramarital affairs of this type are like this, women are always obsessed with the upper body, and men always focus on the lower body. Once it comes to this, not only will the tacit understanding and beauty of the past be completely destroyed, but the image of each other in each other's mind will also be completely changed, destroying the integrity in the memory and adding an ugly and embarrassing tail to the relationship that could have ended. More often than not, both people ignore the fact that the other person has changed and insist on finding feelings, which results in both of them becoming the object of condemnation in public opinion.

Reliving old dreams is often just a conceptual possibility but lacks practical feasibility. Some people are obsessed with their past relationships. This may be because the relationship ended in a more tactful and ambiguous way, without any fundamental disagreements or a complete breakup, so the two people have never truly experienced the "cutting umbilical cord" process after the end of the relationship. They always involuntarily treat each other as romantic partners and make demands on each other. This subtle influence makes it difficult for the two people to regard each other as ordinary friends.

Eight out of ten things in the world are not satisfactory, and not everything can be made up for. Incompleteness is also a kind of beauty, and regret is also a way of missing something. If you already have your own piece of land, don't worry about what kind of land you cultivated in the past. What kind of harvest that land will produce has nothing to do with you. Learn to stay out of it and don't destroy your complete happiness now.

Frequent contact between men and women from quantity to quality

The relationship between men and women can easily deteriorate. For example, a man and a woman may sit opposite each other at a table all their lives without any problems, believing that there is no relationship between men and women, but just colleagues, and they are completely isolated from each other. But during a business trip, if you move to a completely different environment, in a relatively closed space, things may change rapidly. This is because when you leave the familiar environment, the relationship between the two people becomes simply that of a man and a woman. The way they look at each other and their standards are different, which makes it easy for a chemical reaction to occur.

Especially when one party takes the initiative, this layer of window paper may break with one poke. Some people say they don't understand why men are attracted to women they don't like at the beginning, but this is easy to explain for men. If there is a lonely and weak woman who trusts you, relies on you, and tells you everything, who can have the nerve to say righteously that we should be careful about the limits between us, right? Many ambiguous things come from normal interactions little by little. At the beginning, everything is normal and does not cross the line. Gradually, something different comes out, and slowly it changes from being open to not being open. It started with ambiguity and ended with an extramarital affair.

Relationships between men and women who know from the beginning that each other has other ideas are themselves on the edge of dangerous emotions. The help and support between each other is no longer simple. There are not many uncles Lei Feng in this world. Helping people does not cost, and there are few absolutely simple relationships between men and women. They let go without controlling them at the beginning. Over time, this dependence and trust will be mixed into the relationship between two people, forming complex emotional entanglements, which are difficult to separate. If you don’t love, it will become love.