If a couple forgets this before they have sex, the consequences will be miserable.

After a couple has children, sex becomes a very private matter. It is common for the child to break into the couple's bed while they are having sex, causing great embarrassment to both them and the child. This sudden shock is a great stimulation to many people, and some men may even suffer from impotence due to this shock.

Some time ago, I saw a cartoon like this: a couple was lying on the bed, covering their naked bodies with a quilt in fear, under the bed stood the policeman who had just broken into the room, and next to the policeman was a little boy about five or six years old. The policeman in the cartoon angrily said to the little boy, "If you encounter this kind of situation again, don't call the police!"

In fact, in real life, many lovers or spouses have experienced their sex life being accidentally interrupted. This sudden shock is a relatively serious adverse stimulus for most people.

Especially for men, cases of erectile dysfunction (ED) caused by this are not uncommon in clinical practice. For example, a nonlocal graduate student couple from a certain scientific research institution moved into the unit’s dormitory. Their normal married life stopped and they could only get together in the dormitory on weekends when the local students returned home. But the man had no reaction at all. It turned out that he was always worried that there were ears on the other side of the wall or that a classmate would suddenly break in. It wasn't until they had their own cabin that his sexual function returned to normal. In addition, parents' attitudes and behaviors also play a big role.

For example, some elderly people are influenced by traditional ideas and believe that sex is harmful to the body. They often persuade or hint to their children to be moderate in their sex life. This practice becomes even worse after they have children. Other parents always treat their children as children and often tuck them in at night for fear that they will catch a cold. Little do they know that the "children" would rather catch a cold than be frightened! And it is even more common for parents to enter their children's room without knocking. Of course, after having children, this kind of interference is even more difficult to prevent, just like the situation in the cartoon. So, it’s best to lock the door when having sex.

It is not difficult to see that improving living conditions is an effective way to solve the problem. It is said that Japan has the so-called "two-generation house" building, which can maintain the privacy of two generations while ensuring mutual care between them. But for now, it is difficult for ordinary people to change in the short term.

Learn to gradually adapt to the environment and adjust yourself psychologically, do not rush for success, and be brave to have emotional exchanges between husband and wife and between parents; correctly treat sexual dysfunction that occasionally occurs due to interference, do not worry and develop fear and potential anxiety, and seek help from a specialist when necessary; appropriately change the way of sexual life to adapt to the new environment; change the time (to create a time difference with the elderly and children) and place of sexual life; use existing conditions to create a warmer and more private bedroom environment (reasonable use of curtains, lights, decorations), etc.

1. Maintain active sex life

Any organ in the human body follows the law of "use it or lose it", and "sexual disuse atrophy" is not uncommon among middle-aged people. This is mainly because middle-aged people lack a correct understanding of their delayed erection and non-ejaculation, lack confidence in their sex life, and have a fear, so they reduce their sex life prematurely, which in turn causes atrophy and degeneration of their sexual organs and gonads. The best way for middle-aged men to maintain their sexual ability is to have regular and moderate sex life. Couples who enjoy sex for a long time and maintain a positive attitude can constantly get spiritual happiness from sex. Regular and moderate sex life can help maintain men's sexual function.

Long-term abstinence may actually accelerate one's own aging, so it is necessary to correct certain misunderstandings about sexual life in a timely manner. Moderate sex life is beneficial to physical and mental health and helps improve the relationship between couples. Therefore, middle-aged couples can adjust the frequency and intensity of their sex life according to their own circumstances to maintain a harmonious sex life.

2. Mutual respect and understanding to enhance feelings

Sex life is one of the important pillars of the relationship between husband and wife. High-quality sex life can promote emotional exchange between husband and wife. Sexual life is not just physical satisfaction, but the fusion of two people's souls. Improving the relationship between husband and wife is not only a prerequisite for improving the quality of their sexual life, but also the ultimate goal of all related "tricks".

If spouses have an emotional foundation of mutual respect, understanding and consideration, their sex life can be happy and harmonious. If their emotions are indifferent, they sleep in the same bed but have different dreams, or there are endless quarrels and fits, their sex life will be difficult to be satisfying. Interestingly, sex can often be a weapon for couples to "turn hostility into friendship", because sex can naturally encourage them to talk, touch and exchange feelings. Both parties can consciously try to eliminate interference, ensure that sex life is not affected, and improve the relationship between husband and wife.

3. It is not advisable to have sex when you are tired

The fatigue mentioned here refers to excessive fatigue, including both physical and mental aspects. Such as after staying up late for consecutive nights or just after participating in long-term heavy physical labor. After excessive fatigue, people will obviously feel poor in spirit and physical strength, which will affect sexual function and sexual intercourse will not be as pleasant as usual. If you force yourself to have sex at this time, it will cause further fatigue and affect the recovery of physical strength and energy. If this happens frequently, it may lead to sexual indifference and even aversion to sex.

4. Don’t go to bed with a bad mood

The bedroom is a place for couples to relax physically and enjoy rest mentally. Negative emotions such as depression and irritability will affect the normal sexual life, making it difficult for both parties to concentrate, reducing the sense of sexual pleasure, and even causing premature ejaculation, impotence, etc. Therefore, before going to bed, put aside all the trivial matters and worries related to work and life, just bring your body and feelings into the bedroom, integrate into the world of two people, and experience the beauty of married life with each other.

5. Emphasis on love rather than desire

The sex life of middle-aged people is not only a physiological need, but more importantly, it is a way to express love to their spouse. Middle-aged people pay more attention to psychological feelings when they have sex than when they were young. The key is not the number of times, and there is no need to care about the quantity. The average frequency of sex for middle-aged men is 1 to 2 times a week. If you were in good shape last week and had sex 3 times, but you don't feel physically fit this week, you can skip it. Don't mind it too much and don't force yourself to have sex a certain number of times every week. The number of times is really not important. The key lies in the quality of sex and whether the couple truly enjoy the process of sex.

6. Adjust the rhythm of sex

As middle-aged people become more psychologically mature, their way of expressing sex is more considerate, deeper and gentler. The rhythm of sexual excitement in middle-aged men gradually slows down, and sexual excitement turns from "fast tempo" to "slow tempo", and the time needed to reach orgasm is also prolonged. On the surface, this change seems to reduce sexual ability, but in fact it makes the sexual excitement process of men and wives closer, and the couple's lovemaking rhythm becomes more consistent, so both parties can enjoy the entire sexual process more harmoniously and synchronously.

With this synchronization, the wife's sexual response will become more enthusiastic and they can reach orgasm at the same time, allowing both husband and wife to have a more satisfying sex life.