Which kind of man is the better and the less likely you are to marry him?

"A good man can make you live a comfortable and stable life, which attracts the favor of many girls. However, some modern women I have met think that these so-called "good men" are not suitable for modern women who are self-reliant, focus on their own personality and independent character, and pursue achievements. Once they form a good relationship with these "good men", it may not bear the good fruit of love. If you are a woman, after listening to their love stories and opinions, will you feel the same?

1. The “good boy” who lacks independent thinking

If you hear that a boy doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, seldom goes out at night and has never been out all night, you will definitely exclaim, "Wow," and say, "What a good boy this is." But I am afraid of this kind of "good boy" boy. Main, a dance teacher at an art kindergarten, said so. Her ex-boyfriend Zhe was deeply in love with her and had a good family background. His father was a powerful official in a provincial agency and his mother was a professor at a prestigious university. Zhe has always listened to his parents since he was a child. He has excellent academic performance and has gone smoothly along the path designed by the couple. After completing his postgraduate studies, his father found a good position for him. In Zhe's opinion, not a word from his parents is worth a thousand words, and they won't go wrong, so naturally he listens to them. When he was dating Maine, his family went along with him, but they couldn't stand Maine's love of making friends, hanging out in bars, and enjoying the city's nightlife. They couldn't tell their future daughter-in-law, so they asked their son to convey their message. So Zhe would often "enlighten" Maine, and would often say things like "My parents said..." Sometimes Maine would get anxious and ask, "What do you think?" He would answer, "My parents are right." Maine was so angry that she couldn't do anything about him. How could her lover be so indecisive and always say "my parents'". Wouldn't this sentence become a "curse" that gave her a headache when they were together in the future? She might be able to live a comfortable life under the protection of their family, but she would really lose her personality and freedom. Such a "good man" was not suitable for her, so she had to say "bye-bye" in the end.

A "good man" like Zhe has no opinions of his own, lacks his own standards for judging things, and dares not say "no" to others. Although he is very obedient and can bring you a comfortable and stable life, he will also change you into a good girl and make you suffer the pain of broken wings.

2. The Ninja Turtles without temper

"You little girl, you are so willful, who can spoil you? Hailin is such a good-tempered child and he obeys you so much, but you actually laugh at him and think he is a 'Ninja Turtle'." Xiao He complained in her heart every time she heard her mother's nagging. She had been dating Hailin for three years and had a deep understanding of his lukewarm personality. She had never seen him lose his temper with her, nor had she ever seen him scold her out of deep dissatisfaction with something. Hailin took great care of her, even meticulously. He is also hardworking and conscientious in the unit. Colleagues ask him for help when they need to run errands, and they send him to do the hard tasks that no one wants to do. In every year-end evaluation, he always receives positive comments like "good at unity, hardworking, and willing to endure hardships." However, his colleagues are all more successful than him, while he is still being sent around at will, and there is no sign of "improvement" at all. But he is not annoyed or anxious. It is rare to have a calm mindset, but he is too tempered, lacks ambition, and has no fighting spirit. Although he can live a plain and stable life with his wife and children in the future with fewer twists and turns, Xiao He is afraid that the temper of this "Ninja Turtle" will be passed on to herself in the long-term life together, making herself a "robot" who supports the family like the women of her mother's generation. Although her parents tried their best to match her up with Hailin, she still acted without consulting Hailin and broke up with him with full of apologies.

There are not many good-tempered men like Hailin now, and the market is favored by some "little jade" type girls. But if you are a modern woman who wants to work hard, this kind of man may not be suitable for you. Either he changes you, or in the future you will have different efforts, resulting in huge gaps in all aspects, which will brew a cup of bitter wine. No matter which situation occurs, it will affect the development of your career.

3. The "good husband" who can do everything

He Fei's marriage once attracted the envy of many girls. She accidentally found a "rich man" as her husband. Because Fei is so outstanding, her academic qualifications, appearance and temperament have fascinated many suitors. When her husband, who was in business, proposed to her, he vowed to let Fei live a comfortable life and asked her to quit her job and stay at home. So she became a full-time "good housewife" from then on, and without the baby, she lived a very carefree life. But as time went on, Fei felt that staying idle like this for a long time was not a good idea, because she was still young and wanted to start a career. As a modern woman, she doesn't want to depend on a man all her life. She asked her husband to let her go out to work, but her husband refused, saying that the money he earned was enough for the family and he just wanted to clean up the house and have a baby as soon as possible. What worries Feifei even more is that her mother-in-law is eager to have a grandchild and urges her to be a mother all the time. She felt that she was not the woman her husband needed, so she had to "break out". At that time, many relatives and friends did not understand her behavior. How many girls wanted to be with such a good husband but could not, but she gave up. Now she is the assistant to the boss of a German-funded enterprise. She is much busier and under much more pressure than before, but she has no complaints in her heart because she feels that the sky outside is so bright.

Those good husbands who do everything for themselves always want their wives to stay at home, do housework and take care of the baby. You become a bird in a golden cage. After a long time, you can't fly high even if you want to, so you have to entrust your life to others. As a modern woman who is self-reliant, pursuing achievement and self-improvement, I certainly don't want to become a golden bird that relies on others to feed it.

Modern women don’t marry “good men” just to be better themselves.