How to identify a "fake orgasm"

Please remember one thing: if a woman is found to have no physiological problems after a professional medical examination but has difficulty reaching orgasm, she must seek help from a sex therapist to gain a deeper understanding of the mechanisms of female sexual excitement and orgasm, and to learn techniques, postures and communication methods that are helpful for female orgasmic response.

As Adam Tokunaga said, 95% of women who suffer from sexual frigidity are actually normal. There were two misconceptions about sexual concepts in the past. One was that orgasm achieved through clitoral stimulation was unnatural and immature, and the other was that women must have men to achieve complete satisfaction. Now we know that there is no physiological difference between orgasm and whether or not there is male involvement or what type of stimulation is used to achieve orgasm. On the other hand, this further proves that for those women who think they are "sexually frigid", it is not that they are abnormal, but the abnormal thing is the so-called medical common sense that leads you astray. Don't be fooled by women's "fake orgasms". Statistics from women's magazines show that about 80% of adult women have pretended to reach orgasm. It is easy to tell whether a man has reached orgasm, so it cannot be faked. But it's different for women; it's very common for them to fake an orgasm in bed.

Pretending to have an orgasm is of course because the losers did not reach orgasm. There are roughly two reasons that prompt them to do so. The first is because of love. They don't want to ruin the atmosphere of the sex scene and don't want to hurt the other person. Although they don't feel very comfortable, they hope that their lover is in a good mood. We should take off our hats to women for such care and love. The second divine principle is a kind of humiliation for men. Some women are very tired of the boring physical caressing and piston movement, so they pretend to reach orgasm and use psychological tactics to make men ejaculate quickly, so as to end their "unbearable pain".

It is difficult for men to distinguish between these two completely different reasons. In fact, during sex, it is difficult to tell whether a woman has reached orgasm. Women are born actors, and men are only thinking about ejaculation. In such a state, it is naturally more difficult to understand the real situation of women.

No matter what the reason is for a woman to pretend to have an orgasm, the ultimate harm is almost the same - it makes many men mistakenly take a woman's fake orgasm as "proof" of their own ability. They clearly don't even know the most basic sexual skills, but they are completely unaware and make the same mistake again and again. If they happen to make the other person reach orgasm once, they think they are omnipotent and are absolutely the top "sex master". If you change your sexual partner, even if the other party does not respond at all, you will still just work hard and keep repeating the sexual technique that happened to be successful.

The techniques I will introduce to you next are all what I am proud of and are highly applicable. Even so, they are not omnipotent. No one can say that the sexual skills he or she possesses are unparalleled and invincible. Sex must be practiced. After learning the so-called basic theory, you must use it as a benchmark, carefully observe women's reactions in practice, and make fine adjustments. Of course, no matter how things change, the basic techniques remain the same. As for how to prescribe the right medicine and how to respond to emergencies, that is where sex masters demonstrate their skills. The basic principles are the same whether it's for me, a so-called sex guru, or for you, a beginner reading this book.

Men need to keep their eyes open at all times and not be fooled by women's "fake orgasms".

※It is a ridiculous social pressure to require women to reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse. In order to cope with this social pressure, many women have to pretend to have orgasms. Some women pretend often, most of them have pretended, and some pretend every time. Why is it so? The survey of "Heidi's Sex Report. Women" is very convincing.

"I fake orgasms because I can't orgasm during vaginal intercourse and my man wants me to orgasm every time. He would be very disappointed if he knew I can't orgasm during vaginal intercourse."

"In my marriage, I'm very good at faking orgasms. I do this because I'm worried that I'm not acting like a real woman and I don't want to make my male partner lose confidence. If faking an orgasm can build a man's self-esteem and make him feel masculine, and I love him and want him to think that I enjoy having sex with him, I will fake an orgasm."

"In order to please men and gain their admiration, I used to fake orgasms and make them believe that I was a sexy little wild girl. I still remember faking orgasms at night after a long journey and even on my wedding night. At that time, I thought I was the only one who faked orgasms! However, I no longer do it because I know I have the right to demand real pleasure."

"Of course. Many men won't stop until I climax, and they even want to see me dying to satisfy them."

"I have been faking orgasms for the past 30 years because I need the appreciation and support of men. Also, I don't have the heart to hurt my husband, who is also an insecure person."

"I often fake orgasms because I'm too shy to tell the men I sleep with what I need. I'm also too afraid to tell them they're wasting their time, because it won't turn me on and will make it harder for me to orgasm."

"I often fake orgasms during vaginal intercourse. I find that if I don't fake an orgasm, my partner gets upset. I always want to be like a hot tortilla, ready to orgasm at any time."

"I use my orgasm to save his face, to give him confidence and dignity, and to help him realize his love for me. I don't want to admit that I'm acting, but I'm always criticized for having orgasms. Once I really don't have an orgasm, I will start to demand that I must have one."

"You are required to be unreserved during sex and to have an orgasm. Men care more about whether their lover has an orgasm than women do. My orgasm is more important to my husband than to myself. It makes my husband feel confident and secure."

"I can still enjoy sex without an orgasm. What makes me sadder than not having an orgasm is the frustration of being a loser, or the fear that I am sexually apathetic, lack sexual attractiveness, etc. The men's or women's liberation movement believes that 'women should have orgasms', and this statement puts pressure on me. I don't have sex for the sake of pursuing orgasms, but I always wonder, can I have an orgasm this time?"

※In "Heidi's Sex Report: Men", the survey shows that men usually don't know when or how women reach orgasm. The answers to this question are often vague and uncertain.

"Honestly, I never paid much attention to her reaction and didn't know if she had an orgasm or not. Every time after my perfect performance, this girl I was dating would say to me: 'Oh, thank you.' So, she probably had an orgasm, or more than one."