The happiest woman is the one who knows how to act coquettishly!

Many people know how to act coquettishly, but how can you act coquettishly to lock in happiness and make him love you more? Acting coquettishly is not the case. On the contrary, too much coquettishness can easily make people feel irritated. Knowing the technique and measure of acting coquettishly is the love secret weapon of every smart woman. Acting coquettishly appropriately can make a man feel warmed and willing to give everything for you, and happiness will naturally surround you.

In the interaction between men and women, acting coquettishly is a very special behavior, but it can make people feel very warm. Even when men and women are in a tense and hostile situation, acting coquettishly at the right time can defuse the hostility.

From a psychological perspective, the so-called "acting coquettishly" should be the phenomenon that one believes that the other person understands me very well, loves me very much, and that there is a certain degree of affection between each other. Therefore, as long as I have a request, even if it is a little excessive, the other person will definitely agree.

From this we can see that the prerequisite for acting coquettishly to someone is that the other person must have a fairly close relationship or emotional foundation with you. Otherwise, if you act coquettishly to a stranger or a friend you are only half-acquainted with, not only will they not feel warmed, they will also be so scared that they will go to the temple to ward off evil.

The so-called "acting like a spoiled child" phenomenon often occurs between men and women or between couples in love.

However, according to surveys, men will become impatient if a woman acts coquettishly too often. Under such circumstances, the gulf between him and her will become deeper and deeper.

Therefore, whether or not a woman can act coquettishly is the key to being loved by a man. Being coquettish is like the sugar in coffee. If there is too little sugar, the love life will be too bitter. If there is too much sugar, it will make you feel nauseous when drinking it.

Every woman knows how to act coquettishly, but there are not many women who understand the philosophy and art of acting coquettishly. In fact, this is the key to a woman being popular with men.

I have a female friend. Actually, we are just ordinary friends, but she often talks endlessly in front of me about trivial things that have nothing to do with me.

Maybe she thinks this behavior is a way of being coquettish to me, or maybe she is subconsciously trying to be coquettish to me? But I really don't want to hear those words.

However, I had a feeling that she wasn't just being coquettish with me, so I became more and more impatient the more I listened. Because she was gossiping about things that had nothing to do with me and making meaningless complaints, which was really unbearable to listen to.

Therefore, I think the biggest shortcoming of many women is that they don’t realize that they are acting coquettishly.

For example, even if she has talked about the same topic for the 101st time, she will still say, "Please, listen to me. You may feel bored, but just listen patiently!"

If the relationship between two people is very close and it is stated in advance, the man will have no choice but to listen. Because he knew that she was acting coquettishly towards him.

However, men are naturally slow in some aspects, and sometimes they can't figure out whether the woman in front of them is acting coquettishly. Sometimes you might even mistakenly think she's being willful and wild!

If you act like a spoiled brat to this extent, a man with a hot temper might get angry.

When a relationship has progressed to a certain point, both men and women will feel that silence is better than words, and a tacit look can replace nagging and annoying reminders, and each party will understand what the other means.

However, once the relationship between a man and a woman reaches this point, both parties will forget the proper "mutual respect" and even think that the other party should know what they are thinking or want.

However, no matter how good the relationship is, the other person is not a worm in your stomach and cannot completely know what you are thinking or what you want.

At this time, a smart woman should not be angry, nor should she judge that the other person does not love you or does not understand you. He is just too busy or too careless! You might as well use a coquettish way to remind him or ask him to think about you or understand your needs.

However, as far as I know, many women will just yell at the top of their lungs at this time, and when they fail to yell, they will start crying. As a result, the man's love for you disappears for the most part, as if he suddenly woke up from a drunken stupor. If the two do not communicate and repair their relationship well in the future, there will be big problems.

As the saying goes, "Closeness breeds contempt." When people get along for a long time or have a close relationship, they will unconsciously disrespect each other, and conflicts and hostility will arise.

Therefore, when you feel that there are some things that must be explained clearly to the other party, even if you are in love with the person you are with, you should know how to use coquettishness to convey "soft" opinions, so as not to cause friction between the two of you, and even make the relationship more harmonious and happier.

Every woman knows how to act coquettishly, but only a woman who knows the art and measure of acting coquettishly is the smart woman who can make a man feel warm and willing to give everything for you.

When you know yourself, you will understand why you should act like a spoiled child.

Some people may scold me, saying that I just want women to act like a spoiled child and change, why not ask men to act like a spoiled child? Why not ask men to be more considerate?

Alas! I really want to ask these readers, do you really understand what I said? Or, do you really understand love? Do you really understand why women act like a spoiled child?

Many women think that their bad love life is a trick of fate, and that they have been unlucky for sixteen lifetimes, which is why they meet philandering men, domineering men, and cowardly men... In fact, those are just excuses. The real reason is their own failure. Because they cannot see clearly what they need, they mistake the refrigerator for a washing machine and the frog for a prince.

For example, I have a friend whose every relationship starts in winter and ends in summer, simply because it is cold in winter and a person feels more lonely and helpless.

To be honest, this is just a "seasonal relationship" that is slightly longer than a one-night stand, and it is essentially still a game-playing mentality. Because she just wants a warm living person to accompany her, instead of really wanting to cultivate a mature relationship. How can such a relationship last? How can she understand why women act like spoiled brats to their significant other?

Similarly, men also make the same mistake and treat love as a game. However, 90 percent of men's motivation to fall in love is just because of hormones. If a woman wants to use her body to satisfy a man's desires and fall in love with him, it is really a fantasy.

On the contrary, smart and lucky women know how to use their inner sincerity and true love to connect with the inner soul of a man, making the man unable to live without her. Only such love can be called happy.

For example, a female friend of mine has a boyfriend who has a mild limb disability, commonly known as "long and short legs." When the two of them walk together, they often accidentally perform stunts. Sometimes, even when we were walking on the street and there was not a single step or stone on the road, the man with short legs would still trip over himself and fly out, and even drag my friends and innocent passers-by down with him, creating a long line of people.

At first my friend felt very embarrassed and even scolded her boyfriend: "Why don't you walk properly!" As a result, she was wearing a small dress and high heels, but she fell down in the busy street. In the end, she simply refused to go out to crowded places with her boyfriend, for fear of falling down all day and being laughed at by passers-by.

I once asked her, "Does your boyfriend's different leg lengths really bother you? Does his love for you decrease because of this restriction?" She lowered her head and was silent for a long time. Then tears burst out like a fire hydrant being opened.

After my friend calmed down, she slowly said that she knew it was not her boyfriend's fault, and that the kindness her boyfriend had shown her should not be overshadowed by this little accident. It was just that she just couldn't stand the looks and ridicule of passers-by.

So I told her, "No one is perfect. You will grow old, and when you are old, you will need support from others. When you need support from others, do you want to be criticized or comforted by others?"

I think my words did have some effect, because after a while she told me that one time when her boyfriend was shopping with her hand, she slipped hard again. This time she did not scold him impatiently, but said to him coquettishly: "I think I'll make a life-saving point card. When I accumulate a hundred points, you give me a small gift." Not only did she considerately resolve her boyfriend's guilt towards her, but she also was able to calmly face this dilemma that had troubled her for a long time.

A woman with a lucky life will not act coquettishly in front of a man like a nympho, but she knows what she wants and what kind of relationship she wants to cultivate, so she will use her coquettishness seriously and make the right man love her more. After her boyfriend collected 100 points on the point card, he took out a ring and told her that he would love her with all his life because she was the first person who could accept him as a whole.

If my friend had insisted on being "embarrassed", and had lost sight of where happiness lies and had not known where to act coquettishly, she would not be a happy wife now, but someone who would always care about what others think of her. No matter what kind of man she will meet in the future, she will still push her happiness out the door.

The reason why many women do not have a good life is that they do not know themselves clearly and blindly take other people's opinions as their own. When experts say, "Women should be self-reliant," they think that women should not act like a spoiled child. When her friends said, "That man is not worthy of you," she thought it was a shame to be with a man without an MBA title, but she ignored the true nature of love, which is not something outsiders can decide for her.

The reason why a woman wants to act coquettishly is because she loves the man and this man is worthy of her love. A woman's coquetry can make a man stronger, just like after my friend started to learn how to act coquettishly, her husband became more confident and charming than before. A woman's coquettishness can also smooth out some minor conflicts between two people and make the relationship go more smoothly.

When I teach women how to act coquettishly, I don't mean that you should remove all the bones in your body and stick to men like a jellyfish. What I mean is that you should first recognize yourself, think clearly about what things are meaningful to you, and what characteristics of a man you need. Only then can you make good use of your coquettish skills and use them at the key points to let men make your life good.

The "happy economic circle" of spoiled girls

Someone said: "In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals zero."

When a young girl falls in love, she will romantically feel that there are only two of them left in the world. She tries her best to act coquettishly and please the man, but ignores other people in his circle of life, and happiness eventually stays away from her.

This is because young girls do not understand the effect of the "happiness economic circle" on life.

A lucky woman who really knows how to act coquettishly will not only act coquettishly to her lover or husband, but offend a bunch of people around him, especially his parents, brothers and sisters.

I once heard a writer on gender say, "The key to controlling a man is patience." She believed that if a woman wants to keep a man's heart, she must be patient even if she doesn't like many things. Only "patience" can make a man happy.

For example, before dating, resist the urge to express your feelings first. When you are dating, you have to endure your boyfriend's constant hanging out with his cliques and his female confidantes. After you get married, you have to endure your husband's endless social engagements and the chores of his family, whether it's a clogged toilet, your sister-in-law's confinement, or your mother-in-law's poker friend getting married, all of these are troublesome issues that need to be solved by you.

To be honest, perhaps because this writer on gender equality is still young, he thinks that "tolerance" can solve all problems. In fact, this is not the case. A truly smart woman will know how to expand her economic circle of acting coquettishly, include all these people in her range of acting coquettishly, and coax everyone around the man into obedience, instead of treating everyone around him as trouble makers and forcing herself to become a "ninja."

According to my surveys over the years, 80 percent of women face the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issue first after getting married, and most women tend to avoid and tolerate it, or wait for their husbands to mediate. It’s just that men are not naturally good at handling this kind of interpersonal relationships. As a result, not only can they not handle the dispute between the two women, but they also become a pitiful sandwich, unable to please both sides.

For example, the wife of a friend of mine is a smart and coquettish girl who understands the principle of the "happiness economic circle". Before she got married, she would call my friend's parents "Dad, Mom" ​​sweetly when she saw them. She would also give them chicken essence and other health gift boxes from time to time. She would also remind my friend's parents on their birthdays, wedding anniversaries, etc.

Even when my friend's sister wanted to study abroad, she used her connections to help her find the necessary information and channels. Her thoughtfulness, caring nature and coquettishness helped ease the previously tense parent-child relationship of my friend.

As a result, not long after my friend started dating, his parents kept nagging him to marry his girlfriend as soon as possible, to prevent such a good woman from being taken away by someone else.

Moreover, my friend’s wife is not only caring and coquettish towards his family, but also willing to tolerate us, her friends. Many women hate their partner’s friends coming to disturb them from time to time, and are afraid that their husbands will be taken away by their friends. But my friend’s wife treats us like her little brothers. As long as we come to her house, she will prepare a table of sumptuous food for us, chat with us considerately, and care about our lives.

It is no wonder that even after more than ten years of marriage, one can still see how real and firm their love is from the way they gaze into each other's eyes.

Believe me, a woman who can make a man happy must know how to take the initiative to tolerate the people around her partner and use coquettishness to expand her own happy economic circle, instead of viewing these people as troubles that must be "endured".

In fact, if you truly love a man, you will not feel that you are "enduring" by doing these things for him, but you want him to be happy, so you are willing to cherish him and take care of his relatives and friends around him.

To be realistic, when you help him deal with the people around him, he will never be able to leave you.

As the saying goes, "To catch a thief, you must first catch the leader." I want to tell you that in the game of love, in addition to capturing the leader, you must also capture the thief. A woman who knows how to act coquettishly will focus on the entire happy economic circle, because happiness has a chain effect.

When your partner has harmonious parent-child relationships, he or she will naturally spend more time on you instead of dealing with problems with his or her parents first; when your partner has harmonious interpersonal relationships, he or she will also not need to spend too much time socializing outside, and you will have a more complete man. Happiness is a chain of relationships, not just the spark between two people.

Of course, some happiness economic circles are more difficult to deal with. For example, if you marry a man with a "burden" and become the child's stepmother, of course you have to take good care of your husband's son from his ex-wife, but gaining the child's recognition is harder than winning the Miss World beauty pageant.

No matter how well you do, you are never the child's biological mother. The child will usually think that you want to replace his or her biological mother and become hostile to you.

Or, if you are lucky enough to be close to your children, you are also afraid that your ex-wife will feel jealous about it. The balance to be struck here is so difficult that even some masters or elders would find it difficult to give you a clear answer.

Unfortunately, this is the reality of love. Lucky women can see these things clearly and know that if love is to last for a long time, it cannot rely solely on feelings and passion. On the contrary, the real key to a woman's good life is to face reality bravely and overcome all difficulties with wisdom and thoughtfulness.

The "happiness economic circle" of a coquettish girl is the key to determining whether she has a good life or not.