The most private advice for sex life

Sex, like clothes and cosmetics, is a topic that women always care about. Every woman hopes to be the happiest one in the world when she is with the man she loves. MISS certainly understands everyone's thoughts. In order to enable everyone to devote themselves to the passion with the greatest enthusiasm, we have specially cooked several "private dishes" for everyone. The tastes are different. Please taste according to your personal preferences!

Discover new locations

"My ex taught me to use every part of my body when making out—not just the key areas. He would kiss me all over from head to toe, and I discovered erogenous zones I'd never felt before—like when he nuzzled the back of my knees! It was amazing, and I couldn't help but get into it."

——vivi, 21 years old, accountant

Advice: This is a smart move. Many of us don't know which parts of our bodies we like to be touched because we are always accustomed to touching those proven sensitive areas. Spend about an hour touching his entire body—running your fingertips over his skin—and then let him do the same to you. You will find a sexy map that belongs only to you.

Seize the short time

"My boyfriend and I worked long hours, and our sex life suffered as a result—literally, we didn't have time for intimacy. That is until a friend of mine told me that she often had quick sex before work or during the day. Now, my boyfriend and I often meet up at lunch or take 10 minutes in the morning to do what we love. It's not the same as leisurely sex, but it's exciting and makes us want each other more."

——Lucy, 29 years old, newspaper reporter

Tip: Sex can easily be neglected when you're both busy. But a quickie is better than none at all, and it will keep your relationship functioning until you have more time and energy to spend together. So make time for intimacy in your schedule.

Live in surprise

"A friend told me that her boyfriend wanted to watch her masturbate. She was forced to agree, but she found that she liked it. After hearing this, I wondered if I was too shy. The next time my boyfriend and I were making out, I started touching myself in front of him. When I saw his passion was aroused, I knew I made the right choice and we both had incredible orgasms."

——Azhu, 25 years old, secretary

Tip: Many people find it awkward to say what they want, so showing it might be the easier option — and sexier. When you are about to climax, you take the initiative and you will have a better process.

Exercise your love muscles

"I'm doing yoga, and one of the movements we learn is to exercise the pelvic area. When doing it, you have to contract and stretch the vaginal muscles, and it has an unexpected effect. During sex, I can get a better experience through its movement."

——Lili, 27 years old, property manager

Suggestion: There are some exercises that can tighten the vaginal muscles. You can try doing this exercise three to five times a day. Stronger and more flexible muscles will bring you greater enjoyment during sex.

Abstinence

"A coworker told me that she and her boyfriend went two weeks without sex - they decided to do that. Then, when they started again, the desire they felt for each other was so much greater. My boyfriend and I simply chose to go a week without sex, during which we made it a rule not to caress or even kiss each other, and it really made our desires even stronger!"

——Qian’er, 28 years old, cashier

Suggestion: A week without sex may not be a big deal for many people, but two weeks is a good amount of time to build up enough desire. Set some rules, such as touching is allowed but not beyond the boundaries, or no touching below the waist. But don't let the abstinence period be too long, otherwise you may even lose the desire to have sex, which would be a bit of a loss, wouldn't it?

Enjoy the moment

"I used to get anxious when I couldn't orgasm during sex. Then I confided in a good friend who had the same problem in the past, but she learned how to focus on the pleasure of foreplay and try different positions - instead of worrying about orgasm, she had more pleasure. Her words made me feel more relaxed, and she also made me realize that good sex is not necessarily linked to the G-spot. And, since I adopted her method, I have more orgasms."

——Leigh, 26, Copywriter

Advice: Her friend is right. About 75% of women don't really know themselves. The sensitive areas of each person's body are different, so you need to find them yourself. You can challenge your boyfriend to try at least 5 different positions, and even if none of them work, you will still have fun trying them.

Slow down

"My best male friend gave me some great advice over a few drinks. I was complaining about how all men want to get straight to the point without even talking. But he told me that many men actually enjoy foreplay because it makes them more excited about the outcome. Since then, I no longer feel guilty about prolonging foreplay."

——Yuer, 28 years old, lawyer

Advice: Unfortunately, not all men are like your friends. For some men, sex is like a race, and when you just start, they can't wait to cross the finish line. But men should enjoy foreplay, take the time to understand how to turn your partner on, and give her a good orgasm. So never feel guilty about foreplay—because you deserve it!

Try Outdoors

"My fiancé has always been a fan of outdoor sex, but I wasn't interested. Until one day, we went on a picnic together. He suggested that I try it on the grass. Although it was a very quiet place, the feeling of fear and nervousness made our process very wild. Since then, I know how wonderful it feels to try it!"

——Caroline, 22 years old, early childhood teacher

Advice: It’s a good experience – but remember that if you make out in the park during the day, the chances of being seen by others are very high. So be careful about the location you choose and make sure there are no peeping people, passing children, or police officers.

Speak Your Mind

"At first, it was almost impossible to get excited by making out, until I read an article that said it was important to tell your partner what you like and what you need. So the next time I was with my boyfriend, I told him that I liked being kissed all over and that the more time we spent in foreplay, the more I would orgasm. Now he spends a lot of time touching me, and it's awesome!"

——Wu Meng, 25 years old, sales

Advice: Communication is the basis of good sex. If you're waiting for someone to figure out what's going on in your mind, you may be waiting a long time. State your needs clearly and don't assume the other person will know - how would they know if you never bring it up?

Laugh out loud

"A friend of mine told me about how her relationship with her new boyfriend was going: She accidentally hit her head on a shelf on the wall and it hurt, but instead of getting upset, she and her boyfriend laughed about it, which helped them get through the awkward moment. I learned from that and if something goes wrong in bed, I just laugh about it - it really brings me and my boyfriend closer together."

——Anna, 26 years old, PR company

Advice: Yes, you should try to avoid awkwardness when you first start dating. Just make a joke and your friends will feel good. Making a fuss, ignoring it, or crying won't really help you. Of course, what you need is not uncontrollable laughter, but a sense of humor, which is as important to successful sex as a condom.

Postscript: The sexual life of a couple can not only create love, affection and a sweet marriage, but also contains extremely high aesthetic significance. These ten "private dishes" can help you get more pleasure in your sex life. As long as both of you are willing to put in some thought, it will bring endless fun and sexual happiness to you and your significant other.