Why men love oral sex

Q: We have been married for only one year, so we should still be in the passionate period, right? However, our married life is far from what I expected. When I was single, I liked watching pornographic films, especially oral sex scenes, which I found very exciting. She also gave me oral sex when we were in love, and it felt really good, but she didn't seem to like it. I asked her many times after we got married, but she always refused to give me oral sex. Although I can complete my sexual life, I am always unsatisfied and have no psychological satisfaction. Have I watched too many movies and my psychology has been affected? Am I normal?

Expert answer: Although the couple's sex life can be completed smoothly, the husband is always dissatisfied, and the wife is also disgusted with his requests. They have no communication on this issue, which lays the hidden danger of sexual disharmony. If this continues for a long time, both parties will lose interest in marital sex, and extramarital affairs are inevitable. Moreover, this type of case is very common in clinical practice and is very representative, so I will make an analysis and explanation here, hoping that it will be helpful to everyone.

In fact, there are not many wives who like to give their husbands oral sex, because there is no physical pleasure for women when they give men oral sex. If the man's foreskin is too long, the glans penis will have a strong odor, and women can easily develop a dirty synesthesia reaction. Coupled with traditional sexual concepts, women will feel wronged, humble, and even lowly, and have a strong psychological resistance. In addition, when women perform oral sex, the frequent stimulation of the throat by the penis will cause physiological reflexes of nausea and retching, so women will stop or slow down the pace. Men will then feel that the stimulation has weakened and become unsatisfied, and will often hold the woman's head to continue the stimulation, which will make women feel very uncomfortable or even angry. Again, women worry that men will ejaculate in their mouths, because prostatic fluid is alkaline and has a fishy smell, which will make many women feel uncomfortable, and some will also experience nausea, diarrhea, etc.

Now that we know the reasons why so many women are unwilling to give their husbands oral sex, what are the solutions? First of all, men should ensure the cleanliness of their external reproductive organs to avoid any odor. Secondly, you need to communicate with your wife about sexual concepts; men like women to give them oral sex, not because the feeling of the penis in a woman's mouth is really more comfortable or stimulating than in the vagina, but because the feeling of conquering women psychologically is stronger. Man inserts penis

The wife feels that her husband really cares about her, that she is respected, and that he is willing to create a more harmonious sex life with her, which can ease her resistance. Third, the husband should do a good job of foreplay to bring his wife’s sexual excitement to a higher level. In this way, the wife will look forward to more intense vaginal intercourse, and will try her best to tease her husband, making the "storm come more violently". At this time, the wife may take the initiative to give her husband oral sex, and both parties can enjoy it.