What is the "point" on a woman that can kill a man in seconds?

A woman should focus on marriage and family, but she should not get lost in them. At the same time, we must also be wary of another extreme, which is being too indifferent to marriage and family, forgetting basic responsibilities, ignoring the husband's feelings, neglecting the management of the marriage, living a lazy life, indulging in the Internet or extramarital affairs. Being lost in marriage may certainly lead to losing the marriage in the end, while neglecting the marriage and being lost outside of the marriage is more likely to destroy it. So how can women take control of their own marriages? This article is not only written for wives, but also for husbands. Marriage always requires the husband and wife to work together to live happily until old age.

A little confused

The hardest thing in life is to be confused. It is difficult to be smart, and it is even more difficult to be confused. Learning to be a little stupid in doing things is a state of mind, and the same is true for marriage. Perhaps some women will immediately jump up to object when they hear this: Why do you require women to be a little stupid? Being a little stupid makes it easier for you men to bully you? I have nothing to say about this. This is a typical shrew character. Marriage and a strong character are simply incompatible. Being a little silly doesn't mean you are stupid. Being silly is an attitude towards life. It is because of love. So being a little silly with your husband doesn't mean you should be silly with everyone. It doesn't mean you should be so stupid that you don't even know when you are cheated. "Be a little silly" is actually, to some extent, a synonym for "be a little tolerant". A marriage cannot go on if you are too fussy about everything. You should be serious about big things and matters of principle, but learn to turn a blind eye to small things and unimportant things. Being tolerant to your husband means being kind to yourself, and also being kind to your marriage. When you have an argument, you don't just ask your husband to make concessions, you also have to learn to make concessions yourself. There is no such thing as being at a disadvantage in marriage. Women who are happy in marriage are basically "stupid" women. Of course, the premise is that their husbands are grateful and sensible men. Otherwise, the woman's stupidity will be in vain, and she will become a real fool.

Be a little more diligent

Although men like beautiful women deep down, appearance cannot last forever. In the end, winning a man's heart still depends on inner qualities, such as diligence. A woman may not be beautiful, but she must never be lazy. Men avoid lazy women the most. Marriage is different from love. When a wife's hands become rough due to work, the man will feel nothing but heartache when holding her hands. He will only love her more and more and will never dislike her, except for a bad man of course. In the eyes of men, diligence is always one of the sources of a woman's charm. No man will truly like a lazy woman. Being lazy and gluttonous is a woman's biggest enemy.

Clean a little

This is obviously related to hard work, but it is not entirely causal. Of course a lazy woman is dirty because she neglects to take care of herself, but some women are lazy just because they don’t like to do things, but they are very “diligent” in dressing themselves up. No matter what the situation is, women should be clean. Being ugly will not make men dislike them, but women who are not clean will definitely make men stay away from them.

A little bit of devotion

There is actually no gender difference when it comes to promiscuity. Men are more promiscuous, and so are women. The only difference is that men may be promiscuous in "sex" while women may be promiscuous in "love". On the surface, repeatedly investing true love in multiple men is understandable and even worthy of respect. It does not seem to be promiscuity because true love is invested. However, this reason is actually untenable, because the uniqueness and exclusivity of marriage makes it promiscuous after all. The essence and basic principle of marriage is loyalty. Don't question the rationality of the existence of marriage. At the current stage of human civilization development, marriage is the only institutional form that can stabilize social order. Perhaps the marriage system may be abolished thousands of years later, but that is a matter for the future. At present, human civilization has not developed to that level, and the corresponding marriage system can only be like it is now. By that time, perhaps the country will no longer exist. In fact, the country is also the product of stage struggles and it will eventually perish. But now the country is completely necessary to exist, and it is impossible to abolish the country, also because human civilization has not yet reached that stage.

Woman "a little"

Women who are too sentimental and emotional have a tendency and risk of having extramarital affairs. Most of them are gentle and feminine. At the other extreme, some women are loyal to their marriage but lack femininity. They are like tigresses and have none of the gentle charm of a woman, which can also scare away men. Gentleness is a woman's secret weapon to charm a man. A woman should be good at using gentleness to grasp her marriage and her own happiness. Of course, a woman’s tenderness must be directed to the right person, and should be directed to her husband. Otherwise, this tenderness will be like a thorn in a rose, or even a weapon that kills a marriage.

A little bit of independence

This is the last point, and it is extremely important. Women should value marriage, but marriage is not the only thing in life. A woman must rely on her husband and marriage, but at the same time she must be relatively independent and not get lost in it. Only when a woman is independent can she have her own capital, and her husband will truly respect her. Even if your husband is a bad man with no conscience, you don't need to worry too much about your future life. Of course, we must be wary of going to the extreme of independence: being too strong will keep men away from you, and you will lose your femininity. You have to strike the right balance.