What makes women fall into extramarital affairs?

Marriage is always full of crises, which may not only be caused by physical sexual desire, but also by the emotional insemination. What makes mature men and women fall into such an incestuous relationship?

As long as you are sincere, I can do anything for you

This sentence, spoken by a lover, has several meanings. First, you are not sincere enough to me, and I am not satisfied with what you have given me. Second, it’s unreasonable for you to ask for my affection because you yourself are not sincere. Third, the premise of my efforts is that you must give sincerely. But usually some lovers, when hearing this from the other party, will think of it as a promise to him/her. As long as they are sincere, the other party will also be sincere to them, and they may even get divorced before marrying him/her.

Finally I realized that this sentence can be used both forward and backward. That is, they ask you to make more efforts, and then at the critical moment, they use this to stall you: since you are not completely sincere, don't blame me for retreating. The sharp contrast between the ambiguous feelings when the lover says this and the cold ending makes people feel that extramarital affairs are a sharp sword that hurts people.

There is no need to talk about money between us. The most important thing between two people is the relationship

There is a particularly interesting phenomenon, there is a rule, when someone tells you that it is not a question of money when something happens, nine times out of ten, it is a question of money. By analogy, your lover talks to you about emotional issues, not money issues. It often doesn't mean that I have to give you more emotions, or be generous with my money in front of you.

The other party's intention is most likely to ask you to be emotional with her and treat money as dirt when spending money on her. People who truly care about feelings and not money will never use such words to enlighten you. Instead, they will do it and say less, or do it without saying anything.

I didn't expect you to be such a selfish person. I'm desperate for you.

People who blame others for being selfish are often the ones who are selfish and unsatisfied themselves. Among lovers, the questions of selfishness and anti-selfishness are often caused by selfishness. Lovers who truly have feelings for each other often regard giving as happiness and think more about each other. This situation is common in happy marriages. But it is difficult to do this between extramarital lovers. Because there are often psychological barriers in extramarital affairs, and lovers are not considered as true lifelong support, so there will be more considerations in giving.

In addition, the impurity of emotions makes the contribution even more limited. If it is not for the purpose of pleasing the other party, or according to the principle of giving first, not many lovers will be selfless in extramarital affairs. Limited contribution is often the key to conflicts between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come for benefits, which intensifies the psychological balance between giving and getting. This kind of gains and losses are often linked to whether or not there is emotion, which makes the love in the extramarital affair a bait for fishing and turns the extramarital affair into a shameful act.

I've given you everything I could, what else do you want?

It is common for extramarital lovers to get angry with each other. For example, the problem of jealousy. Even if you don’t really love the other person, you will often feel jealous when the other person shows intimacy with other members of the opposite sex. Why? One reason is that the relationship between extramarital lovers is itself a form of infidelity, and they are extremely sensitive to further infidelity. The second reason is because of possessiveness, which makes them feel that their privileges are being encroached upon, and thus they become angry.

In an extramarital affair, the party who does not truly love the other party and does not really want to marry the other party often does not express his or her feelings directly, such as saying "I love you" or promising to marry the other party. On the one hand, they are afraid that such a commitment and confession will leave them with no way out. If they tell the truth, they are afraid that the conflict will escalate immediately, bringing them adverse consequences. Therefore, we often take the middle road and use ambiguous words or alternative words to make the other party misunderstand and achieve psychological balance.

Through communicating with many consultants, I found that many people who were deceived attributed their eventual breakup to some objective reasons. In fact, this is the effect caused by the cunning of lovers. At the critical moment, they don't leave any handles for words, don't intensify the conflict, and then find opportunities to make you speechless and prefer to withdraw automatically.

I really want to go with you and leave this suffocating environment

At the beginning of an extramarital affair, this sentence can easily capture the other person's heart. When the relationship between lovers reaches a certain level, saying this sentence often makes lovers feel warmth and romance. But there is a hint of some special meaning hidden in this sentence. In other words, there is actually no way out for our emotions. Wanting a long-lasting relationship or wanting to truly be together is just an overly romantic idea and is unrealistic.

Because lovers survive in darkness and cracks

In this bright world, they have no place to stand and are afraid of the cruelty of reality, which leads to such overly romantic visions and perceptions. If a person is rational, he will not be tempted by extramarital affairs. Only those who are restless and irrational will fall into extramarital affairs and finally return to normal life with wounds all over their body, or stay in pain or destructive reality and can never come back.