Eight reasons why women miss their old lovers

Japan's private detective agencies offer a service called "finding first love," and 90 percent of their clients are women. It can be seen that women care about their ex-lovers much more than men. Why do women miss their old lovers? Why do they want to call them?

One reason: I remembered him by chance and his phone number was easy to find.

29-year-old An Lin returned to her hometown on business. When she passed by the gate of her alma mater, the familiar sights and smells reminded her of her high school days and her first boyfriend. The simple love of the past aroused her infinite emotion. Out of nostalgia for the good old days and curiosity to know if her former lover was doing well, she got the boy's phone number from her mother and called him. They had dinner together and reminisced about the good old days.

Benefits: It satisfies his curiosity and vanity because he still remembers things that happened many years ago.

Disadvantage: One such reunion is enough, don't abuse it. Otherwise, even the good memories will be hard to keep. In fact, everyone knows in their heart: everything in the past will never come back.

Reason 2: Because he once said that if you want, you can call his mobile number at any time

Xiaowei, 36, recalled: I was the one who proposed the breakup with him, and he was very sad. The last time we met, he was in tears. It was heartbreaking to see a grown man crying like that. He said I was the eternal pain in his heart. But he understood my determination because he really couldn't give me the happiness I expected. He said that if I wanted, I could call his cell phone number anytime and anywhere. Every Christmas since then, I would call him, and I always felt guilty for having hurt a heart that loved me so much.

Benefit: A woman's vanity is satisfied in a man's tears. Comforting a broken heart is something every woman would like to do.

The bad: Men are much more forgetful than we give them credit for, and they hold grudges. When the pain in his heart subsides, your image and status in his mind will completely change. When you are still calling him with a tone full of guilt and concern, he may be muttering in his heart: This woman is so annoying, she always doesn't know her proper place.

Reason 3: The woman called her ex-lover to invite him to her birthday party

Excuse. The woman wants to see her old lover again, but meeting alone will make her feel awkward, and she doesn't know whether the other party is willing to accept such a date, so she is willing to use some important anniversary gatherings as an excuse to let the old lover and

Everyone appeared together. Mary, 32, invited her old lover to her birthday party. But among her group of relatives and friends, his appearance seemed very sudden. He didn't know who to talk to, so he stood alone in the corner.

A very awkward reunion.

Benefits: Satisfies women's vanity. He is still willing to accept our invitation.

The Bad: It was obvious that he was beginning to regret coming to the party. Next time he won't be so easy to accept your invitation.

Reason 4: Breaking up is helpless

Why do they have to separate in the end even though they are clearly in love? This relationship is an eternal pain in the woman's heart. She believes that he is the most suitable person for her in the world. Now that the objective environment has changed, can we start over?

27-year-old Charlene recalled: The days with him were the happiest time of my life. After him, I have never met another man who can make me so happy. I called him but he never answered.

Advantages: Women may think that he refuses to answer our calls because he is still grieving for the lost love, and he does not have the courage to face us again and lose us again.

Thinking this way can satisfy a woman's vanity.

The bad: Life is cruel. Our wishes often go unfulfilled. He ruthlessly rejected our request to meet.

Reason 5: Women are willing to call their ex-lover because they feel he is the only person they can talk to about their troubles.

Effie, 22, said: Every time I feel depressed, I call my ex-boyfriend and tell him about my troubles. He is more than just a friend, in my mind, he is my forever lover.

Benefits: Satisfies one's vanity. This man still has the patience to listen to us, does he still love me?

Disadvantage: It is best not to make this kind of confession a habit. You should know that he should have a new love life. What would his current girlfriend think if he always receives your calls in the middle of the night? Be realistic and don't always immerse yourself in fantasy. We are already his past.

Reason 6: Women call their ex-lovers because they still love them

Shu Ya, 36, said: He left me and I was very sad. A year later, I still couldn't get him over with, so I called him. He came and spent an evening with me, but I found that everything had changed irrevocably. I could no longer face him with the same attitude, because his departure had hurt me so much that I could never forget it. This reunion will be our last meeting.

Pros: Good, this time the woman didn’t cry when he left. We can completely free ourselves from the shadow of this failed love.

Disadvantage: Women realize once again that a man can change his love for us without our permission, and his betrayal will not be punished. Life is cruel.

Reason 7: Time sometimes needs to flow back a little bit, and women always need to prove that love can last forever

Yueming, 35, has been married for 10 years and regularly dates her ex-lover: "I can call him anytime and he will try his best to come and see me, and we will reminisce about the old times together."

Benefits: Satisfies women's vanity. At any time, it is not a woman's fault to create a warm environment for herself.

Disadvantages: Basically no disadvantages. But if your husband knew, how would he look at you?

Reason 8: Being single can be unbearable at times

Lisa, 31, said: "After leaving him, I have been living alone. One night, I was very lonely, so I asked him to have dinner with me. But the moment he appeared at the door of the restaurant, I once again understood why we could not be together. I no longer loved him."

Advantages: Women understand that when there is no love, single life is the most appropriate.

The downside: Spending some lonely and difficult nights alone.

In fact, the biggest difficulty in getting along with an ex-lover is how to understand the failed relationship between the two and how to correctly view their current relationship.

Is it love? Or friendship?

Clinging too much to the past can ruin your present life psychologically and even physically. Most men do not believe in the existence of friendship between the two sexes. They come to see you either out of lingering love, curiosity, or unwillingness to reject your kindness. After knowing this, women may be more cautious when making this call.

The reason why memories are beautiful is that they are in the past and can no longer hurt us. Let them become what they are now, and they will become a sharp sword again.