The more this kind of woman gives, the more miserable she becomes

Women are often the most hurt people in the emotional world. When facing love, they forget everything else and devote themselves entirely to it. But they don’t know that the deeper the love, the deeper the hurt. So male friends, after reading today's article, if you find a woman treats you like the way in the article, then you must be nice to her and don't hurt her, because you are the only one in her world.

Characteristics of a lovelorn woman

Giving without principles

Woman, your thinking must also keep pace with the times. Think about whether it is smart or stupid to continue to make unprincipled sacrifices. Don’t be so stubborn about how good you are to him, how you are so good to him that your love for him is overwhelming, how good he is to you, how he abandons you and hurts you when he is good to you, and when he goes bankrupt and jumps into the river, you have to jump with him. Love is a plaster, just a life trouble. Before I met him, I would have lived to old age as a monk or a nun without love, wouldn't I?

Therefore, women who take love too seriously will bring themselves trouble. Love has become the poison of a woman's life. She only has her eyes on her man. She loves him so much that she wants to eat him, drink him, and put him on her tongue. She wants to live and die for him, and she also requires him to be equal to her. A man's world is so broad, with a career, responsibilities, and many flowers and plants. Love is secondary. Do you think a man can do this?

Easily sleep with men

Some women have a very casual attitude towards sex. Do you have to give it to a man just because he wants it? That’s not good. Especially the daughter's family. Men fundamentally care about women's sexual attitudes, and he may not say hello if you give it to him. Men's obsession with the hymen is actually about a woman's attitude towards sex, not the layer of membrane. Chinese men's fear of cuckolding is a traditional psychology that has existed in China for thousands of years and is the weakest area of ​​men's dignity. Don't just say that men are narrow-minded. What's wrong with women valuing their own chastity? At least you are principled and not casual, and men will not fail to think of this.

The easier it is to get something, the less men will cherish it. This is a characteristic of men. Once a man gets a woman, his interest in her will immediately drop. Men can separate sex from love. Can you do it? Once you give it to him, you will think of you as his. You give it because of love, but he may not think so. He will think that you are too easy to get, is it the same with other men? Once he feels that your body is too familiar to him, his mind will most likely shift away. Think about what you would have done then? Would calling him a traitor or a pervert have saved your life? A woman's youth is limited to a few years, and the result of living together may not necessarily be marriage. If you had not lost your virginity, would you still be worried that he didn't love you and pray every day?

Don't take care of everything and spoil the man

Many women aspire to be good wives and help their husbands in their careers. In order to help their husbands succeed in their careers, they don’t want them to do anything, not even to wash the towels. It seems that my husband is not a husband, but a Bodhisattva in the family. It seems that a family does not belong to two people, but is the responsibility of one person. I have no objection to being a good wife, but does that man feel at ease with what he has given to you? Does he feel sorry for your efforts? He never comes to visit you when you are sick and he never replies to your messages. Is this normal? If the message is from a superior or a beautiful woman, will he ignore it? You have cultivated the man's laziness and his neglect of you.

You still don't take it seriously, you think you are very noble. Your rights have been neglected and ignored by you. One day, you can't stand it anymore and blame him for his indifference. He replies to you: Hasn't it always been like this? This chokes you to death. When a man changes his mind, there is a process from quantitative change to qualitative change. You have to be careful and don't let it go. Men inherently value freedom. If you open your mouth and keep asking for more, you will be close to a qualitative change.

There are often signs before a man changes his mind, which is that he becomes detached from normal family life. If you don't go home, don't communicate, and don't see anyone. Therefore, urging men to fulfill their family obligations and marital obligations is necessary to prevent problems from happening and to keep things on the right track. It's not harsh, nor is it lazy for a wife. This is to remind him that he is a husband, not a hotel room. Men are like children, they cannot be spoiled. If you spoil them, they will become rebellious and you don’t even know when this started. You can do less, but you can't let him think that he has nothing to do at home. Smart women know how to strike the right balance and think for themselves.

All the world of women is closed to men

Some women, once they get married, are like a new dynasty. I no longer join my sisters’ small circle, no longer go out for meals, no longer participate in group outings, and no longer work with all my heart and effort. There is a sun in the sky and a man in my heart. All she talks about is her husband, and she has completely closed off her friendship, family, work and social circles. It seems that if I don’t do this, I will be sorry for my husband and I will not be loyal to him. Human beings are social animals. You artificially eliminate your social role day by day, and tie all your joys and sorrows to a man. Don't you think about how tired he is? You will inevitably pester him with questions every day, asking him endless questions and telling him your inner thoughts, and also causing endless petty favors, grudges and quarrels. What? He doesn't accompany you, doesn't care about you, etc. A woman's tears are like a bunch of grapes. He is so busy with his own things, how can he have the mood to talk to you every day? Aren't you annoyed after a long time? All these negative emotions of yours are caused by not having contact with the outside world. You are asking for trouble.

Superstitious promises vs. reservations

Don't lose yourself in his promises

Will you believe a man's promise completely? If you are still in the early stages of a relationship, and you still believe in and yearn for perfect men and romantic love, then you can trust him for now, because both of you are still young and don't understand how important commitment is to a relationship and to a woman. If you trust him, at least you can still maintain a beautiful imagination of love.

If you have already grown out of your childishness and have been polished in society for a long time, and you are still moved by a man's promise at this time and then give your heart and soul to him, then you are too stupid.

A man’s promise is not completely unreliable. At least when he loves you, the promise he makes is sincere, just like Li Jia’s promise to bring Du Shiniang home. But that was only when he was deeply in love. When he came to his senses and thought about the difficulties he would encounter in bringing Du Shiniang, a prostitute, home, and didn't know how to face his fellow villagers and his family, he threw his promise behind his back and gave the woman he once loved to someone else.

Therefore, when love encounters reality, it is often no longer so smooth, but will experience many ups and downs, and promises become vulnerable at this time. If a woman commits herself to an illusory promise and gives away her feelings and her wealth, she will only regret it.

Please believe one tenth of a man's promise

Although a man's promise is often uncertain, you cannot completely disbelieve it. Skeptics usually have a harder life. A smart woman always agrees with a man’s promise, but in her heart she only believes one tenth of it.

This limit can ensure that a woman will not be completely lost when facing the man she likes, but will leave herself enough room to turn around, so as not to lose everything when the relationship fails.

This means not giving yourself away completely, especially financially, when you fall in love with someone. Maybe you have deep feelings for each other, but you are in a romantic relationship after all. At this time, your relationship will not be protected by law.

That is to say, at this moment, your relationship is deep, and you certainly won't think of writing an IOU for money; but who can guarantee that the relationship between the two of you will break down in the future, and the other party will refuse to admit that he has borrowed money, then who can you complain to?

In other words, no matter what time it is, you should keep yourself independent, including spiritual independence and financial independence. Don't just tie your life to a man. Even a kite held by a string will be blown away by the wind one day, right?

Financial transparency vs. small pocket money

If you love him, you need to make your finances transparent

Just because you love him, do you have to tell him how much you earned today and how much you spent tomorrow? Of course not. Although two people in love are in a romantic relationship, they should still be independent in terms of financial status.

In other words, he doesn't have to give you all the money he earns, and you don't have to give him your income status. There are many disadvantages to doing this, especially if both of you are confused about financial management and always don't know where your money is spent. Knowing how much money the other person has will only make you spend all your money.

If the man you meet is unfortunately a liar or a playboy, then there is a high possibility that your money will be squandered by him or used to support other girls. Don't ever think that you can just not give him the password - many girls suffer at this time, thinking they can refuse his unreasonable request.

In fact, feelings sometimes make no sense, so it is naturally impossible to think and solve problems in a rational way. As long as he says a few sweet words, it would be strange if you don't hand over your card and password.

Private money, an indispensable secret weapon

Don’t think that private money is not important. In fact, it plays an important role in our love. Sometimes it may even be your life-saving straw in critical moments. Even in normal times, there are always some things you want to buy, such as perfume, skin care products... These things may not be practical in the eyes of your boyfriend, and he may not necessarily support you to buy them. At this time, it is most confident to use your own money

More importantly, with private money, you will be financially secure. If your boyfriend is a man like Li Jia, after he betrays you, you can also tell him that I can live well without you. Let him regret it!

Of course, this is just a joke, but when you have your own private money, on the one hand, you can deal with the "what if" that your parents say you think will never happen; on the other hand, you can also meet your daily life for a long time after a failed relationship, and you can also have extra money to buy clothes and play with your girlfriend to relieve the depression in your heart. Why not do it?

The End of Infatuation

Easy to satisfy, but more easily hurt. There is always a feeling of being ignored, and what you give is far more than what you receive. Very stubborn and doesn't know how to give up. He always says he wants to leave but keeps finding reasons not to leave. He smiles happily in front of others but feels lonely when he is alone. I am very quiet in front of strangers and act like a fool in front of friends. I don’t ask for too much in return. Just a little bit can make me loyal to you. It can be very little, but it must be there.

When I am in a bad mood, I like to listen to sad songs and sit in front of the computer. I don’t know what to do, but I don’t want to turn it off. I feel that everyone in the world is unreliable, but I still choose to believe in others. Sometimes I have the urge to disappear. I don’t like to wait, but I am always waiting, and I often daydream without realizing it. I always think about things for a long time, and always feel that no one cares about me. I keep my thoughts deep in my heart, have my own world, get used to silence, explode in silence, and doubt, but always think the best of people.

I don’t like shopping alone because I start to worry about the slightest thing. I walk very fast, hide my thoughts, like to cry alone, am used to the cold war, like corners and are used to curling up. Inexplicably lonely, with an overwhelming sense of fear, being quiet or very talkative.

Conclusion: Everyone has the right to love and be loved, but if you are too infatuated in the process of loving others. Once the relationship is lost, you will lose yourself and even lose the world, so you must grasp the scale in love. If the relationship is lost, choose to forget it. This way we can preserve our self-esteem and not let ourselves get hurt.