Why does it hurt after sex?

It is very common to feel a little pain down there after sex, which is medically known as dyspareunia. There are many possible reasons for this, and pain alone cannot lead to an accurate conclusion. It is necessary to make a judgment based on other characteristics that may occur. However, we can first understand the main reasons, which will help us make judgments. So, what’s the matter if I feel a little pain down there after having sex? Let’s take a look below.

There are many causes of pain during sexual intercourse, including diseases of the reproductive organs and urinary system, congenital malformations, etc. Typical lesions are endometriotic nodules on the uterosacral ligament close to the posterior fornix of the vagina, pelvic inflammation and peritoneal organ adhesions. When the penis is inserted and touches the nodules, the friction with the vaginal mucosa causes the peritoneum to shake and pull the organs, causing pain. In addition, specific vaginal allergies, such as allergies caused by the use of contraceptive tools, can also cause pain. The first intercourse after marriage will tear the hymen and expand the vaginal opening, which may also cause pain and slight difficulty in intercourse in the first few days.

The mental excitement of a newlywed couple and the busyness and fatigue that comes with it can also make intercourse incompletely satisfactory. Therefore, it usually takes 3 to 4 weeks after the marriage to achieve satisfactory intercourse. Hasty intercourse, that is, before the woman's sexual excitement is fully aroused, the vagina lacks expansion and lubrication. Inserting the penis at this time, or inserting it with a slightly violent movement, often causes temporary pain, and sexual excitement will be suppressed. As the penis thrusts and rubs, the pain may increase, especially in the highly sensitive clitoris area. It has rich blood vessels and nerve tissue, and in the absence of sexual excitement and dryness, it will not only cause pain, but also produce an unbearable feeling of disgust psychologically.

In the absence of organic lesions, pain during sexual intercourse is mainly caused by insufficient vaginal lubrication. There are two main reasons for insufficient sexual arousal: first, insufficient preparation for intercourse, that is, insufficient flirting actions such as hugging, kissing, and caressing; second, there is intercourse anxiety, fear, lack of concentration, and depression and unhappiness caused by work and life.

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To treat dyspareunia, in addition to organic diseases that require treatment, other diseases should generally be treated with psychological treatment. The specific method is as follows:

1. Overcome fear

The relaxation method can adopt progressive relaxation training, which eliminates tension and achieves the purpose of relaxation through repeated "contraction-relaxation" cycle training of muscles.

2. Establish a mentality of gender equality

Women's pain and difficulty in sexual intercourse are often caused by psychological inequality. Some sex psychology experts emphasize that successful intercourse must break the siege of silence and isolation and abandon traditional and oppressive shyness. It advocates psychological equality between men and women during sexual intercourse, that is, equal sexual desires, equal ways of expressing sexual desires, equal initiative, etc.

3. Create a good sexual environment

Whether the environment for making love is suitable is an essential condition for treating sexual dysfunction. Human sexual intercourse is not only legal but also civilized, but one must also choose a suitable environment to have sex. A suitable environment is one of the important conditions for successful intercourse.

4. Proper sexual caressing

Many wives experience difficulty and pain during sexual intercourse because their husbands enter roughly the first time. Sexual caressing can cause women to become highly sexually aroused, and even slight pain is often not noticeable. There is no fixed standard for the pleasure of sexual caress. It is related to psychological factors, life experiences, upbringing, etc., and varies from person to person.

5. Practice vaginal muscle relaxation techniques

This behavioral therapy is particularly effective for painful intercourse caused by vaginismus. Vaginismus is an involuntary reflex spasm of the muscles surrounding the vagina, including the adductor thigh muscles. There are three types of vaginismus: primary vaginismus, secondary vaginismus, and situational vaginismus.

Vaginal muscle relaxation technique: Have the woman perform continuous contraction and relaxation of the muscles of her abdomen, inner thighs and vaginal opening, giving her a sense of control over the tightness of her muscles. The method is for the woman to insert her fingertips into the vaginal opening and experience the contraction and relaxation of the vaginal muscles.