Men will never tell these secrets even if they are beaten to death

Women’s secrets are usually written in diaries, locked in drawers, or even whispered to close friends... What about men? Usually in the heart. Women's secrets usually need to be shared, while men's secrets are kept secret and can only be chewed over by themselves. If you are a woman who loves him, the first thing you must know is his secrets which are his untouchable "private property" or his unspeakable secrets.

Secret 1: His Emotional Record

JACKY, 32 years old, company project manager - Before I got married, I had a girlfriend, but she broke up with me for various reasons. I was very miserable for a while until I fell in love and married my current wife. I have never told my wife about my past relationship, but I don't know what she heard, and she keeps pestering me to ask about it. Sometimes when I unintentionally neglect her a little, she asks me with jealousy and grievance: How did you treat her in the past? You wouldn't be as indifferent to me as you are to me, would you? It makes me feel at a loss as to what to do. I really want to tell her not to be so interested in my past, but I'm afraid she will misunderstand me further, so I don't know how to start.

Men’s thoughts: Almost every man has had a colorful love life, but in the hearts of men, the “woman in the past” and the “woman now” are from two different planets. Men are unwilling to tell all this to women. It’s not that men are ashamed of it, but men believe that even the most well-educated women are jealous. If a man reveals his “ugliness”, will he have a good life in the future? Therefore, all of this becomes an extremely depressing secret for men.

A woman’s response: Just let his emotional experience become a thing of the past. Set his secret as a "minefield" in your heart, and always remind yourself not to get involved. Even if you hear a few words, don't dig into it. What good will your stubbornness and stinginess do other than evoke his memories or even remind him of all the good things about "her"? A smart woman knows not to dig her own grave.

·Keywords: 1. Broken heart: Because it is very embarrassing, so I don’t say a word about it. 2. Online dating: Men will not admit to this kind of unrighteous behavior. 3. A romantic encounter: Men find it wonderful when it feels like they are stealing something, and they think the best way to enjoy it is to keep it a secret.

4. Admiration: For a married man, this is a secret he keeps secret.

Secret 2: Various "feminine" psychological needs

Cui Tao, 36 years old, vice president of the company - in the eyes of many people, I am a so-called "successful person": I have a high salary, a big house, and a luxury car. In fact, I also have secrets that are unknown to others. For example, when I am tired from working hard, I also want to lean on my wife's shoulder to rest my mind; when I am wronged and sad outside, I also want to have a good cry; sometimes I also want to live a carefree life like a child, or act coquettishly... But I am afraid that if my wife knows it, it will affect my "glorious" image in her mind.

What men think: From the perspective of individual life, men are actually more fragile than women, but both women and men have formalized and absolutized men, as if men mean masculine, strong, pragmatic, careless, and unkempt... In fact, this is not the case. Men also have many unknown "feminine needs", but these are secrets that are only done and not said, and women are not allowed to open them to see the truth.

How women should respond: Men are face-conscious animals and like women’s appreciation and admiration. Therefore, this secret of men is very subtle and should not be easily revealed. A woman just needs to face it calmly, understand it and know it in her heart, and never complain about it, let alone encourage him to be "weak" or "childish" out of love. Otherwise, the man will think that you look down on him, which he cannot tolerate. It is also a tacit thing about his vanity and conceit, which will only make him angry and embarrassed.

·Keywords: 1. Vanity: It is difficult to make more money in your pocket, but it is much easier to make yourself look like a rich person.

2. Weakness: Men also have a weak side, but this cannot be made public.

3. Vanity: Men will never admit that they love dressing up, this is also a “secret” of men.

4. Childish: Seemingly being naughty, but actually being a spoiled brat. However, it is not suitable for large-scale development.

Secret 3: The so-called "man's own business"

Liu Ming, 30 years old, media reporter - In my spare time after get off work, I often get together with a group of friends, chatting and drinking, and it feels very comfortable. But my wife is always worried, and sometimes she would call me several times a night to keep asking: Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing? It makes people feel annoyed. She also always asks me about my work. I know she does this out of concern, but I really don't want her to interfere too much in my own affairs.

Men’s thoughts: Women pay attention to details, like to communicate, love to ask questions, and even get stuck in a rut. Men often think that it is their own business and women don't need to make a fuss about it, because men's affairs should be handled by men.

How women should respond: When your husband needs you to be a wife, don’t try to be his work and life planner. Everyone has a psychological need to have his own living space, and men are no exception. Therefore, the wise choice for women is: let him go crazy, regardless of his bad friends, work situation... It's his own "private land", let him cultivate it!

·Keywords: 1. Work status: Some work matters need to be kept secret so as not to bring daytime events into the night. So, men don't like women to interfere.

2. Socializing: Men like to hang out with friends of the same sex and don’t like women to get involved.

3. Dream of getting rich: Desire to get rich overnight is almost every man’s dream, but he has to do it secretly from his wife’s side, hoping to give his beloved woman a big surprise one day.

Secret 4: Anxiety about Sex

ANSON, 40 years old, office worker - My wife and I have a relatively harmonious sex life, but I always can't help but worry and feel anxious, such as whether my penis is long enough, how many times I do it, and whether the time is satisfactory to her... But I don't want my wife to know about these anxieties, and I don't want her to mention them actively.

What men think: Sex is a lifelong event for men. They care about it very much and think about it every six minutes. Sex is an important cornerstone of a man's self-esteem and self-confidence. No matter what kind of man he is, he is unwilling to admit that he is incompetent in sex. Men have more or less had anxiety about their sexual abilities. But this is a huge secret that women cannot know.

How women respond: Behind men’s sexual excitement, there is actually a struggle. Therefore, appreciation and trust from his wife is the best "Viagra" for a man. No matter what the reason for his "slippery slope", as a wife, he should remain calm on the surface and should not complain.

·Keywords: 1. Frequency: Men usually intentionally falsify and overreport. 2. How long: When it comes to duration, men are very tight-lipped, and wives should not break the taboo.

3. "I am ill": The safest rule is to never tell anyone even if you kill me!