10 psychological factors that make girls have sex before marriage

According to the analysis of a large number of survey materials in recent years, women have many extreme views and ideas about the psychological motivations of premarital sex. The author summarizes it into the following 10 misunderstandings from the perspective of sexual psychology and sexual sociology:

1. Pursuing so-called "new" ways of dating

Expression point of view: "Conventional love is incomplete. Real love should be broad-minded. Since I love him, I can give him everything."

"Love should give freedom to the loved one, why wait until marriage."

"It's the 1990s now. There's no point in being sentimental. I want to be ahead of history," etc.

Under the psychological arrangement of chasing new trends, they quickly went from first love to passionate love, and from marginal sexual behavior to core sexual behavior. The intoxicating hugs, kisses and caresses arouse such strong excitement in the sexual physiological instincts that the reason can no longer resist. A survey found that 44.67% of women had multiple sexual intercourse within six months, of which 50.33% were happy with it and 80.33% believed it was a personal matter. According to my country's sexual morality standards, the most intimate form of sexual behavior between men and women during a relationship is only kissing, cuddling, and caressing. Sexual intercourse can only occur under the premise that the marriage relationship is protected by law. The "trendy" behavior of doing whatever you want is a sign of a lack of sense of responsibility.

2. Advocate for various sexual freedom concepts

In recent years, with the influx of Western cultural thoughts and the occasional spread of sexual culture in our country, the traditional sexual morality with deep cultural heritage has been impacted. Some young people blindly worship various Western concepts of sexual freedom, and have a strong desire to break through the so-called traditional sexual morality. Some young women said: "We are facing great waves from all directions, and even rational women will feel confused." The music box of morality has soothed the conflicting and painful souls and bodies of some young people today. Their sexual concepts have been equated with primitive instinctive needs.

Therefore, some young women think that "since I am mature, satisfying my desires is a physiological need."

Some said, "As long as I am happy in love, it's all that matters," others said, "Why worry about getting pregnant? There's nothing wrong with having sex," and "A woman is not a complete woman until she has had an abortion." In the survey, 32.67% of women believed that "chastity is not very important," and 19.7% did not care about it after having sex and said, "That's just how it is," and so on.

Once the concept changes, the behavior changes accordingly. When their love is still in the stage where they don't know how to steer the boat of life rationally, they are burned by desire and engage in sexual behavior that should not have happened too early. Some have sex with their boyfriends periodically. Although some have foreseen that the two of them will not eventually get married, that special relationship is still like two different people. Distorted sexual concepts lead to distorted sexual behaviors that are out of control, resulting in "irresponsible consequences."

3. Satisfy curiosity and exploration of sex

In today's civilized environment, sex has quickly torn off the veil of concealment. For some young women, talking about sex is no longer a taboo or they are ashamed to talk about it. Instead, they talk about sexual desire as easily and abnormally as talking about appetite. However, because many books and periodicals focus on the introduction of sexual organs and sexual life, there is a lack of sexual psychology and sexual morality education, coupled with the increase in sexual aesthetic shots in film and television, as well as the frequent sight of people hugging and kissing on the streets and in the streets, this cultural atmosphere has made the vague awareness and curiosity of sex in the young girls' generation more profound and realistic. They have evolved from their original relative ignorance of male sexual physiology, why two sexes feel sweet when they are alone together, and how sexual intercourse leads to pregnancy, to being no longer satisfied with what is introduced in books and periodicals and what they have seen on the screens of films and television, on the streets, in the entertainment industry, and under the moonlight. Instead, they want to try and explore it themselves. Even during a relationship, they sometimes take the initiative to curiously propose or do not refuse sexual requests from men. The survey shows that 64.3% of women have sex out of curiosity and impulse, and only regret it when they become pregnant and have to have an abortion.

4. Thank your boyfriend for his love and affection for you.

Although they also understand that female chastity is very important and should not be easily sacrificed, they can't hold their defenses under the constant stimulation of their boyfriends' admiration and love. Some of them are because their boyfriends are extra attentive to them and give them great help in study and life, or because their boyfriends have made great sacrifices to solve many problems for their families. I often feel uneasy, and a feeling of gratitude arises spontaneously. When a boyfriend makes a sexual request, the girls worry that refusing will hurt his feelings, so they regard satisfying his sexual demands as a way of expressing their gratitude for his kindness. This situation accounts for 18.3% of the survey respondents.

5. Dispel your boyfriend’s worries about you

Some women think that their boyfriends meet their own criteria for choosing a spouse and are the "handsome man" in their dreams. They fall in love with them at first sight and have the feeling of "once you have missed this opportunity, you will never have it again". They are proactive in the process of falling in love. However, for some men, the more active the woman is, the more he will overestimate himself, and even develop a sense of worry about the woman, become too cautious, and be noncommittal. In order to express their sincerity, some women hurriedly pledged themselves to men, while others, in order not to be rejected by men, adopted such immature, irrational and inferior methods of "binding men's hearts" and "locking love with sex".

6. Upgrade your romantic relationship

Many young women use "sex" as a measure of love, believing that only sex can maintain and develop love. Some people think that having sex before marriage is a procedural requirement of love and a necessary step. If it happens in advance, the relationship can be affirmed early, the love can be upgraded and deepened, and the cohesion of both parties can be strengthened. Under the arrangement of this sexual concept, they gave their whole selves too quickly.

7. Maintain an engagement

A survey in Beijing showed that 90.7% of young men and women who had premarital sex were in a relationship where they were engaged in marriage, but were unable to get married for various reasons, such as lack of housing, financial difficulties, working apart, or not reaching the legal minimum age for marriage. In order to maintain this marriage relationship, the two parties often have sexual intercourse.

8. Understand your boyfriend’s sexual function

Research points out that this kind of motivation is more common among older unmarried people. They realize how difficult it is to choose a spouse and hope to be happy after marriage, so they take a cautious attitude towards marriage. They are willing to have sex with their satisfied lovers before marriage to understand each other's sexual functions.

9. Resist environmental resistance

This is the reverse effect in the psychological development of love. Young men and women in love, when they have determined their relationship after some understanding, always hope to get support and approval from the people around them, especially their parents and relatives. However, if they are unexpectedly and rudely interfered with, disturbed by others, strongly opposed by parents, and blocked by relatives and friends, instead of ending their relationship, they will become more passionate and intimate, using the fait accompli of "the rice is cooked" to resist these obstacles and promote the success of their relationship.

10. In exchange for vanity

In today's society, with the continuous impact of the commodity economy, some young women have a strong vanity, and have developed a strong competitive mentality and pursuit of high consumption. Their "love" standard tends to be "rich men and beautiful women". Some people are willing to endure hardships in pursuit of sex and spend lavishly to get beautiful women. Therefore, some women, in order to satisfy their vanity, do not hesitate to exchange their spirit for money, and soon give up their female "first time". Others, under the temptation of money, their "love" keeps shifting, leading to "unclear" pregnancy. The above are 10 misunderstandings about the psychological motivations of women's premarital sexual behavior, which reflect that young women have great differences and one-sidedness in sexual cognition, sexual awareness, sexual concepts, and views on love, and should be taken seriously by relevant education and society.

Premarital sex allows both men and women to obtain a certain degree of satisfaction in terms of sexual desire and other motivations, but people do not know how to get lost in love, and sadness comes after excitement, and disaster arises from joy.