Do it once with the lights on, and you will definitely find a different kind of beauty

In China, a country that is not very open about sex, many people think that having sex requires choosing an extremely secluded and private place, drawing the curtains, and turning off the lights, so that they can fully release their physiological needs. Now as the times become more and more open, people's concepts about sex have also changed a lot. Many people are pursuing new and more stimulating ways of sex, such as having sex in the car or enjoying a beautiful world for two in the wild. When making love at home, people do not feel embarrassed to be exposed naked in front of each other. Instead, they feel that it is the best way for both parties to be honest with each other. When having sex with the lights on, you can see each other's private parts, which brings a particularly strong pleasure both visually and psychologically!

Netizens asked:

I've been married for just a few months, and when my wife and I have sex, I like to keep the lights on. Seeing my wife's beautiful body, rosy face and shy expression in the bright light, I was very excited and the feeling was very strong. But my wife doesn't like having sex with the lights on, saying it's uncomfortable. Doctor Wen, is it better to turn on the lights or off the lights when making love?'

Expert answer:

Generally speaking, women like to have sex with the lights off, because they are more sensitive to tactile stimulation and like caressing, and darkness can make them focus on the feeling of caressing. On the other hand, some women feel shy and embarrassed, so they feel more comfortable turning off the lights. Men generally like to have sex with the lights on, because a large part of men's sexual stimulation comes from vision. The wife's eyes, expressions, naked body, breasts, genitals, etc. can all arouse men's strong sexual desire.

As for whether to turn on or off the lights during sex, the couple can have an adjustment process through communication, and the wife does not have to be stubborn on this issue. This is like the foreplay and tenderness after sex. Men's need for it is not as strong as women's, but a well-educated husband does not ignore his wife's needs because of this. After all, the greatest achievement of sex is to satisfy both oneself and the other person. If your wife can't accept it at first, you can turn the lights down to the dimmest, or use candlelight instead, and then gradually increase the light a little bit. Of course, the light should be warm and soft, not too bright, so as to produce a thrilling effect. In short, give full play to your imagination, make the environment of lovemaking varied, and increase the freshness of sex.

Having sex in the dark can give people a warm and mysterious feeling, and reduce the psychological burden during sex. But the whole process will also make both parties lose a lot of fun. In this regard, modern sexologists suggest that both parties can turn off the lights during foreplay, and when both parties' sexual desires are aroused and their concerns are reduced, it is best to turn on the lights and have sex. Doing so has the following main benefits.

Enjoy good visual stimulation. If you can't see your partner during sex, you'll miss a lot of beautiful "scenery". Having sex with the lights on allows you to expose yourself more to your partner and allow for eye contact, which can not only bring sexual stimulation and increase sexual desire, but also increase mutual trust.

Both parties can enjoy sex at any time. If one believes that sexual intercourse between husband and wife is something that should not be seen in public, then sexual intercourse between the two parties will be limited to the dark night, and they will not be able to enjoy a natural sexual life whenever they feel like it. Once you get used to having sex with the lights on, you can expand your sex time to the daytime, opening up a whole new world of time and location for your sex life.

Can help manage body shape. If you always have sex in the dark, both parties will have less control over their bodies. If you insist on having sex with the lights on, men would rather go to the gym to build strong muscles, and women would also like to maintain their attractive curves so that they can show them to their partners when the lights are on.

Expressive needs are faster. Some sexual needs during sex need to be told to the other person through gestures. Sexual reactions and feelings also need to be conveyed and expressed through facial expressions, which are difficult to express if the lights are turned off.

It's like watching a free porn movie. Men like to watch erotic films, but if they are part of the "film", they will definitely be more involved. Appreciate each other's bodies and try different sexual methods, write and perform your own, and you will definitely be intoxicated by it.

You can see each other's reactions during orgasm. Many people pursue the moment of climax when their mind and body are empty. Seeing the other person's climax can enhance the sense of intimacy.

Avoid sexual injuries. When having sex in the dark, men are likely to lose their sense of position and suffer sexual injuries, such as penile bruises, waist sprains, vaginal bleeding, etc. Having sex with the lights on can reduce the occurrence of these accidents. Let both parties relax more. By exposing sex to the light, both people will feel more in control of sex, more sexually aroused, and have a strong desire to orgasm.