The three biggest complaints of wives after marriage

Sweet words slipping away

Wife’s point of view: Since we got married, he rarely says sweet words to me. He was too lazy to even try to cheer me up. Now it is harder than climbing to the sky to hear him say "I love you".

Husband's point of view: We are a family now. I love her and she loves me. We both know this very well. Why should we repeat it?

Couples in love seem to have endless whispers to each other, and their vows of love one after another are all touching. After marriage, all those sweet words seemed to have been said, and were replaced by routine courtesies like "You're back" or straightforward ones like "I'll buy a bag of rice after get off work."

Life after marriage is indeed a lot more realistic, but to keep freshness in ordinary life, the only way is to continue the heat and enthusiasm in love and let both husband and wife feel happy in the trivial daily life. Otherwise marriage will really become the grave of love.

Learn pillow talk

Competition in society is fierce and everyone is under a lot of pressure. After returning home, I just want to rest and am too lazy to say much to my loved one. But you can allow yourself to chat with your lover before falling asleep. It doesn't have to be earth-shattering

The vows can be small things that happened around you today, interesting things you saw or heard, which contain love and consideration, and will definitely move the other person more than sweet words. The bed is a good place to solve many problems.

Reawaken good memories

Take out the yellowed love letters, the doll I gave you for the first time, the videos of you holding hands, and the photos taken when you traveled around, these are all memories of when you were in love. When life becomes dull, we must let these past memories continue to play a role. Looking back at the days we have gone through together, the sweetness and hardship in them will surely make each other more determined in their love and cherish everything they have now.

Continue to express your affection

Be responsive to your spouse's loving actions and express your true feelings. For example, if the wife does not take time to rest after get off work and cooks a large table of dishes, the husband should praise her by saying, "Honey, I love the dishes you cook the most. If you continue like this, you will make me fat!" After hearing such words, the wife's fatigue will surely be swept away.

Communication is the most important means in marriage, and the basic element of communication is language. A gentle and considerate word can make the other person feel "autumn-stirred"; a sincere word of comfort can make the other person feel no grievances; a joking word can immediately liven up the tense atmosphere. Let’s try out the magical charm of language together.

Family life taken away by career

Wife’s opinion: He spends much more time at the company than at home. He always has endless projects to do and reports to write, and he has to go out to entertain clients on weekends. Does he still want this family?

Husband’s point of view: I work so hard just to give her the best food and the best things in life. Not only does she not understand me, she also gets angry with me.

Whether before or after marriage, we all hope that our loved ones can spend as much time with us as possible. This is human nature. But love is not the only thing in life, it is not "bread". Any marriage needs a material foundation, and the way to get money is to work. What should we do when our spouse is particularly focused on work?

Understanding and support

It is a good thing to have ideals, career and pursuits, and we should be proud of having such a lover. Your spouse’s focus on career does not mean he/she does not love you. He/she is striving for a better family life, and the other party should show understanding and support to the greatest extent possible. Give careful guidance when he/she is in trouble; share the joy when he/she succeeds.

Making a marriage covenant

It is also not advisable to forget family responsibilities for the sake of career. The couple can reach a "covenant" to clarify each other's responsibilities to the family, such as one party taking on more housework, some things must be done together, etc. exist

Agree on a family development plan and then work together. The methods of working hard may be different. The husband may work harder outside, while the wife may provide more "logistical support". vice versa.

Do not forget your role as a "husband" or "wife"

In the company, you are the director and the boss, but at home, you are the "husband" or "wife" and you must fulfill the responsibilities of a "husband" or "wife". Going on an outing with your family, doing housework with them, and preparing a surprise for them are all ways that do not conflict with work but can enhance relationships.

There is a story about former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher: One day, Margaret Thatcher returned home and knocked on the door for her husband to open it. Her husband asked, "Who's knocking at the door?" Mrs. Thatcher answered without hesitation, "The British

Prime Minister of the country. "But after waiting for a long time, her husband did not come to open the door, so she knocked on the door again. Her husband asked, "Who is knocking at the door?" This time Mrs. Thatcher replied, "Your wife." Within a few seconds, her husband opened the door with a smile.

Friendship and marriage, which is more important?

Wife’s opinion: After getting married, he still likes to hang out with those “bad friends”, either drinking or playing billiard. Is it so boring to be with me?

Husband’s point of view: Getting married doesn’t mean I have to break up with my friends. We already eat and sleep together, so can’t I spend some time with my friends? People’s lives are very colorful. Although marriage is an important part of life, people will still form relationships with other people in society besides their spouse. This is especially true for young people.

Know his/her friends

Having a group of mutual friends can be very helpful in maintaining family relationships. Do you know his/her friends? Do you know what they often do together?

Why not integrate into his/her circle of friends and become friends with more people. Just because he/she is close to friends doesn’t mean friends are more important than lovers. He/she must have something in common with his/her friend, otherwise they would not become friends.

Keep a proper distance

Husband and wife should each retain a piece of free space in their hearts. No one should try to change the other, but should try to adapt to each other and allow the other to have an independent personality, unique character and a moderately free circle of life. “A short absence is better than a new marriage”, this is exactly what it means.