These "experiences" of men are all wrong

Men often have their own experiences in sex, but these experiences are often wrong.

Myth 1: Darkening of the external genitalia means promiscuity

A young man wrote in a letter: When I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, out of curiosity about the female genitals, I couldn't help but look at the mysterious triangle area that fascinates men. However, when I saw my girlfriend's lower body, I was stunned. I couldn't believe that she had such fair skin, but this place was so dark. My sexual desire disappeared immediately because I had heard that only women who have frequent sex will become very dark. I don't mind if she is not a virgin, but if she is a promiscuous woman, I will find it hard to accept it anyway.

There has been a rumor among the people that frequent sexual intercourse will cause a woman's external genitalia to turn black, and even that the degree of pigmentation on the surface of the labia majora can be used to determine whether a woman is a virgin. This is extremely unreliable. Typically, the color of the labia majora ranges from brown to light black, and the range is consistent with the area where pubic hair occurs. Although women who have given birth tend to have a wider range of pigmentation and darker color beyond the pubic hair growth area, this is not absolute. Even teenage virgins can have large areas of pigmentation. Therefore, it is extremely undesirable to use large areas of pigmentation to judge whether the other person is promiscuous.

Likewise, frequent sexual intercourse will not cause the labia minora to darken. In fact, the labia minora of married women are fuller than those of virgins because the labia minora become enlarged due to friction during sexual intercourse. At the same time, the labia minora of many virgins will turn black due to pigmentation, while some middle-aged women who have been married for nearly 20 years still have pink labia minora.

Mistake 2: Rubbing the clitoris will make your wife orgasm

"In order to make my wife reach orgasm during sex, I always try my best to do my best. I learned from some magazines and books that the clitoris is a very sensitive part of women, and I also know that the clitoris is located in a relatively high position. So during sex, I try to move the penis forward a little so that it can get close to the clitoris and increase my wife's sexual pleasure by rubbing the clitoris. But every time I do this, she will scream in pain and I have to change to a normal position. Even if I just touch the clitoris with my hand, she will say it's uncomfortable. I really don't understand."

Although the distressed husband had good intentions, he was unable to give his wife a better experience. It has always been rumored among the people that the size of the clitoris is directly related to women's sexual function. Even in various books on sexual knowledge, there is repeated emphasis on how couples should use the penis to directly stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse. These rumors just show that people do not understand the process of sexual intercourse very well. In fact, it is difficult for an erect penis to fit directly against the woman's entire mons pubis. The vaginal opening of women who have not given birth is tighter, and it is difficult to insert an erect penis. It is no wonder that women often complain about pain in the external opening of their vagina. This shows that this sexual position is not desirable.

In addition, when having sex in positions such as woman on top or sideways, the man can touch the clitoris with his hands at the same time. This method may speed up the arrival of orgasm and enhance the intensity of sexual pleasure. However, it should be pointed out that not all women can adapt to this practice. Some women feel pain when their clitoris is touched, which destroys the pleasure originally brought by the thrusting of the penis. Therefore, in order to make sex life more harmonious, both parties need to communicate constantly.

Mistake 3: Women also moan when masturbating

In Western movies, there are conscious moans or shouts when depicting female masturbation. This is a misunderstanding of female masturbation and is purely an acting skill. Only masturbation that stimulates the vagina will make sounds like normal sexual intercourse because you stop breathing and make sounds to intensify the movement. However, most female masturbators focus on stimulating the clitoris, and very few insert foreign objects into the vagina.

Regardless of men or women, masturbation is beneficial for venting their excess sexual energy. It does not involve the opposite sex or emotional entanglements, nor does it lead to sexual assault or even sexual crime. It is a way to relieve sexual tension, but it should be done in moderation and not indulged. Because the clitoris is frequently stimulated, its tolerance increases, making it less sensitive. Over time, long-term, continuous and strong stimulation is needed, especially when approaching orgasm, which requires greater stimulation, resulting in enlargement of the clitoris. Clinically, clitoral hypertrophy can indeed be seen in women with a history of masturbation for decades. When asking about their sexual history, it can often be learned that they have extensively used one or more mechanical stimulation techniques. At the same time, there are many such women who still masturbate after marriage, because normal sexual intercourse cannot provide the strong stimulation of masturbation and cannot satisfy her sexual pleasure. This phenomenon deserves the attention of women who masturbate.