What would you do when a woman says "I want" madly?

Chinese society instills in women the idea that if you want sex or masturbation more often than men, don't expect men to satisfy your sexual needs. In people's minds, women are the ones who don't want sex. If men say they want it, women just have to say yes or no. If they want women to open their legs, women have to adapt to them.

But what if it’s the woman who “enjoys” sex?

I mean, doesn't every man dream of having a girlfriend who's hot and horny? Isn't that desirable?

If a woman wants sex all the time, why can't she get fucked all the time? Women don't have a choice, right?

If men always want this, then wouldn't a woman who's always in the mood for sex be a great surprise?

The answer is usually no, and it’s something people rarely anticipate in a relationship. What would happen if women decided to take charge of this power?

As a woman, what will happen if you compromise your sexual needs with your boyfriend?

You will want it like crazy

Even though you know it's normal to want sex, you want it so badly that it drives you crazy. What's wrong with you that you want it so badly?

You're letting this ruin what could be a healthy and happy relationship, and it's ruining the wonderful thing of sex, and it's a terrible situation.

Society has taught women that if you masturbate more than men, there is a problem, and that you are truly crazy if you trust a man to satisfy your needs. The problem is you, you are the unreasonable one.

You'll constantly be frustrated because you just can't make your cravings go away, and there's no healthy way to reduce your libido (who would want that?), and you'll constantly be contradicting yourself in this situation.

Somehow, this is always "your problem"

It's your problem if you want sex, but it's not "his problem" if you don't want sex that much. It's never him who compromises, it's you who wants too much.

You are the unreasonable one, he is a normal man. Why do you want sex so badly? What's wrong with you?

The solution is never that "he" should fill the gap, that is never the case, the only thing you can do is to keep yourself busy with other things and hope that things will get better (but they won't).

You are a vibrant, confident woman, but now you feel like a failure because your partner doesn't want to have sex with you.

Is compromise the only solution?

Relationships (whether romantic, friendship, family or sexual) are made up of compromises. Only when you make concessions can both parties find the possibility of happiness. He deals with your panic and you deal with his hyperactivity.

But sex is a completely different matter, how can you compromise on sex? There is nothing worse than compromising the feeling of sex, just thinking about it.

Do you have sex because he has an obligation to have sex with you and make you happy? This will make you feel disgusted. You're turning a beautiful thing into a formality, treating sex like a commodity - when it's actually a huge thing that brings the two of you closer together.

You didn’t want to be so pathetic, and begging him to give it to you wasn’t attractive at all. You want sex because you want to be desired by the other person, not because he wants to satisfy you.

You have to masturbate secretly while he's asleep

It was a desperate thing to do because you had to hold back from screaming. When this is the only option you can think of, you feel a deep and profound sense of guilt.

It's a strange feeling because you're happy with every other part of the relationship, but you can't seem to face this problem. You wish you didn’t feel this way, wish you could deal with this mess.

But still here you are, like a bandit in the dark, masturbating in the night.

You complain about this to everyone you know.

Your friends are tired of hearing about it, and this is a big hindrance to your happiness. You know everyone is fed up with it but you just can’t stop, it eats you up like a germ and you have to speak out about it to free your infected soul.

You don’t want to keep discussing this with him because it would hurt him to know that you are frustrated, but it hurts to not be able to find any solution. You don't want to hurt him, but you are the only one who gets hurt.

You always secretly wonder if he has someone else he wants to be with more

Or does he have some weird, kinky fetish that he hasn’t told you about, you question your sexual appeal, your looks, your skills in bed, you constantly question yourself, your dilemma keeps popping up in your mind and engulfing all your senses.

Uneasy emotions crawl onto your body and mind like termites in the woods

Are you terrible in bed? Are you ugly? Or does he want something but has trouble asking for it? Do you find yourself fantasizing about him and his exes and what they want? Does he wish you were more like his ex?

You over-interpret his comments about other girls and over-think everything he says and does. Desperate to recapture that feeling and sense of belonging between you, you dutifully and diligently search for answers—and then dread what you’ll find.

You are tired of saying the same thing over and over again

You want sex and you ask for it, and you always have because you have your own sexual autonomy. You make a request, he refuses, and you feel worthless.

Talking about this is like a broken record. You know communication is important, but what’s the point of talking about it when nothing is going to change?

Bringing it up all the time won't make him want you more, telling him how sad and empty you feel won't make him want you more, it will just make you feel sadder and more hopeless than before.

It really destroys your confidence.

No matter how confident you are, being rejected sexually is a particularly severe and painful experience for a woman, leaving you deeply hurt.

You don't want to become the kind of woman who needs a man's affirmation and acceptance to feel complete. But you've come this far.