3 ways to maintain attraction between couples

Introduction: "Holding hands with you and growing old together" is the most desired goal for traditional couples, but considering the high divorce rate today, how many couples can really stay together and never leave each other? How can couples maintain attraction to each other? Mastering the following three methods can build the most harmonious and long-lasting marriage.

Method 1: Give your lover some space

The union of two sexes is a union of feelings and life, not a dissolution of individuality and character. Both parties are not each other's shadow, so don't force them to be inseparable. Otherwise, just as eating all the time will make people lose their appetite, sticking together all the time will also make people lose interest. In a relationship between a man and a woman, there are only some common points. Both parties can have their own friends and hobbies and have more topics to talk about.

Only when we are apart do we miss each other. Give each other a distance and a space to let them yearn and wait tenderly. Therefore, a short separation can increase the freshness between couples. As the saying goes, "A short separation is better than a new marriage." From a psychological point of view, this is because the artificially created distance makes the image of each other in each other's mind always new and evergreen. It forms a benign effect. In a sense, there is no freedom without distance, no attraction without distance, and the interval of time and space often increases the intensity of love.

A few people find it difficult to accept that their lovers have normal interactions with the opposite sex, and are always worried that they will be squeezed out one day, so they often do stupid things: when their lovers receive a call from the opposite sex or a friend of the opposite sex comes to their home, they either ask about others in a roundabout way or look at the guests from all sides; some people control the other party's activities by declaring discipline, including spying on letters, interfering with social activities, and even tracking and pursuing, leaving the other party with no free time and space, etc. The result of doing so will never win the other party's attraction, but on the contrary, the person involved often puts himself in a position of being ignored.

Think about it this way: if possession is so laborious, so tense, and so guarded, what kind of love is there?

How much love is there in a marriage that is controlled by someone? Love is first of all a conscious and voluntary emotion, a strong attraction to the other person, and a connection that cannot be pushed away or cut off. Since you can defeat all competitors and achieve success in love before marriage, why can't you have such a style after marriage, and can only rely on a marriage certificate or suppress the other person's spiritual life to prolong everything you have got? He calls you when he wants you, lets you go when it's troublesome, and takes advantage of you. Anyway, you are a confidant, not a lover.

Method 2: Tolerate for Yourself and for Those Who Please You

Love of beauty is human nature, regardless of gender. After marriage, couples should avoid letting their pre-marital emotions and aspirations be destroyed in the monotony of housework and daily living together. We should pay attention to our grooming, especially women after they get married. They must not regard dedication and sacrifice to the family as the only meaning and obligation of their life, and ignore the pursuit of a richer life.

Diving into the kitchen, playing the role of a housewife, becoming indifferent, or being unkempt, becoming old and dull. Even in middle age or even old age, due to physiological reasons between men and women, men's charm lasts longer than women's. At this time, more subjective efforts are needed to use deeper love and new understanding to seek common ground between the two parties and reshape their own style. No one can have a permanent red forehead, but "although the innate beauty may be lost, artificial beauty can fully compensate for it." Appropriate light makeup and clothing, coupled with dignified elegance, depth and generosity, still give people a radiant feeling. Although temperament is said to be innate, it is more dependent on acquired cultivation.

Method 3: Have more sense of humor

Only by being understanding can you promote mutual affection. Faced with the complicated social life, especially the trivial matters such as pots, pans, spoons in family life, sometimes we do need more courage to withstand difficulties and the ability to control life. Humor in the family can relieve psychological pressure, especially humorous language in the life of couples, which can often stir up emotional waves. Because humor is a symbol of perseverance, calmness, wisdom, and ability, and it is a reconciler of family conflicts.

The above three methods to maintain attraction between couples may seem simple and popular, but they actually reveal the secret of how couples get along with each other: understanding, tolerance and love. It is not easy to do this, and it is a lesson that requires couples to learn together.